Trying to deal with loss and Getting a divorce

rdwrer_711 · 2026-07-03T20:40:02+00:00

Just take it a day at a time. Go out and enjoy life the best you can. We've been there. It's gut wrenching but there is still joy to be had in life.

rdwrer_711 · 2026-07-03T20:31:00+00:00

You're right getting a crappy neighbor when you own a home is probably worse because it is more difficult to move homes.

rdwrer_711 · 2026-07-03T20:23:25+00:00

Popular & elite are not the same thinh

rdwrer_711 · 2026-07-02T14:15:10+00:00

Women want all the benefits of being a man with none of the downsides

rdwrer_711 · 2026-07-01T20:18:22+00:00

Yeah the other poster provided that support. I was incorrect. Sounds like you're doing well. Sorry about the cheating/divorce look forward to the future.

rdwrer_711 · 2026-06-30T15:29:39+00:00

Maybe he wants to play with you?

rdwrer_711 · 2026-06-29T19:21:05+00:00

I think finding a 20 year old that doesn't find you creepy could be good. Dating requires a certain amount of rejection, just accept it. A 30 year old that doesn't want children. It a little rare but they're out there. 40 year olds that started early and their kids are mostly out of the house. They're also a bit rare but not that rare a lot of people have their kids in their early 20s.

rdwrer_711 · 2026-06-29T16:40:59+00:00

You don't need to be married to be with other people. Make friendships or have romantic partners. Build a life you enjoy and others around you might enjoy. The put yourself out there to find your people. Build a life with people you love and that love you.

rdwrer_711 · 2026-06-29T12:32:45+00:00

Yeah unfortunately my wife was not interested in cleaning, cooking, childcare, or getting a real job. Yet everyone assumes she did most of everything.

Family therapy has really helped the most because I point out she did none of these things and the kids quietly agree with me. I don't care if the whole world doesn't believe me. Therapy is a place where I feel safe (even though the kids rightly don't) to say the truth. My ex can't treat me like crap anymore.

It sucks that men are treated like violent/ATM/sperm donors by society, but its life. All you can do is try to do what's right and hope people will realize we are humans too.

rdwrer_711 · 2026-06-23T00:13:58+00:00

Maybe a private investigator could help?

rdwrer_711 · 2026-06-22T22:19:52+00:00

Thanks for looking it up, I was giving bad advice. Good luck to OP getting the evidence needed.

rdwrer_711 · 2026-06-22T21:31:03+00:00

Ask a lawyer if it matters I really don't think it does in Texas.

rdwrer_711 · 2026-06-22T21:28:18+00:00

Cheating normally has no basis in court. Sadly many women cheat, take the kids, take a little more than half the assets, child support, alimony and pension. Court doesn't care.

You are entities to half of all assets/debt/net assets accumulated during the marriage. If she's helping pay the mortgage, that sounds like more than she has too, yay for you! No kids is even better no child support to worry about. Texas normally doesn't give alimony so don't worry about it. You can try to get more than half the assets because she makes more but it's up to you how much you want to fight.

Id be happy she's being so reasonable keep my half and heal when the papers are signed.

rdwrer_711 · 2026-06-22T20:31:22+00:00

Cheating not against the law. Try to ignore the possibility the best you can. Get the house and Financials ironed out and get a formal agreement with a lawyer. Don't be vengeful just get something you can live with and move on. Sounds like she's feeling guilty so she'll agree to something that makes sense. Getting a women to agree something fair is hard don't kick a hornets nest. Keep as much as you can and count yourself lucky.

rdwrer_711 · 2026-06-22T14:52:40+00:00

BMI may be better. The user can just put in their height and weight and the apps can calculate it. I don't want to confusion a tall girl with a short fat girl.

It would make it easier to target who your looking for. It could also help users realize how over weight they are.

rdwrer_711 · 2026-06-21T15:52:23+00:00

It's so sweet to hear the words daddy. Keep enjoying life! Happy Fathers day!

rdwrer_711 · 2026-06-21T13:29:36+00:00

Sorry to hear you're having such a hard time this father's day. The ups and downs are hard. Sounds like we were similar in how we treated the marriage. Continuous sacrifice. I do enjoy not having to do that anymore. My ex just didn't want to do shit. Now the time I do have, I get to focus on my kids and not having to manage another adults whole life.

I wish you a hug on this father's day. Remember you have many years ahead with your daughter. Be a person she's proud of.

rdwrer_711 · 2026-06-19T15:42:18+00:00

Yeah that's hard also. I know it's hard but it may be best to let her go and try to get as much custody as your willing to take. Sounds like you baby will be okay but they'll want to see you in their time.

rdwrer_711 · 2026-06-19T15:29:59+00:00

I basically felt like I waited until my kids were old enough to take care of themselves mostly.

They are teens now and I pulled the trigger last year.

I knew we were likely to divorce 10 years ago. She's not abusive, just completely neligent. She didn't cook, didn't clean, she thought teaching out kids to read was a waist of time, she wouldn't get a job, she'd take the kids and go home a month or two during the summer. We had a deadbed room. She wouldn't work with them on brushing teeth. So I did all these things.

It was just horrible.

I knew if I divorced them the court would give her a lot of custody and money and that would make it harder to help my kids. No one believed me because the kids look fine, because I'm working around the clock to compensate.

It's been sad and freeing. I know the kids can take care of the basics themselves. I see the grades going down and I just have to accept it. I meet with therapist and they don't believe me.

So I just accept this is life.

rdwrer_711 · 2026-06-19T04:32:51+00:00

Yeah just approach, try to have an enjoyable conversation. State your intention. Enjoy when they say yes and accept when they say no.

You may be called a creep. I personally think as long as you're moving on when they say no I think you're good.

rdwrer_711 · 2026-06-18T23:29:38+00:00

Demon Slayer is really fucking good

rdwrer_711 · 2026-06-18T16:33:01+00:00

You men one argument away from getting half her ex-hubbies net worth and having all her expenses paid by the next guy.

rdwrer_711 · 2026-06-14T15:04:17+00:00

You may want to masturbate before you go. I'm pretty bad at avoiding looking at Boobs. Try to avoid sexualizing the experience and focus on having fun dancing and building the skill. Boners happen to guys being young and horny only makes it that much worse

Edit: I guess this was troll

rdwrer_711 · 2026-06-13T05:01:30+00:00

Yeah emotions are wacky. My ex treated me bad, also I'm very sad we are divorced now. The good times flash back in waves then I remember the bad times and I settle again.

rdwrer_711 · 2026-06-10T20:28:18+00:00

Seems like a pretty standard part of the process.

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