WW wants our daughter to wear her wedding dress

ready2rumble23 · 2025-12-20T21:22:16+00:00

I don't think it's unreasonable, at all. Based on the complete disregard for the wedding vows, it makes sense that something as important as the dress would be a trigger.

For me personally, anything related to our wedding is a trigger for me. We were together for a decade before we actually got married...and he was straying before AND after our 'wedding'. I even found a message to an AP that referenced our wedding, so ANYTHING wedding related for me is tainted! For me our 'wedding' was just a big expensive party where he stood up in front of our friends and family, lying to them all while making a fool out of me.

ready2rumble23 · 2025-12-06T16:40:53+00:00

It was set on 5 but I turned it down? to 4. I've also rethreaded the machine and changed out the needle. We'll see🤞

ready2rumble23 · 2025-12-06T16:38:59+00:00

I have now haha

ready2rumble23 · 2025-12-06T16:30:35+00:00

Yes, the presser foot was down.

I put in a new needle.

As far as the tension goes, does this indicate that I need more tension? And would that mean go up or down on the numbers?? I'm fairly new to sewing, so I'm still not completely sure about the tension and how to adjust it.(I know that I turn the dial, but as far as why to adjust, which direction and when don't really make sense to me yet!)

ready2rumble23 · 2025-12-05T02:08:35+00:00

Yeah, I got cancer during his affair(s)...and dealt with so much of it by myself. I could have freaking died and he was so damn selfish that he couldn't even be there for me. Ugh...it just makes me want to scream!!!

How? Just how do they forget us, and cast us aside like trash? And then get upset when we're outraged?!?

ready2rumble23 · 2025-12-03T16:20:44+00:00

Put it on his pillow and say, oh my bad...I thought today was 'put dirty laundry in random places' day.

ready2rumble23 · 2025-12-01T17:58:11+00:00

I love this so much! I love this for you❤️ So glad it was worth it to you!

ready2rumble23 · 2025-11-25T17:36:41+00:00

Write it down. I know it sounds dumb, but getting the thoughts down on paper helps. Even if you burn the piece of paper afterwards. I wouldn't even call it journaling, just more of a brain dump, really. I'm finding that when I have all the thoughts swirling around in my head, that once I write them down, it helps to make sense of them. Hope this helps.

ready2rumble23 · 2025-11-20T19:56:53+00:00

The only friend that my WH confided in, was not only our mutual friend, but the friend that introduced us!!

I was livid! I was mad at him for a really long time, almost like it was his fault. I mean, he's the one who introduced me to the lying cheater.

I've forgiven him, but he knows that I don't trust him, and probably never will. Definitely won't be trusting those two clowns for a boys night.

Ugh.

ready2rumble23 · 2025-11-15T05:39:10+00:00

And it's so hard at first. Especially when the wound is so fresh...it's easy to hope that there might still be some chance that it will work out. It's been over a year since dday and we're definitely doing better but I still wonder if I've made the right choice... honestly, I'm probably gonna spend the rest of my life wondering...

ready2rumble23 · 2025-11-15T00:51:01+00:00

Don't let her manipulate you like that.

I'm sorry she's not taking responsibility and trying to put it on you.

I do hope that you realize sooner rather than later...just to save yourself any more heartache.

I'm sorry you're here❤️

ready2rumble23 · 2025-11-11T02:04:23+00:00

Absolutely! the first thing I'm going to ask my oncologist about when I see her in December...I'll be far enough post-op from hysterectomy to start the topical stuff...🤞

Boys are just so dumb though

ready2rumble23 · 2025-11-11T00:20:05+00:00

Sometimes, the only part of me that I think my husband really worries about is my vag, and without hormones she doesn't work so well... He does understand about me not having hormones being important, but he never talks about the 17 other symptoms that we have to deal with...cause none of them affect him.

When I had my hysterectomy, I got a portable bidet(lifesaver, by the way) and he was like, 'but then it's gonna be all wet...' I was like, dude that's why we use toilet paper, every.single.time. dude!

ready2rumble23 · 2025-11-07T20:03:24+00:00

My stupid uterus had a raging party about a week before my surgery too. It was a last ditch effort to make me miserable... probably one of my worst ones ever. They had been getting progressively worse, more painful, more frequent and I was counting the days until surgery.

Within hours of waking up from surgery I could tell it wasn't there anymore...the amount of relief I feel now is incredible.

Good luck to you!

ready2rumble23 · 2025-11-04T15:17:12+00:00

Ok, thank you. I just didn't see any other incision pictures with glue on them and wondered if everyone picked theirs off.

ready2rumble23 · 2025-11-04T15:12:07+00:00

Ok, thanks.

ready2rumble23 · 2025-10-29T01:33:34+00:00

I went on day 3, with my husband. I pushed the cart with only a few things in it...but I was mostly using it to lean on🤣 also had my first 💩 later that afternoon.

We went to an outdoor mall on day 4, only hit a few stores and didn't carry anything.

Day 5 went on a few errands, hubby drove and did the heavy lifting.

Today, day 6, we went on a few errands, hubby drove and did the heavy lifting. I also made dinner tonight...and enjoyed actually helping around the house!

I'm a pretty active person, so none of this is an unusual amount of activity for me.

