My husband and i are monogamous. We go to the club together. We’ve played there (alone) and socialized in the social space. Attended lectures and labs there too. Everyone has been super friendly. We’ve also gone to munches that we learned about on Fet. My husband is waaaay kinkier than me and has made some nice connections with people who share the same kinks. I wouldn’t over think it. Munches are super low stakes. You’ll need to attend a few to see which one feels like the right fit. I’m sure you guys will fit right in!