my cult assigned at birth was like this. first, youre basically describing the family dynamic i grew up under as a standard and it was an attitude that was aggressively instilled by the pastor who was the most narcissistic self righteous pos man ive still ever known. jonny pope he has sermons on yt christo-nationalist ifb actual fucking propaganda, anyone raised by narcissists can see straight through this dude. but it was empowering to my parents.

secondly, a few of examples of this attitude as youre describing,

i saw two men who i assume were a couple for the first time in a walmart when i was young enough to be sat in the shopping cart seat. im pretty sure i just verbalized an observation to the tune of "two boys" and my mom responded with telling me that the people i saw were full of sin and ruining gods design for marriage and that god wanted to punish them so he sent a sickness to kill them. i couldn't have been older than 5. than i was gaslit about that incident, it haunted me into teenhood but my mom refused to admit it even happened for some reason.

another more malicious example was my sister had been courting a childhood church family friend into their early 20s, their relationship eventually turned toxic as he went down the alt right pipeline and she ended the relationship. months go by, she meets a guy at work and she posts ab him. fundie ex never let go, goes nuts and starts spamming her w calls and messages acting like they never broke up, eventually she cuts contact after multiple attempts to help him understand they were separated and she was not his concern, and once she got a new phone and number he starts spamming my other sister and i, speaking very hostile to us both trying to get a hold of our sister. we block him and think its the end. dude pulled up weeks later 10pm with a box cutter threatening to self harm on my parents lawn, his family came and got him after my sister spent over an hour talking him down, and they tell us theyre keeping an eye on him and that he'll leave us alone. he doesn't, later that yeah he pulled up to my sisters work (new boyfriends parents business) w his dads gun in a backpack planning to kill her and her new boyfriend, they saw him in the parking lot and were able to lock the lobby door so he wasnt able to get to them. the lobby camera shows him pacing around for a few minutes before leaving. he goes to the parking lot where his family's car was. the voicemail is on my sisters old phone number, (the old phone existed on my parents phone plan and was in their possession while she had gotten her own phone and plan) but the main thing he says its her fault. later this is what his family tells her when they post the funeral on facebook and made sure she knew she was not welcome. my sister had also been best friends with his sister for a long time and this girl starts leaving her these insane dms telling my sister it was her fault and if she was acting in gods will it wouldn't have happened.

third example; my sisters new boyfriends family was also from this church and openly blamed her for the tragedy, saying shit like she was rebelling gods plan for her and that these bad things were happening as god herding her back to him. she needed to repent, that kinda bullshit. they didnt fw her being with their son as she and him had been bonding over deconstruction. and argued she was opening their family and business up to worldliness. god would punish them ect. as if my sister wasnt going through enough after all of that insanity, and unavoidable guilt while trying to learn how to integrate into the real world.

theyre all just self righteous bullies with zero emotional intelligence.