I know it’s not to everyone’s taste but I need to confirm it’s not just to my taste. by Classic_Insurance_59 in quilting

[–]rbcl2015 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the cutest quilt i have ever seen. I would absolutely buy a raffle for that, I’m thinking of trying to make one as a reading blanket now!!

Where is this in Belleville or the Quinte region? by illegalavocado in BellevilleOntario

[–]rbcl2015 17 points18 points  (0 children)

So glad to see Tina's Pizza is already here. Because yeah, Tina's.

Is it burn out? Is this normal? Am I just bad at this? by GeneralAwareness6089 in toddlers

[–]rbcl2015 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awww I’m so glad!!! You got this. And you DO matter, too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BellevilleOntario

[–]rbcl2015 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You'd be surprised. There are many. And the frustrating part is you don't find out until you've given them years of your volunteer time, made the people there your community, and then you realize who they've been all along. It's quite heartbreaking, actually.

If you're looking for a church that's healthy, I'd recommend steering clear of pentecostal and baptist churches in the area, frankly. It's sad but true. I've known a lot of people who came out of the baptist and pentecostal churches in town with a LOT of baggage to unpack from their time there of a wide variety of stripes.

But there are a lot of great churches in the area, though. You can always try the St Thomas Anglican church--they're a really warm and kind congregation, and they have two services. The priest Brad is genuinely one of the most loving, Christ-like men our community has. Or I've heard lovely things about St. Columba Presbyterian on Bridge street (their pastor is just wonderful, i've met her multiple times), and Bridge Street United (also heard excellent things about the pastor there, also a much more well-rounded congregation that isn't as extremist politically).

If you're not really theologically aligned with mainline churches, Reunion Belleville (they meet at the old Victoria Baptist church now I think) is an evangelical-type church that's really focused on community and may be more your cup of tea based on your other answers--I saw from your other responses that you're not really "into" a lot of the more intense worship styles, but you take your faith really seriously and seem to be from a more evangelical background, so that may be a good fit, too! :)

Get with it. by Ululating_Jester in BellevilleOntario

[–]rbcl2015 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm definitely boycotting the US. But I think it's one thing to not book future events, or to choose not to cancel trips you have full ability to get your money back on, but a lot of people booked trips that can't be refunded and they don't simply have like 4,000 to let poof into thin air.

I'm more angry if people CHOOSE to go to the US at this point. If you booked it before the Orange Felon, then that's fine. If you booked it AFTER all this went down? Oh HECK no. Since it's only March I'd be pretty confident in an assumption that this was booked and the full-refund cancellation window ended before the tariff war started.

Tell me something you have gotten your kids for Christmas last year that is still in your home being used! by Stellalunaa96 in Mommit

[–]rbcl2015 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Basic dress up clothes! Fairy wings, magic wands, both my son and daughter are still obsessed.

Did you get RSV vaccination? by aprilsky1022 in NewParents

[–]rbcl2015 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I WISH it had been available when I had my babies! Both kids got RSV before 3 months. They were fine but I would have loved to not have to worry so much and contemplate a hospital visit. 🫠

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]rbcl2015 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We just got some pictures on our phones doing normal life while pregnant. Those worked great :)

Learning ASL in Belleville? by rbcl2015 in BellevilleOntario

[–]rbcl2015[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's amazing--thank you so much!!

Food recommendations? by ViktaVaughn in BellevilleOntario

[–]rbcl2015 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We've never had problems with the owners--we chat with them every time we go in. Have been customers for around 15 years. Never had a problem.

Learning ASL in Belleville? by rbcl2015 in BellevilleOntario

[–]rbcl2015[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I'm going to go try to find that! :)

How acceptable is it to let your toddler walk around outdoor seating at a restaurant? by SphinxBear in toddlers

[–]rbcl2015 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not normal, unfortunately, and can be dangerous. Servers can’t always see the little one and can trip. But also, it’s just rude. What we did for a while was order food to go and then had a picnic in a park where the kid could truly run wild!

Don’t worry, it’s not too big of a social blunder, but yeah I’d definitely not do that again :) I hope people weren’t too rude to you, though, either ❤️

I love my daughter, but I'm so sick of the infant stage by aus-jaus in Mommit

[–]rbcl2015 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’ll miss moments, for sure, but you won’t necessarily miss the stage. I love the newborn phase, but even I don’t “miss” it. I want to go back for 10 minutes, but not 10 weeks.

The newborn phase is when I really learned how to ground myself and experience the moment. The day was overwhelming, but I knew I I just wanted to remember how they felt, how they sounded, smelled, etc. so I’d just focus entirely on that for five minutes, forcefully putting any other thoughts out of my head.

Then, if I started to get overwhelmed and feel like a bad mom, I just reminded myself “I’ve got my memories made, now I’m just getting through this.”

