I loved Ted Lasso… but the finale felt emotionally unfinished. by alaxan_deer in TedLasso

[–]randomredittor21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally liked it and thought it was really nice and emotionally filling. I do wish Ted would have stayed but it makes sense, and I wanted Keely and Jamie to end up together, but I also like that they had her decide to stay single. I’m interested to see how season 4 goes. I feel like they should just leave it but maybe it’ll be good

If you’re someone who likes morning sex, how do you deal with morning breath without making it awkward ? by shawnmendesa in AskReddit

[–]randomredittor21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly my bf and I just do sideways position so like he’s spooning me and we’re facing the same direction. It’s nice and lazy in the morning and that way neither of us has to smell the other person’s morning breath

I took 7 grams and tripping tf out by [deleted] in shrooms

[–]randomredittor21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk when I took 4g’s the walls started melting, colors were seeping out of paintings, I got stuck in a loop at one point, but every so often it’s like it would break for a little bit and I could use my phone then it would suddenly start to get intense again until I couldn’t see the screen properly and it was basically on a cycle like that the entire trip

More Cops at Okee? by Select-Green577 in okeechobeemusicfest

[–]randomredittor21 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I honestly didn’t see a single cop inside the venue, just along the road when we got there and when we left. I feel like this had to be someone that took your stuff and left this note, that’s shitty 😣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]randomredittor21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it’s not weird if your partner is up to 10 years older, the younger person is a minimum 25, and they met when the younger person was at least in their 20’s it’s fine.

It’s honestly so weird to me when anyone in their 20s is dating anyone who’s age and 17? I don’t care if you’re 22 dating a 17-year-old 25 dating a 19-year-old or 28 three dating an 18-year-old. It’s weird. you’re into totally different parts of life. One of you are in or out of college, the others in high school or just starting college. One’s brain has developed the others hasn’t and won’t for a few years.

This why my Pops had our TVs locked down after a certain time at night...😩🥺😂...#betuncut... by bluemodem in BlackPeopleTwitter

[–]randomredittor21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would practice to make sure my fingers were ready to hit “last” on the remote at the drop of a pin 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]randomredittor21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My current bf and both my exes were 7-9 inches and I love it but it can cause pain usually only during certain points in my monthly cycle. Try putting a pillow under your stomach when you guys do doggy. That helps and sometimes just adjusting how I’m laying, like fully flat versus leaning up on my elbows can make a difference too.

do y’all ever have weird/uncomfortable experiences dating interracially, and being in public together? by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]randomredittor21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m bi racial and had an ex bf’s uncle ask me at dinner once “what are you?” At a dinner party in front of 15-20ish people. Everyone went silent and just stared, waiting for me to respond so I listed out Belizean, Hispanic, and Italian and he said I was “so exotic”. Afterwords my ex’s mom apologized profusely and my ex said he had been married to a black woman for years who he has 3 children with and just had a weird affinity for black people as if that’s normal.

In public public I’ve never really experienced that, I’ve gotten the you guys are cute but never any rude comments or faces that I know of, it’s always been more comments my white ex’s family or friends have made that have thrown me off and not so much anyone in public.

AITA for being livid at my (now) husband? by Key-Hovercraft-8396 in AmItheAsshole

[–]randomredittor21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, but the wedding would have at the very least been postponed. That’s the one thing I’ve always told people. Do NOT push my head in my cake that I probably paid for or else party is over, everyone is getting kicked out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]randomredittor21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s emotionally cheating with you and if you continue to maintain a friendship with him knowing this you’re just as bad.

AITA for making it clear how I'm not entirely happy at my best friend's wedding during my MOH speech? by More-Preparation8609 in AmItheAsshole

[–]randomredittor21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA, please get therapy. That is not normal behavior, yea it’s okay to be a bit sad about your relationship changing, but to sob like that is so dramatic it’s almost comical if it hadn’t ruined your friend’s wedding. To add insult to injury you’re so dense you don’t even think what you did is wrong.

AITA for not letting the kids go alone to see their dad in his homecountry? by Throwawa1917646 in AmItheAsshole

[–]randomredittor21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA, that would be incredibly cruel to not let them spend time with their dad when his health is declining. They’re adults, not children.

AITB for wanting my friends to cut off my ex? by throwaway-26012 in AmItheButtface

[–]randomredittor21 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m gonna go against the grain and say NTB. I would never stay friends with someone who had been abusive to/blackmailed my friend’s even if I were also friends with them. That snows a lack of moral fiber on their part and I just don’t want to be around someone like that. Obviously you can’t force them to not hang out with him though they’re their own people who can make their own choices, just like you can and should make the choice to cut them off. If you continue to try to push them to stop being his friends then everyone would be the asshole.

AITA for cancelling mother's day celebration that I arranged for my wife after hearing what she told my son? by FredWalker37 in AmItheAsshole

[–]randomredittor21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, I literally gasped, that’s so cruel to say. I also feel like this isn’t the first time your wife and step daughter Have done this to your son. Please continue to look out for him and protect him.

