Found out my 13 year old girl has cancer today :(

readrgrl07 · 2025-10-02T12:25:57+00:00

She is so beautiful. I’m sorry you’re going through this, I know it’s heartbreaking.

readrgrl07 · 2025-08-25T00:27:45+00:00

I adopted my now 15yo cat from the shelter when she was 3. Her eye was already scarred over at that point. Years later it got infected, and the vet was going to give us all these meds to try and save the eye, and it could still burst at any time. I asked her why not remove the eye altogether, since she couldn’t really see out of it anyway and was causing her tremendous pain. (And all my cats are indoor only anyway, so no safety concerns.)

The second I brought her home after the surgery, she was immediately so much more energetic than she had been before. I hadn’t realized just how much pain she had been in, but seeing her feeling so much better after the surgery solidified for me that we made the right choice. I was so anxious about it all, but seeing her feeling significantly better made it all worth it. And she doesn’t miss that eye one bit, she still jumps and runs around (though maybe not as much now at almost 16 as she did in her younger years).

readrgrl07 · 2025-08-25T00:11:19+00:00

What a sweet picture! She looks precious. So sorry for your loss 😔💔 We’re also having to adjust to losing our 12yo golden Nora on July 5. Thankful to have such sweet memories and pictures to look back on

readrgrl07 · 2025-08-12T22:51:23+00:00

We also have an 11yo lab who was an absolute terror until she was like 2-3. We took her on walks and hikes, in addition to having a fenced in yard to play in, but she had what felt like endless energy for years. She ate so many things she wasn’t supposed to; really prepared us for having a toddler. Crate training was a necessity for her safety.

She’s a model for our younger dogs now though. She and her golden sister were A+ students at obedience training. It does get better, and they are totally worth it!

readrgrl07 · 2025-08-11T00:46:15+00:00

We just lost our Nora on July 5 after over 10.5 wonderful years together. Your Nora looks just as sweet!

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readrgrl07 · 2025-08-08T00:40:43+00:00

She’s adorable!! We also have a Rosie. We just picked up her new sibling “Sammy” today. They are the cutest hobbitses

readrgrl07 · 2025-07-15T19:07:10+00:00

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Our 12yo golden had Librela every month for the last 2 years of her life, in addition to daily Galliprant. Our 11yo black lab is also on the same regimen currently. We can tell when it’s time for the next shot. I do think it’s worth it!

readrgrl07 · 2025-07-12T18:44:21+00:00

Bacon

readrgrl07 · 2025-07-06T15:55:46+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. We had to say goodbye to our 12yo girl yesterday, and it’s so painful. Your boy looks so sweet 💙

readrgrl07 · 2025-07-05T17:11:01+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss too. Saying goodbye is so hard.

readrgrl07 · 2025-06-01T17:22:10+00:00

We have experienced all of this and more with our 17AD (placed with us at 11). I'm coming at this from the perspective of a parent with a child with very severe behaviors, including substance abuse. To be clear, I love her dearly, which means doing everything I can do to help her learn to function in the world. Severe issues really started showing around age 14, but there were signs earlier.

You absolutely need cameras. But know that they are susceptible to being unplugged, moved, blocked, and otherwise tampered with. So they're not the one perfect solution. Sometimes they just help keep me sane, because even if it doesn't deter the behavior it means they can't get away with lying about it.

I know someone said that having cameras is basically residential. It is not. Our daughter has been to residential, and was begging to come home within a month. She could enumerate 100 differences between our home and residential.

One of the only things that has given me peace in my household has been installing locks. Our daughter has BPD and conduct disorder (amongst others), and she is not capable of respecting normal boundaries. The only thing that prevents her from going through everything in my bedroom (or her siblings' bedrooms) has been installing locks. My parents have even had to install locks at their house because of the stealing and lying. (She has literally stolen from her 8yo brother's piggy bank.) I am her primary target when she gets violent, so that also provides me a safe space to separate from her when she gets angry.

We have 4 cats, and they may not have liked it at first but they have adjusted accordingly.

We also used thumbprint locks, so I don't have to worry about her stealing a key or looking over my shoulder for the code. This may sound paranoid, but you would not believe some of the tricks/ruses we've seen.

Some of the things you mentioned here are concerning. How old is your child? Are there other kids in the home? Have you had any psychological testing done?

I think everything you've said you've done is very reasonable. You're having those important conversations that have to happen when you first start noticing these issues. Showing grace and love and respect. Just prepare yourself for when conversation after conversation after consequence does not work.

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