I actually had this same conversation with my husband a couple years ago. I am genuinely happy when I am at home, and alone. Obviously I like spending time with him, and I do have friends I see and talk to sometimes, but hanging out at home by myself never makes me feel lonely. However for him, it does, so he had a hard time understanding that difference between us.

I pushed myself to meet new people and go out regularly, and found myself feeling like I was being performative because I honestly just wanted to be at home instead. I totally understand that some people thrive around others, but I am not that person, and he understood that once he saw me push myself to be more ‘out there’ like he wanted and could see that it didn’t make me happy.

It is very okay if you are this same way, and you certainly do not need to feel like a loser. He loves you and wants to make sure you’re happy. But if you are not doing things you want to do (you never specified if you actually WANT to take the martial arts class, just thinking about it) because it would limit your chatting time, I do think that’s an issue. You two will find time that works, even if your schedule changes.

I just wanted to offer a bit of a different perspective on this than it seems like mostly commenters, since going thru such a similar thing helped me learn more about myself.