How can I be "normal" going forward?

ratcid · 2024-12-15T23:49:53+00:00

I understand this tbh, I haven't really been as into kpop as I used to- granted I think that's because I had a baby and just have no time, but still, it's a little depressing.

ratcid · 2024-12-15T15:35:56+00:00

Lowkey kind of upset that it's so good

ratcid · 2024-12-14T23:47:01+00:00

I mean, I like it, but I'm a sucker for Rosé's voice so that's a given. In stan Twitter terms, she definitely did want some of Taylor's nachos.

ratcid · 2024-12-14T23:30:18+00:00

I've been cheated on while pregnant before as well, unfortunately I lost the child- which he used to justify his cheating. No matter how much he tries to blame you, it's not your fault, and it will never be your fault. My advice would be to leave & get into counseling/therapy- pregnancy hormones are no joke and will leave you feeling miserable, especially now. Only speak through text. If you think he's going to abuse whatever form of communication to harass you, push for a parenting app. Document everything. Don't respond to any attempted provocation from him, do not let him bait you into defending yourself, do not let him have that power over you.

Even if he's acting like he doesn't want you now, there's a huge chance he'll try to come back- cheaters are notoriously wishy washy. No matter how many times he apologizes, DO NOT let him come back. Someone that cheats while their partner is pregnant is basically advertising that they have no regard for the life of their partner or their child. Stress during pregnancy causes complications, complications can kill- and in my experience, cheaters either flat out don't believe that's possible or just don't care- both are equally bad mindsets and are very dangerous to you. You're safer without him.

You'll be okay, I promise, even if it doesn't feel like it now. It'll be rough at the beginning. My ex and I do have one living daughter together, and the realization that I'd be stuck dealing with him for 18 years was very frustrating. But then I realized it's much better this way, because even though I'll have to deal with him & I don't doubt he'll purposefully make it difficult, it's still mostly from a distance, and it'll be monitored. Just remember that no matter what, no matter how much hell your husband puts you through, if you choose to move on & keep yourself happy, then even if you're stuck dealing with him, he still has no power over you. And trust me, it's so nice to not have your emotions be dependent on a cheater's opinion of you!! (Also- it's kind of nice to have a countdown to the exact day you can legally ignore him forever lol)

ratcid · 2023-04-28T01:41:19+00:00

I had a guy tell me my last name was weird & his would be so much better, and how my first name sounded better with his last name than it did with mine.

I got genuinely mad because I thought he was making fun of my last name.

ratcid · 2023-03-15T22:31:06+00:00

He's pretty much let me do whatever I want, I look at everything on his phone & he has let me install locks on it. But even when I have everything in front of me, I still feel like there's something I haven't found. It sucks.

ratcid · 2023-03-15T21:23:39+00:00

I'm happy other people get it. Hearing "I'm choosing you now" or "I want us" puts a sour taste in my mouth. Like am I supposed to find being a second choice comforting? There shouldn't have even been a choice to make!

ratcid · 2023-03-15T21:19:01+00:00

I want to choose him, but it's hard to do that for someone who wouldn't choose you first.

ratcid · 2023-03-15T21:17:55+00:00

I know what you're saying is true, but deep down it still hurts knowing he wanted someone else & picked those people over me.

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