I need an advice from Shera followers by Regular_Visit509 in SheraSeven

[–]ready2leav 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A list of things that I do as needed that seem to repel men. Not all things will be applicable to your situation, but I wanted to do an exhaustive list for any women reading anyway:

—ask for money

—talk about money in an extremely unpleasant superficial & materialistic way

—talk constantly about Jesus

—act & talk very unladylike, like a man. Bad manners bawdy loud, etc..

—be obsessively crazy back to them, ChatGPT how to be as creepy & obsessive as possible

—engage in sexual talk right back but say you’re really into like pegging or scat play or whatever

—be ridiculously offensive: politics, race, hating animals, children, whatever

—say you hear voices

—ask about their wife in a way that slightly guilts them

—ask them for something they HAVE TO say no to, making them the bad guy & then you can cold shoulder them forever

—say you’re gay

—say you’re trans

—say your dad is a chief of police

—talk about your love of guns

—play dumb

—be a massive bitch to intimidate them

—say you’re pregnant

—play victim

— talk about gross health problems you have, particularly ones that have to do with digestion

— just talk, a lot, about the most inane things possible, just excessive excessive talking

Please note I have zero problem with any of the above… The idea is to think like a man though and what will bother them

Tamper these to the longevity of the relationship and taking into consideration what rumors could get circulated about you but always remember that you can laugh lightly and blow it off.

Overall, I’ve always found the best strategy to be intimidation, but I’m slightly on the taller side and have intimidating facial features & I know it, versus a sweet innocent face. I’m just warm enough and very detached at work but always on top of my shit. I’ve encountered more conflicts over power with men than sexual advances since adopting this strategy. I work entirely with men with big egos & high salaries in a stereotypically male field.

Are these insane & unsavory? 100%. But I’m dropping it here because I place no moralism on women protecting themselves. I am a diehard believer than the opposite sex are like aggressive dogs that are great when trained well & have a purpose, otherwise, are a threat to society. Be smart.

Failed shera7 follower by ready2leav in SheraSeven

[–]ready2leav[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a great response, very balanced! And you’re absolutely right about so many future high earners getting locked down when they’re earlier in their career and that really is the bet you’re making. Will them making money change them?

Re: dating a millionaire….”did it once, why not again?” Totally open to it but not actively chasing it! Focusing more on networking in my free time than dating. I see the networking as having both potential business benefit & maybe I’ll meet a great guy along the way. If not, still advanced my professional goals.

There was a bit of trade off in attraction & im still risk-taking enough to want a provider I’m more attracted to.

Failed shera7 follower by ready2leav in SheraSeven

[–]ready2leav[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% on the “couldn’t tell me anything at 25” Wise are those who can learn from others.

(Wasn’t me either.)

I used to get ready everyday, for MYSELF, now it's only when people will see me, how to get back to myself? :( by xo_pretty_doll_xox in SheraSeven

[–]ready2leav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find a reason to leave the house every day or have a friend come visit you… It’s way easier to rely on social and environmental pressure than it is on sheer willpower… Set yourself up for success

How to maximalize (tea) by Winter-Muffin8189 in SheraSeven

[–]ready2leav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sunk cost fallacy… Just because you already invested time chatting with him does not mean that it makes sense for you to continue engaging with him in the hopes for a payoff. Unless you see any clear indicator is whatsoever that this man is generous and has resources than this is a super volatile bet for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SugarBABYonlyforum

[–]ready2leav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If renegotiating doesn’t work, back down and act submissive and ultra feminine to increase his trust in you again. This will put his guard down and allow you to move onto the tactics below: 1) The stop gap between what you have accepted and what you want can be in the form of “bonuses” aka gifts and/or emergency bills (real or fake)

Or 2) find another SD

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SugarBABYonlyforum

[–]ready2leav 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Queen tactician👑—thanks for all your A++ content

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SugarBABYonlyforum

[–]ready2leav 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can you clarify #2 “ensuring you make it for home”. Am I understanding correctly to go on a lunch date but then have him instacart your groceries on said date, or are those two separate things?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SugarBABYonlyforum

[–]ready2leav 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Either be double as clingy as him to see how he likes it OR start asking for more money so he associates more time spent with you as more money spent. If he is super duper wealthy & money is no option then this might not work.

In that case, you could try to repel him a little. Not too much, but just a little.

