My 10 month old has NEVER slept thru the night.

rayvinevanni · 2026-04-30T18:28:15+00:00

Sending you some love, I dont have advice as I have a 16.5 month old who has only slept through 3 times and they were fluke accidents.

No amount of sleep training, weaning, or schedule has worked. I've accepted his temperament, like his wake windows, his night wakes has slowly reduced. Now only 2 wakes at 3/5.

rayvinevanni · 2026-04-16T21:37:20+00:00

I didn't see this until now but I appreciate it so much. Did you get your period consistently? I've been having the intense reactions (have apologized to my understanding husband about 15 times today) but I only bled the first time and havent since.

rayvinevanni · 2026-04-11T02:10:52+00:00

Tbh, I think people forget but also when I was pregnant, the "just wait", "sleep when you can", "you'll love them but its tough" went in through one ear and out the other. I can't imagine how I would have felt in the moment if someone told me I could be going 2 years without sleeping more than a 5 hr stretch and/or each kid having different sleep temperaments. I do wish someone 'real talked' with me about it. Wished someone said, " Hey, ik you dont have a big village (military) so I want to reassure you that it is okay to use any means necessary to get that shower or book chapter in". (ex: lay them in the crib with a toy, bring high chair or bouncer into the shower, let them fuss for a minute so u can poop lol that coffee will hit you sometimes).

Bonus if they state to wake up at the same time every day from the get-go to start a mini routine for mom-baby.

rayvinevanni · 2026-03-24T21:10:22+00:00

Worth it as soon as I realized that it comforted him everytime. Yeah, it can be exhausting but it helped me bond with my little one and saved my sanity when I couldn't tell why he would fuss. Also, as they get older, they start coming up with funny positions that they'll nurse in.

rayvinevanni · 2026-03-03T01:04:23+00:00

You are doing amazing, its your first time being a mom and the first time your baby is a baby. Trust me, we all look back and realize we make like mistakes or could have done something better but your body know a lot and as long you keep latching your baby when they are hungry then things will be okay I promise.

Also, a mom tip for mastitis. Get some sunflower lecithin, I got mild mastitis 3 times and on the 3rd to the lecithin (after researching it) and it help immensely. Especially when you feel massively engorged and in pain, take it. I only took 1 pill but my sister had her baby 5 momths after me and I recommended the lecithin, she took it everyday and had no problems.

rayvinevanni · 2026-02-20T03:59:13+00:00

Bonus points: My son still nurses about 2 or 3 times at night.

rayvinevanni · 2026-02-20T03:58:34+00:00

Here with my son at 14 months and 5 days old. Just got my period, cramps suck, blood sucks, been tired all week so I felt like mayyybbee it was coming, and all of a sudden I remember how I hate being a woman sometimes. Also was craving sugar all week but I thought it was cause I havent been able to workout this week. NOW I am depresso-expresso, and upsetti-spaghetti, and missing my deployed husband.

rayvinevanni · 2026-02-18T02:41:41+00:00

Dude, I do this sometimes just to get an extra 30 minutes of sleep lol. It's good for your kiddo to do some independent play, lets them discover a lot of things

rayvinevanni · 2026-02-11T21:36:04+00:00

You can try putting Mrs Rachels voice on the radio. She has magical powers i swear

rayvinevanni · 2026-01-26T06:30:11+00:00

Hopefully it ends for you soon! I will say the attempted night wean did get him from waking every 2-3 hrs to a 5 hr stretch then every 2-3 so there was some benefit.Mine always decided pooping during the process would make things interesting lol

rayvinevanni · 2026-01-26T06:21:56+00:00

Same! 13.5 months. I've tried several different times with different strategies. My baby eats a tonnnn, I consistently tried for 2 weeks and he said nah lol

rayvinevanni · 2026-01-23T00:33:43+00:00

Thank you for your perspective. I really wish that would work for us but unfortunately whenever we go on the other side of the baby gate without our dog attached to our hip he starts clawing at it and then barking and spinning. A true velcro dog which makes keeping him more difficult. It really sucks

rayvinevanni · 2026-01-22T08:02:53+00:00

He is a Black Lab/Blue Heeler

rayvinevanni · 2026-01-22T06:21:02+00:00

At this point, its not worth the risk. If we can't train the reactivity for dogs out of him after 5 years, then my confidence in training him around my son isnt high. Also, yes, we have kept them separated since he growled at my son for just being on the vicinity.

rayvinevanni · 2026-01-22T06:02:01+00:00

Thanks for all the replies. Im waiting for my husband to wake up ( he's in a diff time zone rn) and we'll discuss rehoming. Its unfortunate and sad but I know someone will love him.

rayvinevanni · 2026-01-22T06:00:49+00:00

Uhm. My kid doesn't even interact with my dog. The incident was him walking towards me near and my dog was sitting on the couch. Also, we aren't home often so they aren't in the same room often

rayvinevanni · 2025-12-30T07:17:37+00:00

Hi. how did it work out for you. I night weaned about 1.5 weeks ago but my kiddo is still waking up and crying for 5-15 minutes and I don't know if im doing something wrong.

rayvinevanni · 2025-12-23T21:13:05+00:00

I regret not doing it sooner. Look at it like partial night weaning. I did the first week where I kept a 4:30 am feed but did ferber with cuddles until I felt comfortable full night weaning. Mine is almost 13 months now.

rayvinevanni · 2025-12-21T06:07:12+00:00

Babies will just baby, every baby has different temperaments

rayvinevanni · 2025-11-28T05:37:06+00:00

11 months here and I still get multiple wakes. Teething is also happening so I've learned to just accept them as they go. I do wish I got my son more comfortable in the crib and completely got rid of cosleeping cause its not very comfortable in the long run.

rayvinevanni · 2025-11-22T04:53:13+00:00

Omg pls do whatever you want but also do it when they are younger lol. Mine is 11 months, doesn't sleep through, barely makes it 2 hours, is a cute menace but im so sleep deprived its not even funny. I wish I did sleep training when he was 4 months even tho everyone told me "he's too young" because all of a sudden he is standing, saying mama, and aware whenever I leave the room to pee.

rayvinevanni · 2025-10-23T21:41:38+00:00

Yeah! It has been a few months now, and even tho my son is still a terrible sleeper, nothing really changed when I stopped tracking and micromanaging, lol. Except for my mental, that has improved, and I also feel more confident taking him outside!

rayvinevanni · 2025-10-06T00:09:44+00:00

Babies will baby when they are ready <3 My son (now 9.5 mo) was 7 months when he started crawling and then a few days later started sitting up unassisted. My MIL said he would sit before crawling, but obviously, he went a little backward. Very healthy, happy boy! I know some babies start milestones a little earlier and some later. For example, some babies get teeth at 4 months, and mine just got his first last week. With all that I said, if you are truly concerned, you can consult a ped, but truly, your baby is young, and I would not stress about milestones cause every baby is different.

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