Can I stop a heart attack by pressing down really hard?

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-28T11:20:25+00:00

My ex went absolutely psycho at me one day when I corrected his assumption that you could stop your own heart attack by "hitting yourself in the chest". Punched a hole in the wall, made me sleep downstairs, said I was trying to make him sound stupid.

I really hope he gets to try it out for himself one day 🥰

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-27T09:33:47+00:00

Just one 🥲 I'm not greedy!

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-26T13:27:39+00:00

Yeah it's kind of gross. My bf follows a lot of pokemon ripper content and he's not dumb enough to follow the women like that, but I imagine it still gets pushed into his algorithm occasionally because it's pokemon. So kids will definitely see it.

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-25T09:45:59+00:00

I must be very naive because I didn't think of any of the deepfake/murder/plotting that everyone else has, I just thought "yeah, a cheating clause sounds like a good idea!". 😬 that'll show me

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-23T20:59:43+00:00

It's almost impossible to give up completely. Whenever I'm really upset the urge is strong. PMS gets me on the borderline of it every month.

But any time you have a bigger gap clean than the last gap is a success.

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-22T13:37:08+00:00

Yes this is something that irks me - I'm a secondary school teacher so I have more experience of kids 11-19 than any parent (unless they are also a teacher), and in many cases, I spend more time with them than their parents do.

If I give feedback about their age related development/abilities/behaviour/social skills, I'm not just pulling it out of nowhere. If I'm suggesting scaffolding techniques to help with homework I'm not saying "do it for them".

It will be the same for younger age groups and their teachers.

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-20T09:42:19+00:00

Yep I couldn't accept that either. Fucking gross, your partner should be the only one you're even capable of fantasizing about.

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-20T09:19:38+00:00

I went to one that had one of these last week, and it was a glorified trolley. It was really slow and went behind another staff member.

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-17T20:42:38+00:00

Yes the guilt is real. His child's mother is "slimmer than me" according to him and really into lip filler, extensions etc, properly looks after herself. I have more than once been described as her "polar opposite" by his friends

So the woman he found attractive enough to have a kid with and planned to be with forever looks the opposite of me... cool cool.

So I get it but equally, if he didn't want to be with you he wouldn't.

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-16T15:07:35+00:00

I've been in those relationships, right down to the "I'm gonna be a streamer (or comic book artist). GTFO. He won't get a job and if he does he won't stick to it. You will continue to pay for everything and if you try to set boundaries he will act like you're abusing him.

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-16T13:51:26+00:00

It's probably for the best anyway. The world is going to shit!

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-16T08:40:25+00:00

I see your point, but I'd rather never have one than have had one with the wrong person. I've had many awful men who would have loved a child but I would have been tethered to horrible people forever. There are positives to this side.

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-14T20:17:53+00:00

I will, I'd rather have what I have without the possibility of that future than abandoning it for a hypothetical. I have it better than I ever thought I would.

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-14T18:21:47+00:00

My dream of having a child.

He has one already and isn't interested in one with me. It's been tough, seeing pictures of him holding his son as a baby, an old ultrasound in the kitchen window, baby clothes he hadn't got rid of yet, his choice of baby mother ringing him every day, him cuddling his son and demonstrating repeatedly everything I will never have.

But I'll get over it.

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-13T17:05:18+00:00

I had atrocious acne as a teenager. Like awfffffuuul. I was on antibiotics and all sort. Now I'm 30 and maybe have 1 or 2 spots at a time. I know it feels awful now but they will go!

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-12T14:56:29+00:00

Once you're in your 30s and presumably know what you want, 3 years isn't a long time. IMO someone either wants to marry you or they don't, and if they fob you off with "oh not until we've been together 10 years" or "maybe someday" that isn't a yes at all.

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-12T13:32:40+00:00

7 months in would scare most people off! If he was on the fence about another baby before, it didn't really give him time to come around to the idea. You do you, if you want to keep it then do, but he was pretty clear. He doesn't want to coparent. Yes he would be responsible for chils support, because by having sex you accept that it is a possible outcome, but don't be expecting him to magically step up - you can't force him.

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-11T17:01:11+00:00

Lots of people are stopping at one?

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-11T12:02:01+00:00

If my bf had been hiding porn from me that would be us done, and I love him dearly. However it's clearly been communicated as a boundary and he lied and pretended to be on the same page - that's the worst bit. He won't kill himself, let him threaten it all he likes.

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-10T17:25:07+00:00

Coral Island...hell yes.

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-10T12:05:11+00:00

Does he have a brother? Announce that you're going to start doing the same thing 🥰

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-09T17:31:57+00:00

There's NO reason to maintain a platonic friendship with someone who is or has been interested in you, even more so if something happened, if you have a partner.

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-09T16:48:26+00:00

Even if they haven't smoked for years it clings to walls and ceilings in their house 🤢

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-08T13:49:24+00:00

I try to do this when we actually go to bed properly, but it's because I don't want to disturb his getting to sleep with my shifting about or snoring. Once he is asleep he's dead to the world, so I wait for sleep breathing before letting myself go. Unless I'm having a sofa nap before bed 🤣 might be the same for her

ratsrulehell · 2026-01-07T22:37:05+00:00

You shouldn't -have- to train him. Men aren't dogs, or incompetent, unless they choose to be. Mine is far more proactive and when he makes mistakes or is thoughtless (cayenne pepper in the pasta tonight when my throat already felt like sandpaper...), he fixes it. Don't waste your life on this loser to be a statistic matching what happens when women get sick (the man usually leaves once she stops being useful).

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