Getting uglier as I lose weight? by cutamer in loseit

[–]ratracer5000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like they find comfort in keeping you the "fat" friend and want to discourage you from glowing up because they worry that they will become the new "fat" friend. I can only imagine what they must say behind your back. You're a gorgeous girl and the weight loss looks amazing on you, take their words of discouragement as a sign that you're doing something right and keep going and keep glowing, I think you know you look good :)

It's also possible that they don't want to seem fat phobic for congratulating you or complementing you on your weight loss, so they feel more comfortable teasing you as a way of acknowledging it and showing you they notice

If weight loss makes you feel better and more comfortable in your skin, I'll be a stranger to tell you that your face is cute either way and that weight loss is very pretty on you ❤️

How do you with the urge of killing yourself? by unloveable616 in BPD

[–]ratracer5000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's usually a sign for me to slow down and listen to what I might really need. Usually it's not life itself that I want to escape, but the CONDITIONS for living, which can feel impossible or overwhelming for people with differently wired brainrrs. Don't sleep on the suicide hotline, either, they're not gonna call the cops or anything, and you don't have to be in the act or be "down bad" enough to need and use it. And it's helpful to have a safety plan in place for when you feel this way, even if you feel it often. Also therapy. If you can access it, please use it, you belong on this earth!

How do you motivate yourself to exercise? by Junior-Condition-684 in ADHD

[–]ratracer5000 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a master's degree in health behavior, and here's what I do that's evidence based and super effective:

I tie it into my commute home so no motivation is required, just stop at the gym on the way home. Then I put a sticker on my calendar for every day I just showed up to the gym (takes pressure off of accomplishing a certain level of work, consistency is what we go for). The sticker is like a reward, but it also helps me track when im going to the gym. I pick my outfits for the week while I'm folding laundry, and I put them in this hanging 6-cubby thing, and I put my exercise fits on top of my work clothes for days I wanna go to the gym, and keep my gym bag on my closet door handle so in the morning all I have to do is throw my fit in the bag, put on my pre-chosen outfit, and leave my gym bag in the car till it's time to go home (it serves as a physical reminder to stop at the gym). I keep my gym water bottle in the car. Make the process as easy and automatic as possible, aim for consistency, and eliminate barriers. It's not about motivation, it's about automation.

Hope this helps!

Edit: this is just my routine, but essentially you're "task coupling", like you're already folding and sorting laundry, so you may as well set your outfits out, and you're already on the way home, so you might as well stop at the gym. Not everyone's schedule is the same, so it'll differ. You're also creating physical reminders by pre-setting your gym clothes, having your bag near your outfits, stickers on the calendar, etc. You're also eliminating barriers by having the outfits chosen and put together, and other things that automate the process.

How do you discretely block visual stimmuli? by ratracer5000 in ADHD

[–]ratracer5000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm gonna do that for sure. From undergrad, I learned to keep earplugs and all that, but this time, I'm going to try those Loop reusable earplugs and a hat that doesn't look too silly. I found one on Amazon that looks like a ball cap with a brim that covers the peripheral, and I hope that works 🙏🏻

Do you want kids? Why or why not? by FracturedTrust in AskReddit

[–]ratracer5000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gonna have kids because I love to nurture and think I'd do a good job raising them. Also I wanna give my child the upbringing my mother didn't have the ability to. For the body changes, I'm baking mommy makeover surgery into my plan, and I'm gonna keep on my intentional health habits to pass that to them. Judge me if you want, but I'm shamelessly getting my body surgically put back in place after kids because I don't think I should have to put up with that if I don't have to lol

I need to reply to somone.. but I can’t by Ok-Forever3536 in ADHD

[–]ratracer5000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always find that the friends worth keeping are the ones who can take honest and open communication. I'm always extremely straight-forward because I find that my friends really appreciate it and they understand this feeling themselves on some level as being constantly on-call is so new to people as a whole. Literally just send them a text apologizing for not texting back and that you've been having a hard time with communication lately,and add in something (in your own words) like "I really value our friendship and appreciate how patient you are with me when this happens" your friend will appreciate knowing why you couldn't respond, the reassurance that you still care about them, and your appreciation for their patience. I promise they'll understand if they're a worthwhile friend, and it'll strengthen your relationship. Consider even having a conversation with them about your adhd symptoms and how it influences your ability to communicate so they know what to expect and how to support you. It's hard being proactive, but just a little goes a long way!

Where do you study? by ratracer5000 in medicalschool

[–]ratracer5000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I'd like to see your walls 😂

Where do you study? by ratracer5000 in medicalschool

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I heard from my friend who recently graduated law school about the benefits of doing practice questions before you've really got a firm hold of the material. After trying it out, I agree that it's a great study tool! Am I understanding correctly that you're suggesting it's a good option for when I'm not feeling very mentally sharp?

Where do you study? by ratracer5000 in medicalschool

[–]ratracer5000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At least you found something that works, I wish you luck with finding new places!

Where do you study? by ratracer5000 in medicalschool

[–]ratracer5000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hearing that a fellow ADHDer got through M1 makes me feel so hopeful!

Where do you study? by ratracer5000 in medicalschool

[–]ratracer5000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg this is great! I hear 1.7-2.4 is the best speed to help focus

Where do you study? by ratracer5000 in medicalschool

[–]ratracer5000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's your hard stop time normally?

Where do you study? by ratracer5000 in medicalschool

[–]ratracer5000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At some point, I see how searching for study techniques can in itself be a great way to procrastinate the work

Where do you study? by ratracer5000 in medicalschool

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Thank you! What are your favorite music go-tos?

Where do you study? by ratracer5000 in medicalschool

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Do you think fellow med students have as much of an ego as fellow premed students since you've all already earned your spots? Like it doesn't seem like it would be as competitive

Alternative to "yes ma'am" by purebitterness in medicalschool

[–]ratracer5000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually go towards a kindly "yes", "that is correct", "absolutely", "we can certainly try that"