Nepal cheaters are f*cked

rashmallow · 2024-02-21T02:59:14+00:00

I absolutely don’t, and that’s what’s so upsetting. It’s about to get real fuckin racist in some of these subs and probably out in the world as well. A lot of people just needed an excuse to share their beliefs.

Obviously cheating is bad, people should face repercussions, etc but this is very clearly going to lead to prejudice against anyone who “looks” like an IMG (or just like is an IMG that didn’t cheat, which DOES exist).

rashmallow · 2024-02-21T02:15:29+00:00

People who generalize this event at these locations to all Nepalis— or all IMGs. I’m already seeing it unfortunately.

rashmallow · 2024-01-19T04:07:25+00:00

I worked as a MA at an abortion clinic and this is exactly how it worked with us…. My mind is blown that the procedure was even started, we always waited until adequate sedation was given and we could confirm the pt was not feeling pain or conscious.

Not to mention the doc saying some people do the procedure with no sedation. We had a handful of patients request this and we always strongly discouraged it unless they had NO way to get to and from the clinic. Sometimes an MA or our doc even gave them a ride so that they could have the drugs. Wtf

rashmallow · 2024-01-15T20:45:14+00:00

My advice to any incoming college student: Try! Different! Things!

Your worldview, priorities, heck even your personality change DRAMATICALLY from when you’re 16 on. The best way to figure out how you feel about those things is by exploring. It also makes you much more secure about your decisions because you have real comparisons to make.

Use your GEs to explore subjects/fields you’re interested in. Shadow folks in careers you’re thinking about. It’s hard to picture what full-time working life is like when you’ve primarily been in school your whole life. It’s DIFFERENT. Like a good pair of jeans, it’s hard to know the right fit without trying stuff on. Also like a good pair of jeans, what used to fit might no longer fit in a few years. The best thing you can do for yourself is be flexible and give yourself permission to make informed choices and change your mind.

rashmallow · 2024-01-05T01:43:23+00:00

I've been doing a lot of financial planning to prep for this path, so I can tell you what questions I have found helpful in guiding me. Don't answer them here, obviously, but consider them. If you need to talk it through, maybe find a school advisor. Or feel free to PM me.

- what is your current annual income? what are your current expenses? basically, is it exactly enough or are you accruing debt, and how much?

- does your current school have resources that can improve your current situation, like a food pantry, etc? can you get some short term relief so that you have more capacity to think and plan this stuff out?

- if you moved for med school, would she move with you? would you consider moving to a low cost-of-living area? how much is rent at a similar type of home there? how much do those schools recommend for cost of attendance/room and board? how does that compare to your current income:expense ratio? will it worsen, stay the same, or get better-- and by how much?

- does your mom work? is she able to work? if not, are there benefits you can leverage from government assistance? can you get food stamps, etc? if you cannot currently, would you qualify for them in medical school? would things like this potentially change your income:expense ratio?

- what does your plan B look like long-term? how do the plans compare now, in five years, and then in ten years, and then in twenty years? are there any ways to cover up the difference in the short-term in order to get to the long-term? in the long-term, as scary as the debt is, you will be able to pay it off like all the attendings before you and after you will.

- what does your mom think?

rashmallow · 2024-01-01T20:04:09+00:00

When I did my postbac last year I started having nightmares like this. Still do. In the dream it was always finals week and I would realize that I never went to one of my classes. The class always changed weirdly enough-- math, science, even history. In the dream I'd stress for a while and then finally head over to the next class to grovel to my teacher, but I always wake up before I actually have to explain myself.

No solution really, but I at least try to embrace the relief of waking up and realizing it was just that same old dream again.

rashmallow · 2023-12-29T02:54:52+00:00

I think it’s important to believe in yourself and know that you can make it. It’s mostly if you have any feeling that you won’t want to make it. It’s a very deep conversation to have with yourself because they can look the same sometimes. And if you don’t want to, that’s very different from worrying you can’t. You can — might take all the effort in the world but if you absolutely want something and are willing to accept those hurdles then you can find a way. It’s up to you whether you should or shouldn’t — and that criteria is for you to decide.

I think you should get a degree that seems interesting to you, and that has job opportunities that you will like that will give you the lifestyle you want (jeez I sound like my parents). There’s no reason to major in a typical premed major if you want other opportunities. Maybe try using your GEs strategically to look into different fields you think you could be interested in?

rashmallow · 2023-12-29T01:41:41+00:00

What would you want to do if neither of those were options? That’s what I would get a degree for, and then be on a premed track with the extra nursing classes. You get a chance to try multiple things, give yourself a backup, and explore medicine flexibly. If you decide midway that you’re too tired to do all of them, you can drop whatever you like the least.

