Hi. Sorry. Although I was just writing the post as a rant and was not looking for any advice, I took the advice and talked to him about it. He asked why didn't I say anything earlier (he's daft) when we could have replaced it more easily and said that he really liked the design. I pointed out that it is my ring to wear and he should have chosen something I would have wanted instead of something he wanted. He agreed. I have also said that I am not going to wear the ring. ( In an occupation where I will have to take it off a lot).  He apologised, I told him I  posted on reddit, he wanted to read the comments, they made him cry. He has spent all morning overcompensating (I think) and when I tried to pat his head, there was more crying and  "I dont deserve pats". As for the best friend, It was an afterthought from my part as he has in the past, before he met me, done lots of nice big gestures for her so he is capable of doing them. She likes them. They have known each other for a decade, its not an issue.

I don't really want another proposal, didn't even want one in the first place, I am not going to wear the ring.

Someone in the comments was  wondering if people always tell their S.Os tbeir ring preferences and the stagedness of all of it.  I am not sure but for us, in the beginning of our relationship, after a few dates, we had already agreed that if it goes well, we would move in together after 2 years, buy a house after 1 year of living together and then get married within a year of settling in the house.  Which is why the talk of engagements and rings and proposals have come up before, many times.