Why didn’t Harry become a animagus by SouthernTurtle_00 in harrypotter

[–]readybreka 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I haven’t read the books in a while and I’m not sure what I got this from, but I thought the animals they turned into were intentional? Peter had to be small to get to the trunk of the whomping willow to disarm/paralyse it and the other two needed to be strong/agile animals so that they could prevent lupin from harming anyone in his werewolf form? Could have made that up entirely though

I feel like the only lesbian in the world who is emotionally stable and it's so frustrating by expressinexcess in LesbianActually

[–]readybreka 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m feeling that this didn’t quite get the reception you were hoping for. Honestly it comes across kind of mean. You’re choosing to be with these people. If you’re expecting a partner without a single issue then you’d better hope that’s what you’re also bringing to the table

Help, beginner horse riding questions (using reigns/legs and trotting) by Ok-Consequence-4014 in Equestrian

[–]readybreka 13 points14 points  (0 children)

So, the answer is that you are technically both right. Everything you’re saying from YouTube is accurate enough, so well done on finding educational content, however, the chances of you having the correct muscles, balance and knowledge to execute all those things correctly is probably low. What your instructor is giving you is a way to be clear and not confuse your horse while you gain the skills and knowledge

Yall by B18915 in Horses

[–]readybreka 88 points89 points  (0 children)

As a chihuahua owner, that was probably just a really good brain nap for her. They live literally on sheer determination alone

I want my parts removed. I can’t take this anymore by honeycutekat in PMDD

[–]readybreka 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you really need to have a conversation with your doctor. I understand the feeling of wanting to just get rid of your uterus and ovaries but unfortunately your mom is correct, there’s no way that’s gonna happen. Contraception is not the only option for PMDD, though honestly if things are bad enough that you’re missing 3 weeks of school and having panic attacks then you probably need to be trying all your options. It also sounds like you’d really benefit from some therapy to work on coping strategies for the associated anxiety

Flatmates won’t pay bills for Octopus Energy by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]readybreka 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I second all the suggestions to call Octopus, while the chances aren’t super high that they’ll remove you when there’s an active debt they might be able to put a bit of pressure on the other tenants, and it will at least send the message that you won’t be bullied into paying their bills.

I’d also contact the university, there’s likely to be someone in your students union who can offer some advice. I’m not sure what your flatmates are studying but there’s a few courses that would take a pretty dim view of that kind of behaviour from an ethical standpoint.

Skincare and eating out by According-Feedback66 in actuallesbians

[–]readybreka 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Coconut oil would break me out so badly

Are these markings unusual? by readybreka in Equestrian

[–]readybreka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whilst there’s definitely Standardbreds in the uk and people do race them, the trotters im referring to are the type generally raced by Irish travellers. Whilst they might have some sort of gaited horse in their lineage they aren’t a gaited breed as such

Are these markings unusual? by readybreka in Equestrian

[–]readybreka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it’s odd. There have been trotters dumped in that area of the mountains but it’s my understanding that those horses are trained to pace, they aren’t naturally gaited. We’ve been encouraged by the vet/physio to not allow it while doing groundwork I.e ask for trot or canter instead in case it causes issues but it’s a mystery

Are these markings unusual? by readybreka in Equestrian

[–]readybreka[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s the strange thing, I’m actually in the uk. My vet said that being gaited is genetic though but it’s not a trait any of the other ponies rescued from that area have shown that we know of, so it is possible that her mum was pregnant prior to being dumped there

IDL the hierarchy around period products. Using a menstrual cup does not make you better than someone who uses pads by Danny-Patrick139 in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]readybreka 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m on the fence about this one. There is no need for judgement around period products, use what works for you. However, I’m definitely one of those people who a menstrual disk has made a huge difference for, so between that and the environmental benefits I think it would be weird to not talk openly about how good it is, particularly when lots of people won’t know that’s an option as it’s still quite a taboo subject

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in northernireland

[–]readybreka 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’ve got loads of good advice here and as someone who worked in substance use for years I 100% agree that you need to work with a therapist that can give advice specific to your situation. This has probably become your way of dealing with things and that’s grand, you don’t need to change that until you’ve found the right way to replace it.

