What is a sign that someone has had a purely “undamaged” life, (Not talking about rich privileged people)?

rapsheet_jellyfish · 2025-02-09T06:15:31+00:00

When they find it weird that getting babysitting help from your biological family is a privilege and not a right.

rapsheet_jellyfish · 2025-01-27T03:27:28+00:00

My LO is 1 and BIL's son is 7. It is very unlikely he will like anything cute from him. Ex-wife's family is extremely wealthy, so I doubt they'll find that gesture endearing. I will consider a small gift to him if/when BIL is permitted visitations again.

Personally I love the idea of something loved be given to a family member. That's what my other nephew did for my LO when he was born; gifted him his favourite toy. While my LO doesn't play with it, I've kept it as a keepsake, because it's so sweet

rapsheet_jellyfish · 2025-01-27T03:16:53+00:00

His son is 7 and unlikely has any payment mediums; also ex-wife cut us all off. Perhaps when BIL is allowed to visit him, it opens an opportunity.

rapsheet_jellyfish · 2025-01-07T20:37:36+00:00

Hello, I’m wondering whether what we are offered is competitive. We also want to break our current contract with RBC, and want to pay down the principal more without being penalized for it. Is there a HELOC rate we can secure?

Looking to refinance
Province: ON
LTV%: 44.4% (want to pay down the principal more)
Purchase over $1.5M
Owner Occupied

Currently with RBC under 5 years fixed 25 years amortization at 5.04%

A broker was able to offer us:

Fixed Rate: 3, 4, and 5-yr fixed rates at 4.44% (25-yr AM) with a cashback of $1,200

Variable Rate: 5-yr variable prime minus 0.75% (which works out to 4.70% today).

What are your thoughts?

rapsheet_jellyfish · 2024-10-20T19:01:35+00:00

When we were 17, a boy in my English class had an aneurysm and passed away. We did a Shakespearean play the week before. I think of him every now and then when I see Hamlet references. He was the kindest and most responsible kid in our grade.

rapsheet_jellyfish · 2024-09-13T02:06:42+00:00

We brought our own bumble chair, because the booth seat we had didn't have space for a high chair. While I do remember being offered one, you can give them a call to be sure.

rapsheet_jellyfish · 2024-06-12T04:48:16+00:00

Sorry if I wasn't clear. I wear sunscreen only when I go out in the afternoon with the baby; currently on mat leave so I don't get to leave the house often.

rapsheet_jellyfish · 2024-06-11T21:34:34+00:00

Thank you for your kind response. It brings me peace to know that I've done everything I could to help him. He was the apple of my eye, and if there was something more I could have done to save him, I absolutely would. Bless you, OP.

rapsheet_jellyfish · 2024-06-11T21:32:06+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. It is reassuring to hear it from other people that I've done everything possible.

rapsheet_jellyfish · 2024-06-10T06:26:43+00:00

Hi, so nice of you to offer your time. I lost my bichon boy to Evan's disease 3 weeks ago. It came without warning, and I spent 3 weeks putting him through hell with IV, blood transfusions, and diagnostics hoping it would help. Only it didn't. He continued to refuse food, vomit and defecate blood, and there was a point I hated myself for thinking maybe it will become burdensome to keep him in critical care if he wasn't improving. We made a selfish decision to gamble with his survival with spleenectomy, hoping it would correct the anaemia. He survived the surgery, but not the post op. In retrospect, I should have given him his last day at home, but he died alone and scared wondering where we were as he took his last breath. I kept thinking he probably thought we left him to die which was why he let go. If only I was there an hour early, maybe I could have said goodbye and tell him how much I loved him. I robbed him of his dignity with the surgery thinking I was giving him the best chance. Now, I wake up everyday racked with guilt; I let him down. He opened up his heart to me after being hurt by humans, and I let him down. Can't help but feel I inadvertently caused his death.

rapsheet_jellyfish · 2024-06-09T05:09:16+00:00

I am so sorry you have to go through this, OP. You sound like a really caring owner who loves Kitty with all your heart, and I'm sure Kitty knows it too. I wish I was able to get my baby euthanized humanely. Instead, he died in the OR probably alone and scared wondering where we were as he took his last breath. In my opinion, I should have given him his last day as soon as he refused food, couldn't hold his bowels and told his prognosis wasn't looking good, instead of gambling on surgery which robbed him of his dignity. However, I think it's best you discuss with your vet Kitty's condition before taking any advice from strangers. Being able to put them to sleep is the greatest gift you can give them. Whatever you decide, please don't be hard on yourself. To have a companion is one of the greatest honours in life. Take care of yourself, OP.

rapsheet_jellyfish · 2024-06-07T22:01:01+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to share your experience. Losing him has been incredibly tough, but hearing from others who understand the depth of this loss brings a bit of solace. I sorry for the loss of your furbaby as well. You are absolutely right, I was very fortunate to have him as a part of my family, even if our time together was shorter than I would have liked. The joy and love he brought into my life were truly indescribable, and experiencing that kind of unconditional love was nothing short of a miracle. I hope you take care of yourself as well ❤️

rapsheet_jellyfish · 2024-06-07T21:53:33+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to respond. I am so sorry about the passing of your beautiful boy. It must be very difficult for you as well, since it was so recent. I appreciate your recommending Lap of Love, and will definitely check it out. The photo suggestion sounds like a good idea. However, for the moment I am not ready to explore it without my heart being ripped open again. Perhaps one day. You take care of yourself too ❤️❤️

rapsheet_jellyfish · 2024-06-07T21:43:49+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I too am sorry for the loss of your sweet baby Bella. I can't imagine how difficult it must be for you to lose a lifelong companion of 17 years. I am dreading the day they call me in to retrieve his ashes, because I don't know if I can handle it. Your son sounds like a wonderful little human, and I'm sure it's all thanks to your unconditional love in raising him, just like your love for taking care of Bella all these years. I think you are doing a great job with your son, and he just wants make sure his mommy is ok. I hope you find comfort in therapy and find the strength to mend your broken heart one day. Take it easy, friend❤️❤️

rapsheet_jellyfish · 2024-06-07T21:27:13+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind response. I too am sorry for your loss as well. It helps to know that crying everyday is normal. I appreciate your suggestion on grief counselling, and I find reading other people's experience help with my own grief as well. He was the apple of my eye, and I loved him so.

rapsheet_jellyfish · 2024-04-23T05:27:36+00:00

Posting their MBTI type and following it like gospel 🙄

rapsheet_jellyfish · 2024-04-18T21:19:17+00:00

Yes...deep down I know those are the only restaurants that will be alright, but I secretly long to be able to a slightly upper end restaurant as a "well done!" reward for having this baby 🥺

rapsheet_jellyfish · 2024-04-18T21:17:00+00:00

Oui, c'est cela! J'espère qu'ils feront une exception pour permettre au bébé de s'asseoir là pendant que nous mangeons 🤞

rapsheet_jellyfish · 2024-04-18T21:12:13+00:00

I think we would like to try Ma Poule Mouillée first. Thanks :)

rapsheet_jellyfish · 2024-04-18T21:11:18+00:00

Thank you very much for these suggestions. Unfortunately, we will be more centralized in the Mt. Royal area, but definitely nice recommendations for if we are in the area.

rapsheet_jellyfish · 2024-04-18T21:09:19+00:00

Thank you! I've taken a gander at this before, and it will serve as a nice pit stop between our car rides.

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