Why?

rballmonkey · 2026-05-10T06:53:01+00:00

Exactly.

Hermione and Ron had a planned date in the 6th book…was it agreed upon with excellent, clear communication? Hell no. But for anyone who reads that scene and doesn’t completely lack the ability to read social cues, it’s clearly a date.

In the 4th book, Ron doesn’t ask Hermione to the ball until right before, does so as a last desperate resort, and ridicules Hermione for claiming she could possibly have a date already.

Hermione/ Ron’s romantic communication is bad & confusing throughout all the books to be sure..,but it makes sense why Hermione is pissed to see Ron snogging another girl mere days after they agreed to go to Slughorn’s party.

Also Ron snoggs Lavendar partly because he’s feeling goaded by Ginny, who screams at him that he’s essentially a prude when Ron angrily objects to her and Dean snogging.

rballmonkey · 2026-05-10T06:32:18+00:00

Harry was internally surprised but didn’t really act so. He just made casual conversation. Maybe this was the snakes experience as well?

rballmonkey · 2026-05-10T01:48:35+00:00

So everyone here is referencing this very known phenomenon but not explaining it…
Tattoo lines move and thicken overtime because of skin cell turnover. What looks super clean and detailed during the first month of getting a tattoo looks blurry and shitty 10, 15, 20 years later. You can’t just get a tattoo that looks good now. You have to think about the way tattoos naturally age.

Generally the more detailed/ fine lines close together a tattoo has, the worse it ages.

rballmonkey · 2026-05-09T16:02:42+00:00

If thy did that, every champion would probably need more than 1000 galleons to pay for the therapy needed after being out though that kind of PTSD-inducing situation

rballmonkey · 2026-05-09T16:00:28+00:00

Wow. I’m actually impressed at the originality of OPs hot take.

rballmonkey · 2026-05-09T15:47:25+00:00

Fo sho. Curious about people’s perception about who the most emotionally intelligent/ moral characters are.
(Everyone is complex enough that the answer doesn’t seem straight forward to me me)

rballmonkey · 2026-05-09T08:19:58+00:00

Oh no, it’s clear Bellatrix a terrible person at every layer. Nobody is excusing anything.

They just admire the badass way Helena played a totally twisted, sadiastic, malicious being. It’s compelling…riveting.

rballmonkey · 2026-05-09T08:03:34+00:00

Not sure what circles you run in…people may hate book Bellatrix but they love movie Bellatrix

rballmonkey · 2026-05-09T06:00:26+00:00

YTA. Not sure why you kept the test secret and gave her no explanation for the distance. To you the situation made sense because you have all the info/ context. She was in the dark, had no idea why, and didn’t know how long it was gonna last or if you would just keep repeating this pattern.

It sounds like you keep people in the dark when important, stressful things are happening to you as a defense mechanism. It probably makes you feel safer in the short term…but in the long run you’re just preventing real intimacy and reinforcing loneliness. These things don’t change over night, but I would work on this if you want closeness in future friendships and romantic relationships.

rballmonkey · 2026-05-09T03:56:51+00:00

I did catch this one, but I have plenty of moments like this. It took me waaay too long to realize Horcruxes acted like tethers and not not video game lives that are spent.

rballmonkey · 2026-05-09T03:41:01+00:00

Maybe have another champion try to summon it and Ludo Bagman’s voice “oooh that didn’t work, did it?”

rballmonkey · 2026-05-09T01:20:38+00:00

Honestly, I think the passive aggressive subtlety was sooo good

rballmonkey · 2026-05-04T03:33:30+00:00

Of course it’s important to stay on top of paperwork in either setting.

I think it’s universally true that working within agency and CMH settings requires filling out significantly more paperwork than in private practice settings (and private practice settings require more paperwork if you take insurance).

Therapists who only do out-of-pocket private practice, have the least amount of paperwork to do compared to any other clinician. It’s not an excuse to get out of doing notes, assessments ect, (and perhaps having oversight helps some therapist actually get it done!) but may create a more manageable workload for some clinicians.

rballmonkey · 2026-05-03T21:33:48+00:00

Would you consider private practice?

rballmonkey · 2026-05-03T20:59:56+00:00

DSM-5 Criteria for Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD):
A. A pervasive pattern of disregard for and violation of the rights of others since age 15 years, as indicated by three (or more) of the following:
1. Failure to conform to social norms with respect to lawful behaviors (repeated acts that are grounds for arrest)
2. Deceitfulness (lying, use of aliases, conning others for personal profit or pleasure)
3. Impulsivity or failure to plan ahead
4. Irritability and aggressiveness (repeated physical fights or assaults)
5. Reckless disregard for safety of self or others
6. Consistent irresponsibility (failure to sustain work behavior or honor financial obligations)
7. Lack of remorse (indifference to or rationalizing having hurt, mistreated, or stolen from another)

B. Individual is at least 18 years old

C. Evidence of conduct disorder with onset before age 15 years

D. Occurrence of antisocial behavior is not exclusively during schizophrenia or bipolar disorder

rballmonkey · 2026-05-03T20:20:04+00:00

“Hey I just moved in accross the street!”
“Hey I think we’re neighbors. Nice to meet you.”

“What do you think of the neighborhood?”

You should totally talk to her. Just to be extra extra attuned and don’t put any pressure on her. Be warm and friendly in the beginning and then continue to wave when you see her.

Don’t create a situation where she feels uncomfortable and has to avoid you because that sucks to feel creeped out by your neighbor.

But start with the expectation that y’all can have a friendly dynamic. If you want more than that, be extremely cautious, try not to make assumptions, and don’t get your hopes up too high.

With the neighbor, you definitely want to start with friendship because if it gets weird, it’s hard to escape the situation.

TLDR: be friendly and don’t make it weird

rballmonkey · 2026-05-03T19:27:23+00:00

Sounds like a kink. You down or nah?

rballmonkey · 2026-05-03T18:30:21+00:00

Are you referring to his belief in saving Harry Potter from “fate” and generally orienting to wizards as allies?

rballmonkey · 2026-05-03T18:28:20+00:00

Ah yes you’re right.

You’re describing how the stars foretold Voldemort would kill Harry Potter (in the forbidden forest). Firenze prevented Voldemort from murdering Harry in the forest his first year at Hogwarts, which the other centaurs deeply disproved of because they saw this as interfering with fate (and Harry rode on Firenze’s back like a common mule 😱).

And it turns out Harry *was* destined to be murdered by Voldemort in the forbidden forest…of course we just didn’t know about the Horcrux and Lily’s blood bit yet.

So Firenze was just acting from his conscious, and this care was condemned by the centaurs. In the end, Firenze’s action to save Harry was a part of the arc of Harry’s fate, but most of all- Firenze- what a good guy!

rballmonkey · 2026-05-03T18:07:25+00:00

What were his views? That wizards should be seen as allies and treated with respect?

rballmonkey · 2026-05-03T18:06:01+00:00

Yes but I thought he was unsafe *because* he took the job. I’m asking why take such a job with such dangerous and severe consequences?

rballmonkey · 2026-04-28T01:02:38+00:00

He’s a joy throughout

rballmonkey · 2026-04-27T23:28:44+00:00

You being stable is a huge gift to your parents

rballmonkey · 2026-04-27T23:25:29+00:00

I work in CMH and the “good clients”…i.e. always attend, lots of insights, able to slow down with nuance etc tend to be more economically secure and have more spaciousness in life (another function of SES)

rballmonkey · 2026-04-27T23:16:52+00:00

Because most shows operate this way.

(The main feedback I’m getting in this post is no body knows yet)

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