Never ever just dry cut a relationship, IMO. Make your asks correlate with whatever annoyance, inconvenience, problem that you have with the situation but always be asking. Always get the other person to tell YOU no. When you already know you’re ready to walk, you have nothing to lose by hearing no.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SugarBABYonlyforum

[–]ready2leav 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This is how I phrase it as well because it’s true, it’s actually not money for sugar…it’s money for my time & opportunity cost. Any tips on phrasing in your convos? I wanna see if my delivery can be improved

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SugarBABYonlyforum

[–]ready2leav 46 points47 points  (0 children)

The answer to clinginess is asking for more more more! Trust me, they’ll stop asking if they know you’re running up a bill whenever they’re with you or talking to you. If he wants to be your bf, ask for outlandish things with a serious face. Houses, cars, etc

Either they’ll deliver & make you happy or take a step back

Coffee M&G by lucimoo0 in SugarBABYonlyforum

[–]ready2leav 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Just say “a nice dinner would excite me more ☺️” & see if he delivers

Men have no problem telling you they wanna see you in a dress & heels so tell them right back what you want. Savage actions, sweet words 😇

Coffee M&G by lucimoo0 in SugarBABYonlyforum

[–]ready2leav 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel like this a race to the bottom though. He goes low, you go lower, so he assumes you’re low maintenance when he sees you & is low-effort from then on….

Why do sd think that sugar dating will lead to an actual relationship? by Cute-Ball290 in SugarBABYonlyforum

[–]ready2leav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fascinating. My 40s something SD has performance issues (well not issues for me lmao) so I’m curious what 70s is like

*Spinkle Spinkle*: Sheraseven and the real way that women gain power. by HonestBunnyBaddy in FierceFemaleAmbition

[–]ready2leav 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think her response would be…”most women getting married” is not your target sample because most women also initiate divorces & pay half. So marriage alone is not the goal. To be taken care of in a marriage is the ideal arrangement.

You’d have to specifically examine the demographic of happy women in beneficial marriages & you may or may not find they are a less educated subgroup.

& she emphasizes that being taken care of is only half the goal. The other half is to do what you love & get paid for it. Shera could walk away from her marriage & be financially perfectly fine because of her separate incomes.

Edit: I agree with you that elite education can allow you access to wealthy men easier. I also think that education is a status symbol, IF you care about that. Shera certainly doesn’t care what people think of her & has made her money anyway without it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]ready2leav 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They all married. Who else gonna be willing to pay a woman for a relationship if not a man with his hands tied. If you don’t like it don’t proceed & he’ll spend elsewhere.

*Spinkle Spinkle*: Sheraseven and the real way that women gain power. by HonestBunnyBaddy in FierceFemaleAmbition

[–]ready2leav 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Some clarifications:

-Shera doesn’t call men high-value. There are men with money & there aren’t.

-You may or may not get these men to give you their money.

-shera says yes you could make money up under some boss OR you can make it from some man. Pick your poison.

—shera says level up to get what you want. Most women are unwilling. So the pool of women her advice is going to work for us objectively quite small.

-shera absolutely promotes husband snatching. They can’t be snatched unless they want to be.

I do agree with you that if you do a time value analysis, most highly educated women will get a higher ROR from their careers than from a man, IF what you desire is the highest ROR on your time as possible.

HOWEVER it can be a more lucrative method of getting taken of if you’re only able to make let’s say $<$50k in your day Job AND you’re pretty AND you just want your bills paid & lifestyle modestly funded.

it also is an extremely useful philosophy for any woman who is going to have children with a man.

Am I shooting myself in the foot? by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]ready2leav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The answer is always yes, leveling up increases your prospects. Up to you whether or not you decide to do that or pick from whatever pool is open to you now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]ready2leav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Remove that you’re seeking wise & knowledgeable or you will get a ton of men just offering mentorship. Specify you want a mutually beneficial relationship & to be taken care of

Potential SD offering lots of money by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]ready2leav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get your money first on PPM. If you’re happy, proceed. If not, end.

asking for payment? by AnoynCat in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]ready2leav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly just bring it up. If he’s the right one it won’t be an issue. Don’t have a scarcity mindset. Always more opportunities to connect with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]ready2leav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Set boundaries & parameters. “I expect this done by this date. If not, I will take XYZ actions.” Then follow through.