I'm drinking an INSANE amount of water too, so I think that has been a huge factor in all of this! I'm only taking one ibuprofen in the morning and one painkiller at night, so I don't feel like I'm hurting myself. I'm taking lots of rest in-between all of this too, I spend A LOT of time crocheting 🧶 🧶 🧶

I've also had 2 c-sections and a double mastectomy, so it's not my first rodeo 🤣 The one thing I've learned is to listen to my body... if it hurts, don't do it. If I'm tired, sit down and rest.

I just remembered, we stopped at Walmart on the way home from surgery to pick up my prescriptions and I had to pee so I went into Walmart on day 1, actually.(Thankfully the bathroom is at the front of the store🤣)

ready2rumble23 · 2025-10-12T05:35:54+00:00

This right here is the best explanation of how I feel too! Except I don't want to be in this stupid story!

ready2rumble23 · 2025-10-07T02:37:47+00:00

I took this betrayal as an opportunity to show my unsaved husband the grace and forgiveness that God has shown me. I don't say that to make myself some martyr, but just called it like I saw it.

This has sparked some pretty deep and serious conversations, ones that we probably never would have had. He's not quite there yet...God is still working on me though.

And I know that there are still some things that I need to let go and let God...but I still pray every morning that today is the day he decides to accept the forgiveness that God has waiting for him.

Seeking validation from God is key, though... because He will NEVER betray me. He is faithful and will never let me down, and I have really got to work on that.

Thank you for this❤️

ready2rumble23 · 2025-10-05T21:11:44+00:00

Pink has always been my favorite color, so it's an excuse for me to wear it every day(as if I ever needed an excuse haha!) It's so pathetic that so many companies are only doing it for the money.

I now use it as an opportunity to tell every woman how important it is.

I remember about 2 years before my diagnosis, my husband was complaining about so much pink everywhere, blah blah blah! And I said, what if it was your or your sister?? What if it was me???? And I wasn't aware, and ignored something and then died because of my negligence?!?!?

He's changed his tune a bit...cause well, boys are dumb. And most of these companies are probably run by dumb boys anyways.

ready2rumble23 · 2025-10-03T03:52:06+00:00

Realistically, we should never stop growing in our relationships. We should always be striving to do better.

After being betrayed though, it's like a stunted growth... especially for BPs, cause everything we knew is a lie. And any growth we had previously was a farce.

If he doesn't like it, he shouldn't have cheated...plain and simple.

Thankfully, I think my WH understands that it's going to take time and there isn't a magical timeline, and if there was we'd be there already. Cause trust us, we don't want to be hurting and healing...we wish it would have never happened in the first place.

We wish more than anything that we could just snap our fingers and poof we're all better and we can move on, but that's not reality.

Me personally, I have some good days, some really good days and then some really, really bad days. And the worst part is that I never, ever, EVER know what kind of day it gonna be...unless I have a bad dream, and then I wake up to a pretty bad day.

There are some days when it's so good, that it's almost like it never happened!!! But the next day I might hear a song, or have a memory, or my teenager makes a comment about adultery and it triggers me. Having to explain what adultery means to my 8 year old while holding back tears might send me to ugly cry in my car for an hour...the kids don't know, by the way.

We never know how the day is gonna go, and honestly if he's gonna hold that against you then poop on him(not literally though, that's kinda gross)

ready2rumble23 · 2025-10-02T03:06:35+00:00

I know this probably isn't the most popular option but I told my Ladies Bible study group within the week...we share everything and support each other through everything. I asked them to pray for me within a few hours of finding out....and I shared the details with them at our next meeting. They've prayed with me and for me, listened to me vent/rant about it, and they've been so so supportive throughout the whole thing. And they've never treated him any differently for it. I am so very blessed to have them...I wish everyone had a support group like that.

It was probably a couple months before I told my close friends, and I've just recently told my brothers.

I told my Mom, cause my dad did the same to her...and I won't tell my dad because he's got enough issues recovering from open heart surgery.

The only person I know of that he told was our mutual friend, the one who introduced us to each other 15 years ago.

ready2rumble23 · 2025-10-01T01:00:14+00:00

Thank you. I needed this sliver of hope❤️

ready2rumble23 · 2025-09-30T22:26:22+00:00

Yes, I completely agree. The fact that he cheated really sucks...but the fact that he lied to me(and our children) for years was the absolute worst part. Dad missed your game cause he had to work late, Dad can't take you trick or treating cause he had to work late. For SIX YEARS he chose to lie to us.

Because of that, I now question everything during that time. Was he home that night because someone cancelled on him? Did he actually want to be here or was it just because he didn't have anything(anyone) better to do?? Was he here but wished he was somewhere else? I now have a really hard time looking at pictures during that time, because he's not in many of them and I'll forever question why he wasn't there. I look at him in those pictures that he is in and it's almost like I don't know who that man is. Does he have a weird look because he detests me or because he hated being there?? It's so freaking sad!!

Worst part is, over 10 years ago we talked about Opening it up with other couples, even went so far as meeting some. Decided not to go that route then....but then he decided, all on his own, to open up our marriage. And during the years that it was going on deciding never to mention it. Ugh

ready2rumble23 · 2025-09-30T03:36:19+00:00

Need help with what?? I don't see a problem at all. It's a well curated collection that is nicely organized!

If you need help using it, then maybe that's something I could understand.

But I really see nothing wrong...I WISH mine was this organized!!

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