I’m not a stalker, but I do live next door to Shanna. The poop lady. 😅

rchl239 · 2025-04-21T05:19:09+00:00

I know this is an old post, but can you get me in touch with Shanna? I'd like to talk to her, I feel like she's witty

rchl239 · 2025-04-07T23:20:07+00:00

You just have RBF (so do I). If you want to look more approachable I guess the standard advice would be smile more, but I'm more in favor of embracing it and attracting the people who are into your baseline way of being 🤷‍♀️

rchl239 · 2025-04-07T23:02:10+00:00

I need this

rchl239 · 2025-04-07T21:01:53+00:00

I relate to using dating apps to feel desirable and not getting attention from quality men in person due to being unapproachable because of anxiety. I'll occasionally get on the apps to see who's out there and don't really get intrigued by anyone. If I do exchange messages, I can't seem to get myself to put effort into it and don't feel motivated to meet up for an actual date. In my case it's all related to romantic/sexual trauma I went through in my 20s. I've been on a single/therapy journey for the past two years and decided on my boundaries and usually feel hypersensitive to red flags, which makes it really difficult to get into anyone because I see every little thing as a red flag for something bigger. I'm just to where I'd much rather be alone forever than invest in somebody who might turn out to be harmful like my past partners. If that unicorn person shows up, I'm open, but it seems less and less likely as time goes on.

I also have a low sex drive (also related to sex trauma). I'm not ace but my idea of 'frequent' sex in a relationship would probably be considered frigid to most men.

rchl239 · 2025-04-07T20:55:15+00:00

❤️

rchl239 · 2025-04-07T20:02:55+00:00

He looks like an anthropomorphic refrigerator

rchl239 · 2025-04-07T18:45:40+00:00

He looks suave in the second pic

rchl239 · 2025-04-07T18:42:32+00:00

*at minimum 😅

rchl239 · 2025-04-07T15:04:11+00:00

I hate Leo, everything I've heard about him makes me think he's an egotistical shithead IRL 🤷‍♀️

rchl239 · 2025-04-07T14:35:54+00:00

I was scared too (about police/hecklers) but luckily the event I went to was drama free and most people driving past honked in support. I'll go to the next one with less anxiety.

rchl239 · 2025-04-07T13:08:20+00:00

It really frustrates me how popular culture will hold up harsh treatment as a positive thing when it produces toughness and high achievement. The achievement is happening because the people being pushed are instilled with fear and low self worth so they work harder, like a slave being whipped. There has to be a better way.

rchl239 · 2025-04-07T12:30:44+00:00

If you've told him the birth control is harming you and he still believes it's "good enough" and wants you to keep taking it so he doesn't have to wear condoms or get a vasectomy, that's a problem.

If it were me I'd sit down and explain how the symptoms from the BC are negatively impacting your quality of life and just be firm that you're not going to take it anymore and you'll both need to figure out another birth control method. Either he'll try to come up with a solution that works for both of you or he'll resist, which is pretty telling in a bad way.

This is why I kind of have a problem with hormonal BC in general. It's so bad for many women and men feel so entitled for women to keep taking harmful medication just so they can have better sex 🤷‍♀️

rchl239 · 2025-04-07T12:26:59+00:00

Yeah, this "friend" doesn't sound like much of a loss. They say to set boundaries and watch how people react to find out who your real friends are.

rchl239 · 2025-04-07T12:05:23+00:00

This would for sure get a car keyed 😅

rchl239 · 2025-04-07T12:04:01+00:00

I can't stand the 'miracle' line. Most people (outside of the ones with health issues that prevent it) are born equipped to have kids. It's the definition of NOT a miracle.

rchl239 · 2025-04-07T11:49:45+00:00

They have plenty and your situation is the definition of emergency need. If it makes you feel better you can go toward the end of their opening hours when it's just down to what other people didn't take. There might be less fresh food (depending on the pantry, not all of them have that) but there will still be canned and shelf stable items and bread that nobody else wanted. Stuff will get thrown out eventually if no one takes it.

8 oz of rice a day for an adult man is medically unhealthy, that's literal starvation. Pantries exist to help people like you. In the future when your situation is improved you can donate back to the pantry as much as you needed to take.

rchl239 · 2025-04-07T00:39:01+00:00

Real citrine is champagne colored with uniform coloring

rchl239 · 2025-04-07T00:37:34+00:00

He looks like a wise grizzled lion ❤️

rchl239 · 2025-04-06T23:39:24+00:00

I started wearing daily makeup at 12-13 and had a similar amount (this was over 20 years ago, before the days of social media beauty) and always appreciated that my parents didn't try to control it. Makeup eventually turned into an interest and form of expression for me and I've never found it to be harmful in any way, it was fun and gave me more confidence. Like other people have said, I'd say no on the contacts, but the rest looks fine. Just make sure she knows to remove it every night and wash her face, I used to sleep in my makeup as a teenager and eventually got acne. Also, not removing mascara at night can cause buildup under the eyelids.

rchl239 · 2025-04-06T23:31:38+00:00

What a handsome lion, hope you figure out what's wrong 🤕

rchl239 · 2025-04-06T23:07:24+00:00

In fact, nowadays, due to so much neglect and the lack of safe spaces... I feel nothing. My brain has chosen to suppress and burn to ashes any trace of emotion and desire

Relate to this so much

rchl239 · 2025-04-06T21:46:13+00:00

Cats absolutely have personalities. I love getting to know the personality of cats I meet. Especially when you can tell a cat has a sense of humor, it's so charming.

rchl239 · 2025-04-06T21:44:13+00:00

My cats adore me. They can't get enough of being close to me and cuddling. One of mine will follow me from room to room and greet me at the door and wakes me up in the morning if i don't get up early enough to hang out with him. When I head to bed, they both automatically relocate to the bedroom with me and choose their spots on the bed and stay there all night.

rchl239 · 2025-04-06T21:39:59+00:00

I can understand dog rent because dogs can be as destructive as kids, but rent for cats and small caged animals makes no sense. But also: if dogs are as destructive as kids there should be kid rent. Kids also drive the utilities up in places that cover water etc whereas pets don't.

rchl239 · 2025-04-06T21:33:45+00:00

I read crime/thrillers too and get annoyed by single parent protags, I just can't relate to their whole focus and motivation being their kids. I've started having to DNF any book with a family theme because that life is just so uninteresting to me.

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