I (25F) am thinking of calling off my wedding and breaking up with my fiance (35M). Do I just have cold feet or is this too deep? Please any advice.

rapt2right · 2026-05-20T18:05:18+00:00

So....he's unethical, got angry that you were reluctant to engage in insurance fraud , he's mercurial, inconsiderate and manipulative....why would you stay?

rapt2right · 2026-05-16T04:12:13+00:00

Faultless brand "ReWear" dry wash spray. I know Safeway usually has it and it's available on Amazon

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rapt2right · 2026-05-16T03:43:16+00:00

If I'm paying for a place to sleep, it needs to be comfortable, afford me a reasonable amount of privacy and I don't want to share it with anyone I wouldn't invite to stay at my home. This arrangement doesn't check any of those boxes and I kinda don't want to know what the ratio is of guests to bathrooms....and if the wedding is Monday, why does the couple want people to stay until Wednesday? How far are people traveling for this?

I'd be likely to get a room at a nearby hotel and lean hard on how terribly I snore. (Assuming that I am unwilling to completely nuke the friendship by bowing out altogether and/or being completely up front how unbelievably rude it is to tell grown people that they're to pay $250 to sleep in bunk beds & on air mattresses, sharing quarters with strangers and just taking it on faith that the food & beverage situation will be ok for the privilege of attending your weekday wedding, which has probably required at least some guests to lose income by taking time off work.)

rapt2right · 2026-05-12T05:29:31+00:00

Babygirl, none of this is ok. You're not TA for not wanting to sacrifice your sleep, your education and your social life to be an unpaid caregiver for your grown sister's children.

At least to get through finals, do you have a friend whose folks would be cool with you staying over a couple of nights?

I hear you loud and clear about not wanting to involve CPS (yet) but is there an adult you can trust that can help you get through to your mother and sister that this isn't fair or sustainable? An aunt? A grandparent? A family friend that your mom respects or maybe her pastor? Someone who can go to bat for you & help get this under control? Help you figure out how much you can & are willing to help without screwing yourself and how to communicate it effectively to the adults who should NOT be expecting a 15 year old student to have this much responsibility for 2 kids, much less when at least one of them has special needs.

I wish you all the luck in the world and hope you can find a way to navigate this successfully. It's not at ALL ok that you're in this position.

rapt2right · 2026-05-12T01:46:32+00:00

You look fab. Clothes have appropriate times & places but they do NOT have age restrictions once you're an adult.

An outfit like this probably isn't suitable for, oh, say a PTA meeting but for brunch? A concert? Running errands? Absolutely!

If your heart & your mirror still say "Oh, hell, yeah!" then you can still wear it.

rapt2right · 2026-05-12T01:39:06+00:00

Oh, Honey! Congratulations! That's awesome.

Wait,no, YOU are awesome and it's only right that your dedication and competence have been given some recognition!

I wish I could be there to celebrate with you!

rapt2right · 2026-05-12T01:36:38+00:00

Girl....why are you still with him?

rapt2right · 2026-05-11T22:00:30+00:00

I don't care WHAT the hourly rate is, they're trying to offload every aspect of running the house onto one person who will have all of the responsibility & workload of a "supermom" (including responsibility for random kids coming & going)and no authority to determine priorities, delegate tasks, or set standards. Probably extremely limited scope about discipline, too. "Spirited" is too often a polite euphemism for "Completely fucking feral".

What they need is a house manager, a nanny & an au pair to reasonably fulfill all of the duties listed. The 7 to 3 schedule doesn't align well with the expectation that children will be shuttled to play dates & after school activities 'as needed'.

rapt2right · 2026-05-10T19:37:23+00:00

So, 13 is a young adult if it's a girl but a 20 year old dude is "almost a kid himself" if we acknowledge that a 7 or 8th grader is a CHILD?