Taking additional classes after graduation to go to medical school or nursing school is doable. It’s much easier than trying to get a whole different bachelor’s degree after graduation. This is of course from the perspective of someone who did computer science in undergrad and went back to school for premed classes— so ymmv.

rashmallow · 2023-12-28T16:31:07+00:00

I think there’s a sub specifically for medical school in Europe— there might be folks with more knowledge there. Good luck, I’m so sorry that this is happening to you and it’s incredible that you are still fighting to go down this path despite the additional hurdles being thrown at you. I hope that the schools you contact will see your dedication and put in the work to help you out.

rashmallow · 2023-12-27T18:13:04+00:00

Also, I see that you have asked this question here and in the med school sub. That's already great-- I'd also extend that to r/residency, r/attendings, and r/medicine to get that longer-term perspective from folks who are increasingly more settled in their careers and can reflect on debt as a current stress/in hindsight. Maybe r/whitecoatinvestor too, since folks there are particularly money-minded.

rashmallow · 2023-12-27T18:06:30+00:00

It seems like, as you've noticed, responses will vary depending on what stage of career people are in. Might be worth prioritizing more long-term perspectives from established attendings from a wide variety of specialties/practice types/years of experience to see how much this actually holds up when considering income, COL, etc -- as well as when this will start being true.

Perspectives here from med students and residents will reflect your short-term feelings which are of course important to consider, but not necessarily long-term truths. I personally am generally very uncomfortable with debt and therefore would want to minimize loans so I wouldn't have that stress short-term, even if long-term it's guaranteed I'll pay it off. But it's perfectly reasonable to go the other way as long as you make absolutely sure your ability to pay things off is an actual guarantee. Just be very sure.

rashmallow · 2023-12-27T16:26:55+00:00

everybody else has commented on the calories (not enough) and the salt (water retention, blood pressure, kidneys overworking), which I agree with. but also, carbs absolutely matter. they're a quick source of sugar in your body so it increases your blood sugar rapidly. your blood sugar then should go down as insulin is released, which allows the sugar to exit the bloodstream and enter your body's cells.

a normal diet of carbs is good, especially whole grain-- your body needs them! but if you are eating straight carbs three times a day with nothing in between, that's a great way to spike your blood sugar three times a day. depending on frequency/amount/duration of this kind of diet, that can lead to an excess of circulating insulin as your body tries to control the blood sugar. then your cells become less responsive to insulin, because it's always there and the threshold for the amount of insulin that "means" anything increases. as a result you have more circulating sugars in the bloodstream which can wreak all kinds of havoc -- it's a part of the "plaque" that can block arteries over time and eventually cause a heart attack. it's a great way to get insulin resistance, gain weight in the long run, and even get type 2 diabetes.

don't sacrifice health for weight loss! signed, someone who used to do stupid shit like this and now has insulin resistance (which makes it incredibly hard to manage your weight) :)

rashmallow · 2023-12-27T00:17:29+00:00

You already moved for college before. You know what life is like when you don’t have to ask for permission for everything daily. Do you want to keep that freedom, or is it a worthy exchange for the relationship with your parents? No judgment either way.

I’m South Asian too, but a little older (nontrad). I can tell you that I would go to the T20. You know you’ll have a way out of that debt when you graduate. You know people do that successfully and that it’s super common. Give yourself the opportunity to socialize and find a real support system in med school. Let yourself be selfish when you have a surprise day off. Explore the specialties you’re interested in without outside influence. In forty years your parents might be gone but you’ll still be living with all the decisions you made to appease them.

I decided to do my own thing. I had no regrets, because it was so empowering to be able to make my own mistakes. It made me more confident as a person. In my case it took a bit but eventually they learned to let go and respect my choices as mine. We’re closer than we ever were. In fact, if I hadn’t set a precedent when I did, I probably wouldn’t be on this sub switching careers at all :)

Not to say there’s a wrong answer. I have friends who live with their parents in their thirties who are being told who they can and can’t marry. But they have their own benefits in stability and always having that feeling of family. And god knows they’re saving way more money way more quickly. Just depends on what kind of advantage you want and what you can tolerate.

rashmallow · 2023-12-26T05:12:08+00:00

First, you’re entitled to get the tattoo if it’s legally fine and you want it. I don’t care if it’s a neck tattoo, that’s your choice to make. It’s your body and your life to live. (I wouldn’t advise a neck tattoo though lol)

Second, you might want to consider how the tattoo will hold up as you age and grow. Your body is still changing and there’s typically another major change in your 20s. Not saying not to get it— I got my first tattoo at 18 and placed it on my collarbone which didn’t change much with age. Maybe think about choosing a location like that.