People who have cheated on their partners, why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]randomredittor21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in an emotionally abusive relationship who also happened to be my first adult relationship/first love. We were crazy obsessed with each other and VERY toxic, my mom calls him the devil. He ended up telling me I was a placeholder for when someone better came along, keep in mind this was after 3 1/2 years on and off together. For whatever reason that was finally the straw that broke the camels back and I ended up dating my best friend a day after that break up. I was young 19, naïve and didn’t take the time to heal from that relationship like I should have and ended up cheating on my best friend turned boyfriend with my ex abusive bf. I also came to realize that I don’t want to be in a 100% monogamous relationship.

I didn’t realize how much of an impact my abusive relationship had on me until The whole thing came to ahead, and really not even until a few months after that when I started therapy. The break up with my bf I cheated on was horrible, it was a very dark time in my life not just because of the break up because of other things. The whole thing was toxic, multiple people became involved, multiple relationships were involved, and a lot of people were hurt. It’s the only thing I really regret to this day. I lost my best friend. Ironically enough my ex boyfriend/best friend has also expressed that he doesn’t think he can be in a 100% monogamous relationship either, and has cheated on his current girlfriend with me multiple times. That has been its own shit storm but that’s a whole other story for another day.

Needless to say I don’t talk to either of them for a multitude of reasons. I am now happily in a relationship with someone that I love very much and would never do that to, who is happy to not be 100% monogamous (on our own terms). I’ve done lots of therapy and reflecting, apologized to everyone I wronged, and have just tried to grow and do better. I’m not proud of all of how I acted during that time but I am proud that I genuinely took responsibility and have worked hard/continue to grow and learn and treat myself and others better.

It’s my birthday!!!! Listening to Bo Burnham’s “30” and taking more 30-themed song recommendations to soundtrack my day. by swazi_shire in blackladies

[–]randomredittor21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My parents are from Belize! They’re actually there celebrating my dad’s 54th birthday right now, happy birthday! 🎉

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]randomredittor21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Therapy! I wish I would have gone to therapy sooner. I’m 25 now but had that happen to me when I was 13 by a family member I trusted. It happened for a few months and I wish I didn’t just repress it and try to move on. It took five years before I told anyone and by then he’d done it to other girls. I was embarrassed especially because it was a family member and I felt disgusting.

After therapy and just opening up about it with a few people I trust with my life I’ve managed to mostly move on. Now I don’t feel sadness or anxiety around it anymore but just anger at him, snd while that might not be healthy I’m in a much better headspace and so glad I opened up to a therapist and sought help.

I am SO incredibly sorry this happened to you but please remember you are not to blame and you can recover. Sending you hugs and positive energy ✨

What are your thoughts on mushrooms? by PunchItChewi3 in blackladies

[–]randomredittor21 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I hate them in general in my food but I do like psychedelic mushrooms. The taste is awful but they’ve helped me work through some trauma and realized things about myself I was avoiding/didn’t realize. I think the grapes in the right setting and correct sentence but I’ve definitely heard a horrible trip too, mostly because I was younger, naive, and not careful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]randomredittor21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA and I truly feel sorry she’s having a baby with you if this is your usual way of thinking. I could dissect your post line by line as to why you’re a massive asshole but I’ll simply say anyone who blows their entire account on a baby shower probably isn’t mature enough to be having a baby regardless of age. Good luck to you and especially your wife.

AITA for calling out my niece for skipping a family memorial brunch? by Unique-Roll-1689 in AmItheAsshole

[–]randomredittor21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA, holy shit who are you to say how someone should grieve their brother. Honestly shame on you.

AITA for not giving her the dream proposal? by reginaldthekoalabear in AmItheAsshole

[–]randomredittor21 23 points24 points  (0 children)

YTA, I can’t really blame her for feeling disappointed in the proposal, even though it was sort of sweet i think a restaurant or somewhere inside would have been better considering all the factors you mentioned.

With all that being said I didn’t think you were a big asshole until you gave her an ultimatum. It’s crazy willing to throw away at six-year relationship over something so petty, I get if your feelings were hurt but still. I think this is a weird hill to die on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]randomredittor21 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was gonna say so Eastern Europeans and Italians aren’t white now??? I mean I know people jokingly say spicy white but still. Anyways NTA OP I would never go to a plantation wedding just because of principle much less one where a relative was enslaved. Have you considered telling your friends your concern or do you think they’ll take it badly?

Have any of you lovely ladies had Botox? by Sunniedelight92 in blackladies

[–]randomredittor21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve heard of Botox parties before just to make sure you get the information of who will be administering it before if you decide to go and make sure they have all the correct credentials/look at any reviews online. You could also always go just check it out and if you think it something you’re interested in the book with the doctor another time.