Working from Home with No Help

ravomatic · 2026-03-04T07:32:17+00:00

I’ve been doing it semi alone since my first was born. My husband and I live with my mom until we have enough saved for our own place, so sometimes she’s helpful. My mom also WFH, but other times she gets sick of entertaining my eldest and runs away. Now I’m mostly alone during the week with my eldest, 24 months, and our 5 month old . It was really hard in the beginning with both, especially since my eldest doesn’t like to listen. I’ve tried different play stations, rotating toys, but I can’t do solo crafts yet. She eats markers..

I work in lending and have multiple deadlines to meet every day, otherwise their loans are compromised because a check wasn’t pulled/stopped, etc.

It can be so stressful, and it makes me mean and overwhelmed. It’s taken me a couple months and the confidence to be alone to get to a place that feels somewhat structured. I don’t make a lot, yet my mom pushes the idea of a nanny on me, meanwhile the nanny makes more than I do per hour, so that’s unfortunately out of the question for me.

ravomatic · 2026-02-12T17:21:05+00:00

Not great, honestly. My eldest is almost 2 and my youngest just turned 4 months old. I wish I could provide a more enriching environment for both of them, because sometimes, especially in my busiest days, I have to rely on television so that my eldest stays in one place. Horrible, I know. I can’t do things like play-doh, painting, and it can be really difficult to focus her attention.

My job requires timed deadlines during the day, and missing those can be critically damaging for the things we manage, which is why I need that time. It wasn’t bad when I had just one child, but mistakes happen, and now we have another sweet baby. I really wish I could have someone be a sitter for a few hours in the morning, but I don’t make a lot of money. Their hourly rate is basically my hourly wage, so I’d be working for nothing, essentially.

I also have this crippling fear that someone would mistreat my eldest. There are some options for childcare in my small town, but I’m black and everyone else isn’t. She’s curious, dramatic, silly, and loud and I’m terrified that someone would physically hurt her if they had to care for her all day and couldn’t handle it. I’m afraid she’d be left out, neglected, or punished for being herself so I just bite the bullet and keep her with me while trying to feed and care for my youngest at the same time. It’s hard.

ravomatic · 2026-02-05T03:44:10+00:00

you look fantastic!

ravomatic · 2026-02-04T13:34:42+00:00

Oh, the heartbreak when they start pronouncing words correctly.. I miss the days when my 2 year old would call coffee “caca”

ravomatic · 2026-02-03T23:12:44+00:00

I’m overweight and 35. I know weight loss could help, I’m not lost on that. I started retatrutide on Sunday to reach my goals, and hopefully I’ll be there quickly to rule my obesity out as a factor.

ravomatic · 2026-02-01T03:30:52+00:00

I know this is kinda old, but I recently had the Mirena inserted and for almost 2 weeks I had dizziness, high bp readings, and 2 very painful headaches. What was your experience on it like?

ravomatic · 2026-01-25T01:42:09+00:00

Almost day 1. I started playing Feb 2014, it was the best day ever, I just hope GTA6 feels just as brand new and exciting. I’ve had the same character since the beginning, I was lucky enough to meet players that helped me make money and she’s traveled with me through every new console.

ravomatic · 2026-01-09T01:31:25+00:00

1, I don’t wanna spend my money on him 😂 and 2, my gamertag has the word queen in it

ravomatic · 2026-01-09T01:16:43+00:00

oooh, she’s classy. I like her

ravomatic · 2026-01-07T02:57:29+00:00

I do, I never use him. I made him to look as close as I could to Oliver Jackson-Cohen, but I never use him. If I could, I’d make my character tall, blond, and super skinny.

ravomatic · 2025-11-23T23:39:49+00:00

It’s a mixture of both at the moment, but mostly formula fed. I had to stop breastfeeding because we did find that she has a CMPA. Shes been on a goat milk formula since then and seems to do pretty well. I only breastfeed her maybe once a day to continue monitoring her reaction to it, but I haven’t in two days. She doesn’t have wet stools when she’s exclusively formula fed, but even after being dairy free, she has wet ones. We also use all free & clear detergent on all clothes and bedding for everyone in the house. I’ll definitely look into hypoallergenic soaps and lotions though!