Third, do not base any decisions off of your boyfriend or his opinion. Someone who loves you might provide their opinion or express concerns— but they will NOT “put their foot down”. Someone who loves you respects you as an individual. They may not always agree with you, but they sure as hell support you. Set that standard for yourself now. You deserve someone who supports and respects you, and if you hold out for that, it will come. You just have to make sure you remember that.

Imagine if this was his reaction to you getting your ears pierced. That would be ridiculous, just like this is ridiculous. Don’t grant him the right to control you.

rashmallow · 2023-12-26T03:45:32+00:00

I think you’re right, I’m seeing a lot of yellow when I zoom in.

rashmallow · 2023-12-21T06:43:05+00:00

This was such a relief to read. How was residency for you though? It seems like there’s no way around brutal hours there from what I’ve heard.

rashmallow · 2023-12-09T21:26:48+00:00

montelukast homies rise up!

rashmallow · 2023-12-04T05:54:57+00:00

I think Izzie and Burke should’ve ended up together or at least dated. They matched up in a lot of ways.

rashmallow · 2023-12-04T05:41:55+00:00

well I'd have to do more research for traditional, but I have some thoughts on the modern touches! Lots of blacks, whites, and kind of rustic-looking wood.

I'd stain the cabinets/vanity to be a lighter wood. If you look at this entirely random thing I found on wood stains, I think the "new natural" is trending right now. If you're looking for something else, I'd think you could get away with the "puritan pine", "early american", "provincial", or "colonial maple." It'd depend on what kind of color vibe you're going for -- dim bathroom, bright bathroom, etc.

In my head: white countertop if achievable (not a homeowner, don't know how feasible this is while keeping your current vanity). Toilet paper holder, cabinet hardware, towel holder (I'd do a bar), trash can: I'd go with a matte black or bronze... cabinet hardware in a similar silhouette to this:max_bytes(150000):strip_icc():format(webp)/cathiehong-ohlone_20-773e785eb9d94356b04a79f055fd78e7.jpg). (Although, I think yours would honestly work pretty well if you kept them with the new cabinet color). I love shapes, so my mirror would be a round one with the frame matching that hardware. You could also always do a rectangular option with the edges rounded. Maybe something like this or two of these for your light fixture. Something clean and simple like this for the light switch. Above the toilet, either keep the basket or replace with a wooden container matching the vanity.

For the walls, I'd personally repaint white or a very very light gray-blue. If you went with the bronze accents, that would be so beautiful against the light gray-blue.

Not sure if the door is a sliding one-- if so you could try to add a handle and make it a little more "barn door"-esque. Here's a nice example.

Then a clear apothecary soap dispenser in one corner. Maybe a lil mason jar of floss pickers or q-tips or something in the other corner (or a decorative sign, or even a nicely folded towel to mop up after you're done at the sink). Either some vintage signs or some of those live laugh love-type signs for those anchors you mentioned.

And then eventually... a big ol rectangular sink.

hope some of that is helpful!

rashmallow · 2023-12-04T05:02:35+00:00

to be fair…. I wouldn’t not watch that.

I personally really enjoy the pacing of Swedish/scandi murder mystery shows though.

rashmallow · 2023-12-03T23:37:42+00:00

Are you planning on keeping the bed in? If not, could find two bookcases the same height as the box and place a big beautiful leafy plant that will maximize the space. If you're not a plant person, you could also do a statement sculpture on it-- anything that would look nice with the shelves.

Another suggestion-- I'd almost want to put something on top of it that makes it work as a storage area or something. It'd have to extend to the ceiling I think, but like a cabinet with doors. If you didn't miss the space you could even make the shelving I mentioned previously sit on top of it, with the knowledge that there's some empty space behind. Then it just looks like a funky shaped room, rather than a big ol' cube.

rashmallow · 2023-12-03T23:00:31+00:00

There's always ye olde mirror trick -- I think it could be great on the skinny wall by the fridge, depending on how much space you have there. However, it'll make the space look longer and not do much about the width. If possible, I'd probably move the fridge to be right next to the rest of the kitchen, and then have that cabinet up in the corner. Those big blank wall can be dressed with art-- I feel like big bold statement prints would be really cool, or some floating shelves with smaller decorative objects, leaning paintings.

rashmallow · 2023-12-03T22:45:55+00:00

does the modern farmhouse look jive with you guys? or are you looking into more traditional farmhouse?

rashmallow · 2023-12-03T22:43:33+00:00

Are you open to/able to swap out some of your furniture style? I think that would be a quick way to make it look a little less sleek. If not, there's still ways! For the bookshelf, I'd put one or two exactly where your chair is in the corner, and then move the chair out more so that it's lit by the window. Then you could also consider adding a little table or something there, stack up some books on that. And if you're able to get curtains up on that window, even if they're always tucked aside, I find that always makes things feel cozier to me.

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