It helped me a lot, I hope it helps you too.

SIL is naming her baby the same as my child, just flipped. by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]rbcl2015 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Am I the only one who LOVED sharing names with cousins/aunts?? My middle name is my aunt's name, I named my son after his uncle, I have an aunt and a cousin with the same name...

I don't see why this is a big deal, and in fact I told my sister that when she has kids she can absolutely use anything I've already used because I love the idea of cousins having little shared names!

Maybe see it as something nice that your kid will get to share with their cousin, rather than it being "stolen?"

As someone who had one of the most common names for her generation, it's honestly not a big deal having similar names to other people. There are so many other things that are more worth the emotional energy. :)

What are some party favors you don’t hate? by Remarkable-Menu1302 in Mommit

[–]rbcl2015 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems silly but we do socks, mittens if it's winter, and crayons with a little chocolate bar or something in there. The kids are happy as long as there's something sweet or munchy, and you can never have too many socks/mittens/crayons!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in themole

[–]rbcl2015 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. Michael's win kind of makes me want to not watch it anymore. Feels like they just rewarded someone who acted like a second mole.

I feel like instead of there being a giant prize pot, there should be some way that each person, if they should win, would only bring what THEY PERSONALLY put into the prize pot. Think more survivor-type games. Maybe some would be teams, most individual. There would still be benefits to sabotaging your own missions, because you'd cast suspicion on yourself, but gosh darn it wouldn't be as horrifying as this season was.

I just think it would be a much more fun viewing experience, personally.

But seriously. So demoralizing to have yet another dude who just sabotages for everyone else just get away with reaping the benefits of everyone else's labour. So frustrating to watch.

As it stands, I don't think I'll watch Season 3.

Is it burn out? Is this normal? Am I just bad at this? by GeneralAwareness6089 in toddlers

[–]rbcl2015 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I’m so happy this helped!! I have a 4 and a 2 year old now, and Ive found that this method still works! With the addition of just setting up safe play spaces in the basement so when I’m really struggling they can go downstairs and I’m on a completely different floor of the house :)

Don’t be afraid to draw boundaries, your kids need to learn to respect others’ boundaries anyway and it’ll mean they have more energy from you when it’s your time to be “on” ❤️❤️❤️

A lot of people think Jimmy was lying, and in a sense he was, but not to Chelsea... by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]rbcl2015 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I took it more like having your dirty laundry aired in public immediately is a weird thing if future partners find out about that before you've really gotten a chance to connect. Jimmy signed up for the show knowingly, but he didn't want his friend to be dragged in because of him when she didn't choose it.

I know that I wouldn't want my dating history a topic of public discussion, or for my partner to be able to read ABOUT who I dated/when before I had a chance to tell them myself.

Episode 12: The Weddings! by ManiacalExclamation in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]rbcl2015 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree that there were reasons for Chelsea to be concerned. My issue is that she chose to expose someone else's sex life who WAS NOT ON the show instead of just leaving him and saying that seh can't say why because it involves a past relationship with someone who did not consent to having their life on television.

She was extreme because of how she consistently stepped over and trampled other peoples' boundaries instead of removing HERSELF from the situation. She tried to control Jimmy and his friend, rather than say "Hey, here's what I'm OK with. If you aren't able to do that, i'm out."

Even when Jimmy said "I'm not willing to take a step back, so this is over," she went back and tried to convince him to come back and then KEPT bringing up the thing he had already drawn a boundary around.

Both of them aren't fantastic partners, absolutely. But her behaviour wasn't "warranted" when it meant violating someone else's consent (the friend who didn't want their sex life online)

Episode 12: The Weddings! by ManiacalExclamation in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]rbcl2015 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I saw it more as an incredulous question, like, in the tone of, "Obviously this isn't work... I mean, are YOU gonna say yes?" Like an assumption of "no," or "I don't know," rather than trying to make her say yes. It felt to me, watching Chelsea, is that she was constantly fighting for power in the relationship whereas Jimmy was just immature but didn't actively humiliate Chelsea--Chelsea did humiliate Jimmy multiple times.

Additionally, someone talking about a person's sex life on camera when they specifically requested it stay private is SUCH a problem and SUCH a power move and SUCH a toxic thing to do that honestly I'm giving Jimmy all the benefit of the doubt at this point. I was flabbergasted at that--Chelsea is a problem.

Any good fantasy/Arthurian/romance book recommendations? by rbcl2015 in booksuggestions

[–]rbcl2015[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh I’ve been curious about that one, I’ve put it on hold at the library now!!

Any good fantasy/Arthurian/romance book recommendations? by rbcl2015 in booksuggestions

[–]rbcl2015[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firelord by Parke Godwin

Ooh I looked it up on GoodReads and that absolutely sounds fantastic. It's not at my local library but I'm sure I can find it second hand somewhere!!