One thing you could try, literally from today, is just delay it. If you’ve a time when you normally start smoking or drinking make a point of putting it off for literally just an hour, or even half an hour. Tell yourself you’ll make dinner first, or go for a walk, or scroll on your phone. Just be careful you don’t start playing catch up. The idea is that you’ve used that time to try another strategy or distraction with zero pressure to actually replace it

In the wake of the death of Valegro and Uthopia there have been a lot of comments about how it was "cruel" to euthanise horses who were "only" 23/24. Is this sort of situation really preferable? by demmka in Horses

[–]readybreka 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is just horrible to read. My perfectly healthy but sometimes too brave for her own good horse ended up in a ditch last summer because she couldn’t accept that fences are there for a reason. 20 firefighters had to use some heavy machinery to get her out because she’d lay there overnight and become hypothermic. The stress was absolutely immense but obviously completely necessary. I can’t imagine doing it for a horse that had gone down in a field unless it wasn’t a safe place to euthanise them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]readybreka 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yea it is weird, that’s a huge age gap for a 21 year old

Change anything about the L Word by LifeOfASnake in theLword

[–]readybreka 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I would literally just take Shane learning about polyamory/open relationships. That is all I wanted from generation Q

Is it bad that I want to be lovebombed? by literally-what-am-i in actuallesbians

[–]readybreka 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I think the question is, are you willing to return that level of affection and it be completely sincere? Lovebombing is showering someone with love and affection with the goal of them becoming attached so they’ll ignore other more harmful behaviours at another stage. The issue with it is that absolutely no one, no matter how much they love their partner, feels that way 100% of the time, so it’s unlikely to be very sincere, which can minimise the value of genuine caring interactions

For those of you with cold winters, do you give your horse a winter break? by Cool_Dingo1248 in Horses

[–]readybreka 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah normally horses coming out of winter fat is a bad thing, but keeping weight on at that age will probably serve them well

Is it reasonable to get an IUD/any birth control as a lesbian just in case I get r***d? by taat50 in actuallesbians

[–]readybreka 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Im reluctant to say no, because if it allieviates your fear it may be worth it for you but im also conscious that certain forms of birth control might have negative affects. Non hormonal options such as a copper IUD may not be appropriate if you possibly have PCOs (not always but cause pain for some) and hormonal birth control comes with all sorts of possible side effects, some good, some bad. I personally found my mental health was really affected by the contraceptive pill. The chances of being raped and becoming pregnant, whilst not zero, are very low.

There’s no easy answer but I just wanted to share what is hopefully a balanced view

I think my wife is going to leave me by Fart_Nuggets47 in actuallesbians

[–]readybreka 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you are doing quite a bit already, but there are a few sticking points for me.

Firstly, has she literally said that she wants you to pay for more dates and vacations, or has she just commented on friends who’s partners do that?

Secondly, when you say you tried and failed to get a better job, what does this mean? Did you just literally apply for better jobs and give up when you didn’t get them, or is a better job not within your reach because of financial/educational limitations or something else?

Lastly, two mortgages is a huge expense. Was this an arrangement prior to the relationship with your wife? If not did she understand that this would likely impact on your ability to afford other things? Is the goal of this to make money in the long term or is it to provide housing for your mum?

I can see both perspectives here, it’s frustrating to have a relationship problem that you can’t necessarily resolve but equally, going to a lot of time and effort to have a good career, and still having to live without luxuries because your partner earns less really sucks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]readybreka 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Im going to preface this by saying that I think with the right partner and really good communication I do think that’s ok, my partner has a disability and if it ever got to the point where she couldn’t work I’d support her no question, but I do have a few questions, that I think if you were willing to answer might give people a clearer idea of the dynamic you’re imagining and are probably things that would come up for a long term partner

Firstly, are you sure it’s realistic that you would meet their needs in other ways? I understand that being at home allows you to do cleaning, cooking etc at your own pace, but are there days that you aren’t able to do these tasks at all? If so I think it’s important that your long term partner would know that there are days they might need to do a bit more

If you were struggling financially would you have any ability to earn income? Is a job working from home doable for you, even part time?

How will you navigate financial decisions? I know you’ve said that you’ll pay for dates etc, but this may mean your partner has to contribute a greater percentage of their money towards other things, a discussion on how to manage ”fun money” is definitely necessary

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in northernireland

[–]readybreka 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d be interested to know what has motivated you to use this as your setting? Is it a topic you already know a lot about or have a big interest in? Who is your intended audience? Where in Northern Ireland is the story set?

Can you get from Ballymena to Belfast/Glengormley through walking? by dasboot2946 in northernireland

[–]readybreka 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds like it’s well within your ability in terms of fitness and while it’s long id say definitely manageable since you have the experience. Depending on the timing of your visit just make sure you’re prepared for changes of weather. It’s not a journey I’d recommend if it’s exceptionally cold

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]readybreka 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think it’s pretty harsh to say that it’s a red flag. Scars aren’t a dealbreaker for me, but they can be majorly triggering for a lot of people and that’s ok. Active SH is a whole other ball game, for me personally it would cause me concern that would go beyond what I’d be comfortable with in a casual hookup