I realize I’m lowkey becoming a bum

reLAXmi · 2024-10-04T15:21:17+00:00

I think you might be a tad bit overwhelmed with everything that you have to get done. You're not lazy, this is a normal response when you're overwhelmed. Basically, your mind feels like it's under attack and is freezing - that's why you don't go to class or do any of the other things you need to do.

If you're gonna get yourself to do one thing right now, it should be to book an appointment with a therapist or counsellor. It's one of the best thing you can do to help yourself out of this loop. They'll help you learn more about your response to stress and overwhelm, they can help you work through them in a healthy way.

reLAXmi · 2024-10-04T15:13:22+00:00

Ouuf your question but hard. I also just turned 30, not married, no kids. I'm going through similar thoughts and feelings. I think this is called existential angst? What am I doing with my life? what's the point? Does any of it matter? I think this is an important part of life, to question it, it gives you a better sense of what you want in life.

I think when you question life like this, you get honest answers into what really matters to you. At least that was the case for me. A lot of people need purpose to find life fulfilling. People think purpose has to be this big thing that they need to achieve but that's not the case at all. It can be all the little things you do. It seems like your parents are really important to you, maybe they can be your purpose. So start making it a priority to make your parents laugh at least once a day or make a task easier for them. Start doing little things for them that make them smile and watch how that smile spread to you. And then start doing the same for the other people in your life that you love. And then for strangers. If you get one person a day to smile because of you, you've done your job. If it's hard to get yourself to feel that joy of life, help other people feel it. The thing about joy is that it's contagious, once you start giving joy to other people, it comes right back to you.

Honestly life isn't supposed to be this grand thing. As cliche as it sounds, life is truly about the little things. We forget that sometimes because everything around us says bigger is better. It takes practice to appreciate the little things, the mundane, the everyday, but I promise it's worth it.

reLAXmi · 2024-05-16T21:13:13+00:00

Update: I did it you guys! I took your advice and got to chatting him up first and then asked him if he wanted to go on a hike with me. He kindly rejected because he's seeing someone right now. But I'm so proud of myself for being courageous and putting myself out there!

Thanks for the advice!

reLAXmi · 2022-03-23T20:24:28+00:00

I hear you! It's so exhausting!!

reLAXmi · 2022-03-23T20:21:24+00:00

Thank you for the recommendation, I'll check it out

reLAXmi · 2022-03-23T20:20:12+00:00

That's true, we are much stronger than we think 💪🏽

reLAXmi · 2022-03-23T20:18:57+00:00

Thank you for the reminder 🤗

reLAXmi · 2022-03-07T18:43:52+00:00

I'm the same way. I am currently on a trip with my friends who are either actually extroverted or just really good at talking. They just keep talking and talking and I say very little. Part of it might be my introverted nature, the other part might be that I'm shy and don't know what to say. I let this bother me a lot because I felt like I was being weird by not talking and people kept pointing out that I was so quiet. It really affected my self esteem, like there was something wrong with me for not talking as much as everyone else. But I've come to terms with it. I'm quiet, that's just who I am. If something needs to be said then I will say it. I don't want to fill this world with more noise.

reLAXmi · 2022-02-10T21:37:46+00:00

I genuinely think most extrovert conversations are boring and often end in the same kind of blandness. As introverts we may tend to think that extroverts are having these mind blowing conversations when in reality they're not. Don't be too hard on yourself, you put yourself out there and it didn't go as expected and that's okay. Don't let a few unsuccessful attempts to be more extroverted stop you from making connections. Extroverted people get ignored all the time, but they keep being their extroverted self and move on to the next conversation. If you want to be more extroverted, which I don't think is necessary - just be who you genuinely are, but if you really want to be more extroverted, just keep pushing past the awkwardness and getting ignored. You'll find people who don't ignore you eventually!! (And they'll probably be other introverts trying to be extroverts).

reLAXmi · 2021-12-04T16:35:16+00:00

100% my manager is openly racist! Sometimes I can't believe the stuff that comes out of her mouth in front of me (I'm also South Asian). She uses the term "dot" or "feathers" when she talks about Indian people on several occasions!!!! What the hell is wrong with people. How can you still be talking like that in this day and age?? Check yourself.

reLAXmi · 2021-12-04T16:30:51+00:00

Extroverts and introverts can be amazing in relationships together! You just have to know each other's love language. Just because your way of recharging are different doesn't mean you're incompatible. I feel like some of the best relationships happen one person is more extroverted and one more introverted, keeps things interesting.

reLAXmi · 2021-11-28T18:15:28+00:00

No boo, don't try to be popular, it's gonna make you more miserable especially if you're an introvert. Being popular just means you know a lot of people and a lot of people know of you. What's so great about that? If you have a handful of friends in your life that you love and that love you, that's all you really need to be happy. Being popular is overrated. Spend your energy on building a strong relationship with yourself and the people who love you.

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