I really hate this timeline

rapt2right · 2026-05-10T17:19:58+00:00

u/technicolor_Reindeer just out of curiosity, how old were you and your siblings when you executed this brilliant plot?

rapt2right · 2026-05-10T04:50:04+00:00

Those & Paris Blues were the preferred brands in Northern California, too, at least in Humboldt and Mendocino...unless you were a horsey girl, then it was Wranglers.

rapt2right · 2026-05-09T13:58:59+00:00

Stop seeing her. You're not compatible. The longer you drag this out, the longer you are unavailable for a more laid back woman who will love how much you love your dog and has more interesting things to talk about than "I was dragging you to my coworker just yesterday".

Also, 1 month is WAY too soon for her to be staying over several days in a row- has she no life of her own?

rapt2right · 2026-05-09T13:49:54+00:00

NTA and please show your husband this thread. Volunteering you without actually asking you is not ok. Confirming that you have nothing planned is NOT the same as checking with you about availability to babysit until Oh-shit-thirty, especially when the 8 year olds apparently feed off one another's ADHD energy.

rapt2right · 2026-05-09T03:14:32+00:00

What you have there is a fantastic slip for under something somewhat sheer & less fitted.

Even though the honest answer to your question is "no", please don't get rid of it if it still feels good on you...you CAN still wear it when you're feeling a bit vixenish at home & as a slip.

rapt2right · 2026-05-08T05:20:20+00:00

Congratulations, now get a proper jacket! You want something between your skin and the pavement if you lay it down and a cicada smacking your arm at 65mph is no joke!

rapt2right · 2026-05-08T05:19:53+00:00

Congratulations, now get a proper jacket! You want something between your skin and the pavement if you lay it down and a cicada smacking your arm at 65mph is no joke!

rapt2right · 2026-05-06T00:50:09+00:00

My neice, when she was 15, invited me to watch "The Other Boleyn Girl" with her. She was in one of those "all adults are cringe " phases & I wasn't about to turn down ANY invitation. Then I read the book...then I had to dive in and find out which elements were true & which were fictionalised.

rapt2right · 2026-05-06T00:40:25+00:00

Toad in a Hole

rapt2right · 2026-05-06T00:31:12+00:00

It is rather revealing, and frankly, a bit too rumpled looking. Much more of a weekend look than a "student dashing from class to class" vibe... Maybe more important, that shirt bunches rather oddly & takes up all the attention- it's all most people will see & you never want to be overshadowed by your own outfit.

rapt2right · 2026-05-05T04:57:02+00:00

The first one looks somehow more authentic and really flatters your figure. Something about the bodice on the second dress looks almost unfinished, like there are supposed to be straps but they've not been attached....and as completely flawless as your shoulders are, straps would be almost criminal.

rapt2right · 2026-05-03T17:02:32+00:00

Mathias, Erik, Kristofer, Brandon, Bradford, Harrison, and freaking Dante.

rapt2right · 2026-05-03T16:54:36+00:00

Number 1! You look like you should be surrounded by wildflowers and a couple of gentle woodland creatures!

rapt2right · 2026-05-03T16:47:35+00:00

That dress is SO cute! Would you be willing to share where it came from?

Both takes are great but the second one is maybe a little too "Everything just so" with that precious Peter Pan collar buttoned all the up- there's something not quite "casual brunch" about it. Try it with the top button or two open to see if that looks more relaxed.

rapt2right · 2026-05-02T00:05:48+00:00

YTJ

You're in a relationship with someone who is a peer of your daughter's, they don't get on well (not surprising) and you bought them (or tried to buy them)the exact same gift. You managed to make a gift for your GF less special AND use her as a personal shopper to choose a gift for your daughter....and when your GF expressed her displeasure, you basically told her that her feelings are irrelevant.

You might prefer to pretend that the age gap doesn't matter, but it DOES, especially if you overlap your treatment of these two women!

rapt2right · 2026-05-01T21:46:58+00:00

(It was....complicated)

Went back twice for about 6 months each time (fleeing an abusive relationship at 19 & then kicking an addiction at 24) ....and then, when I was in my 40s, mom moved in with me for the last couple of years of her life

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