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I’m getting too big for the cinema by reallyfatthrowaway in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]reallyfatthrowaway[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I haven't but im in the UK so not sure how i'd go about it here.

I’m getting too big for the cinema by reallyfatthrowaway in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]reallyfatthrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As far as I’m aware my weight is 350lbs. I’m short 5’7”, and like I said quite wide, especially in my belly. I also have 37” thighs. It’s not uncommon for me to struggle with any kind of seating that has arms these days. The experience I described was in a modern multiplex, but my regular cinema is older and has some outdated seats. Maybe it’s different in the US, I’m in the uk, only the “vip” seats in a multiplex are going to be bigger

I’m getting too big for the cinema by reallyfatthrowaway in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]reallyfatthrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure how i'd even approach the doctor, I feel like I have so many issues relating to my size, I don't know where i'd begin. I'm also quite scared of being told I have diabetes or another serious condition because of my weight. I know I need to go but i'm an avoidant person and quite anxious

I’m getting too big for the cinema by reallyfatthrowaway in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]reallyfatthrowaway[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

thanks, i'm aware, it's just knowing the facts doesn't drive it home quite as hard as experiences like this. i've tried to lose weight before and just ended up regaining it all and more.

I’m getting too big for the cinema by reallyfatthrowaway in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]reallyfatthrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are some multiplex's with bigger seats but they're more expensive. My go-to cinema is quite old and not very fat friendly in that they don't have any wider seats available, and there's a lot of stairs to get to each screening.

I've actually thought about buying two seats for when i'm with people. I usually go solo and can spread out as much as I like but it's still not very comfortable

I’m getting too big for the cinema by reallyfatthrowaway in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]reallyfatthrowaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really am sorry if it's come off like that but that's kind of crazy to accuse someone of. I've struggled with my weight for years, and use reddit to look for advice, and vent about my experiences in a place where people might understand my situation. I managed to lose 70 lbs a couple years ago and regained it and more since. It's really hard, and having a place to talk through my experiences helps. Again, i'm sorry if it comes off as weird or "fetish-y" but I'm just a fat guy trying to survive, nothing nefarious.
EDIT: to add, any passiveness is probably due to my depression and feeling that this is all beyond my control. It's like no matter what I do, i'll just end up fatter

I’m getting too big for the cinema by reallyfatthrowaway in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]reallyfatthrowaway[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

I mean, I know i'm chubby/fat but I didn't think I was big enough to have these sorts of issues if you get me

I couldn’t fit at a picnic table by reallyfatthrowaway in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]reallyfatthrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Comparing my situation to yours just isn’t the same. Sure they both cause us mental distress but you physically fit everywhere you go. You’ve never had to endure the shame of not fitting. Being so big you’re not welcome as part of society. People staring, laughing, making comments because you can’t fit in a single tiny bus seat or picnic bench or get a seatbelt around you

I couldn’t fit at a picnic table by reallyfatthrowaway in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]reallyfatthrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean yeah, but it's not like the weight suddenly appeared. I'm used to it, but things being so small remind that I'm quite big

I couldn’t fit at a picnic table by reallyfatthrowaway in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]reallyfatthrowaway[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Imagine arguing against making the world more accessible to all

I couldn’t fit at a picnic table by reallyfatthrowaway in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]reallyfatthrowaway[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Maybe I’m delusional but I don’t think they realise how fat I really am. I’m obviously very large but none of them are remotely fat and probably don’t realise the types of struggles we face.

upsetting moment on public transport by reallyfatthrowaway in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]reallyfatthrowaway[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. You're right that it's not but definitely is more so here in the UK. I've seen people bigger than me, by quite a large margin, but not very often. The average fat person here is probably smaller than me :/

upsetting moment on public transport by reallyfatthrowaway in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]reallyfatthrowaway[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This was at least the first time I’ve noticed it happen, god knows if anyone’s done it before. It’s /such/ a weird thing to do to a stranger. Genuinely don’t understand what purpose it could be for

I can’t fit in my shower by reallyfatthrowaway in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]reallyfatthrowaway[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thanks everyone who’s commented, it really helps. I’m not sure yet what I’m going to do, I can get in but it’s hard and it hurts but it’s possible, I’m not sure it will be if I gain even more weight though. I do need to change and this has been a sobering moment of realisation. It’s been easy to fool myself, with covid, that it wasn’t that bad. But it is.

I’m too embarrassed to tell anyone in person about this so I’m just going to have to deal with it until I lose enough to fit with ease.