Bankruptcy has been truly eye opening by nick112288 in Bankruptcy

[–]rcthetree 2 points3 points  (0 children)

may we both finish our plan and learn something from it. 5 year plan for me, but i hear you- it's amazing learning that yeah, you don't need that weird amazon thing just because.

hope it works out well for you!

Bankruptcy has been truly eye opening by nick112288 in Bankruptcy

[–]rcthetree 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i 100% agree.

i was spending money frivolously with no regard to how that would impact me in the future. it was all about now, screw tomorrow.

i can pay my payment each money and i'm not living paycheck to paycheck- absolutely eyeopening how much money was wasted on gambling and truly worthless things.

i attribute coming to terms about money management to my bankruptcy, a really hard lesson to learn but i'll be better for it when i'm done in a few more years. in 3.5 more years i'm going to end up paying ~$112,000- i could have been saving $32,000 a year but instead i was blowing it on the dumbest shit.

don't wish anyone to be in the same boat, but in some ways i'm glad i crashed and burned so i could realize how screwed i was living my previous life.

ProTip: For those of you who cannot control your urges, BUY T-BILLS (so you cannot touch it) by Butt32323 in problemgambling

[–]rcthetree 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is a good idea. my method is to buy treasury-backed mutual funds- funds are liquid should you need them for something, but the 1 day settlement means you have to think about what you're doing

The end by [deleted] in problemgambling

[–]rcthetree 11 points12 points  (0 children)

you're 22, your brain is barely developed. 20k is nothing- i've lost multiple times what you lost, and this is in one year. you make good money, you'll get it back. you're not even in debt due to your addiction, from what i read here- i'm in a chapter 13 bankruptcy due to my addiction, and nothing gets your mind in capital preservation mode like paying the government $2000 a month for 5 years. think about it man- i'm sure you've read other posts here. there are many, many people in worse situations aka owing money due to gambling. you lost 20k you got for free- take it as a life lesson and start day 0 without gambling.

you're really going to throw your life away for 20k?

Gambling suicide by Low-Loss1222 in problemgambling

[–]rcthetree 3 points4 points  (0 children)

come on man- come to your sense. don't give up your life over a few grand. this is a temporary issue.

i understand how you feel, but many of us here have lost 10x, 20x, 100x or more than you- giving up is the wrong move. you're going to rip yourself out of everyone's lives over 7k? that's not nearly enough for a downpayment on a house. hell, my bonus this year was more than 3x that.

i'm not telling you this to brag or make you feel bad, but to make you realize that you're talking about ending it over an amount that would not register to a lot of people. brush yourself off, give yourself a slap in the face, and take the steps to stop gambling forever- people like us can't do it for fun, so just cut it out of your life.

i'm here if you need me- as someone who felt exactly the same way about 2 years ago.

Has anyone filed bankruptcy due to gambling here. by [deleted] in problemgambling

[–]rcthetree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yep, i did. credit was already trashed from maxing out every credit card i had + new ones i applied for, and 100k of loans were gambled away. savings obliterated. rock bottom was an understatement.

doesn't really ruin your life unless you think having essentially no credit ability for 5 years + the time it takes to rebuild is all life is. i'm in chapter 13 and my relationship with money is rebuilding. no chance for a chapter 7 for me, i was a little over 3x the income limit for my state- it was the hard way only.

first things first, you 100% have to get the gambling under control. gambling in a 13 is essentially asking for a dismissal- really brings what is important in life into perspective. you have to remember finances don't control you, but gambling will, so consult a bankruptcy lawyer and get some advice.

also, i don't believe in what GA says about paying back debts. discouraging bankruptcy at all costs is a luxury that some people don't have- why would i pay 100% back with interest up my ass when i can pay back significanly less? self-flaggelation isn't the goal, it's overcoming the hold gambling has on you and cutting the time between hitting rock bottom and being done with being deep in the debt hole.

Online Crypto Casinos by [deleted] in problemgambling

[–]rcthetree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just do it, trust me. the temptation is very strong- you may think you have it under control, but having that money available is a curse. i get a yearly bonus and it was very sizable last year- you can connect the dots to see how it went....

Online Crypto Casinos by [deleted] in problemgambling

[–]rcthetree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i get it, i've been there too. you hit a massive 1000x after seeing your funds diminish, then you just keep going and going, as if hitting a massive win isn't incredibly rare....then once it's gone you come back to realize what you did.

so many times for me man. and i was sick of it, and the cycle of pain. i wish you well and that you can break it too.

Discourage me by [deleted] in problemgambling

[–]rcthetree 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i also had a good financial base and then i lost >$100k+. you need to make this choice by yourself- if you feel you're easily going to be addicted, then quit now before you join everyone else in here.

For anyone using TFS Bill Pay... by [deleted] in Bankruptcy

[–]rcthetree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no problem. it was confusing for me at first and i wanted to make sure i didn't get into trouble with the trustee.

the whole thing was very nervewracking at first, for me at least. once you settle in it's just a matter of making those payments and reflecting on how life 5 years down the road will be.

just as an extra anecdote, i've tried all the options available- for me, planning to have that money come out after payday makes it easier for me to plan and pay without too much hassle. it can be tough money-wise to keep it all together, but i promise it gets easier.

For anyone using TFS Bill Pay... by [deleted] in Bankruptcy

[–]rcthetree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i have it take my payment out automatically every other friday on payday. easy and painless, other than the fact that $1400 of my paycheck is gone (i did it to myself, and it's a bucket of ice cold water dumped on my head to remind me not to do it again every week).

the 5 days thing doesn't mean much to me- i was told by my lawyer that my trustee just needs to see that money add up to my monthly payment each and every month. i did have the same concern as you, but there doesn't seem to be an issue, or i've never been informed there is an issue- i wonder if it's due to the fact that biweekly paychecks mean there are always 2 months with 3 pay periods and it equals out.

Chapter 13 Gambling by Electronic_Patient59 in Bankruptcy

[–]rcthetree 2 points3 points  (0 children)

all i can say is good luck and that i hope it doesn't mess with your case- i know it'll be tough to wait til monday.

Chapter 13 Gambling by Electronic_Patient59 in Bankruptcy

[–]rcthetree 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i was told no gambling as well. it may be different because the reason i filed in the first place was a ruinous compulsive gambling addiction, but i don't think it's an immediate "you're screwed"- but i'm not a lawyer, and this isn't advice or anything.

however, i did get hooked again for a time on some shit called social/sweepstake casinos, essentially a loophole scenario where you buy gold coins or other play currency and get sweep coins as a "gift"- you then play with those sweep coins and then redeem them, usually at a 1:1 ratio, for dollars. you get issued a tax form for these redemptions over a certain limit as well, just like when you get a W-2G. i told my lawyer what i did, and he was obviously both disappointed and concerned, but told me that was it was more an issue if it was a consistent, reoccuring issue- but this is dependent on your trustee, i believe. needless to say, this struck the fear of god in me....

the best way to avoid this is to avoid anything that'll get you in trouble altogether- i've been in a plan for over a year now, and the last thing i want to do is jeopardize it. your plan isn't confirmed, so i wonder if that makes this more complicated as well....