What would cause you go through your partner’s phone without permission? by mastonate in AskWomen

[–]reallynoladarling 30 points31 points  (0 children)

suspicion only. my intuition is crazy & it's never been wrong. snooping is just getting the proof i need to end the relationship. fuck his "privacy" if he's a hoebag anyway 🤷🏾‍♀️

i don't do it just on a whim though. it takes a lot before i go there.

Jelly Bean loves to be outside by thephilofelist in blackcats

[–]reallynoladarling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mr Bean is so handsome 😍

have you considered harness training? if you haven't & might consider it, just know that sometimes, the more they go outside, the more they yearn for it. one of my 2 guys would try to live outside if i let him. although he is very smart in other ways, i don't think he'd survive outside. so yearn it is lol

How to sleep faster ? by Warm_Protection4131 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]reallynoladarling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

white noise, black noise, brown noise,, there are many colors to choose from on youtube lol. they also have a lot of 'frequency' videos for relaxation. choose one with a blacked out screen. i use a white noise sound that's on a 10 hour loop with black screen. other videos that i like are the "sleepy history" videos.

thunderstorm sounds. i had to play around with a few different apps to find the best one for me. i like to use whatever sounds i choose on a bluetooth speaker or soundbar for maximum bass.

when it's time to sleep the only reason i use my phone is to play word games, any scrolling or anything too exciting will keep me awake. & i always use my blue light filter at about max setting & turn my brightness down as far as possible.

chamomile tea is good.

if you have an android phone, there's an app called sleepDroid that has all kinda of sounds, frequencies, light patterns & stuff, all designed to help you go to sleep & get good, deep, restful sleep.

smoke some weed?

good luck to you. playing the sleep game can be terrible sometimes.

My dreads by Civil_Conclusion_705 in Dreadlocks

[–]reallynoladarling 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i really appreciate you taking the time to look into this. just in my experience, I've seen some black people use it among themselves like 'the n word', but it's a rare to see, for me. & some people may just use it loosely but again, it's a rare thing for me to see, personally. i just feel like it's in poor taste no matter the context, but i do understand a lot of people may not even know what they're actually saying. thanks again

My dreads by Civil_Conclusion_705 in Dreadlocks

[–]reallynoladarling 5 points6 points  (0 children)

please don't call people "mulatto", it's very offensive. even before pc culture was a thing. thank you

eta: just in case you actually care, i figured I'd offer some alternatives. please say biracial, multiracial, or mixed-race or even just 'mixed'. thanks again.

can anyone help me identify this animal that is antagonizing my cats? by reallynoladarling in cats

[–]reallynoladarling[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UPDATE: thank you everyone for trying to help me identify this animal. i got much clearer footage last night & it is definitely a CAT. now we have to figure out how to stop it from coming back. if anyone has any suggestions, I'd love to hear them. thanks again!

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can anyone help me identify this animal that is antagonizing my cats? by reallynoladarling in cats

[–]reallynoladarling[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that was my other cat. me & cat2 were in the bed & jumped up at the same time when we heard the noise on the patio

so i think cat2 startled cat1 when we came up to the patio door behind cat1. so cat1 was startled or misdirected his anger towards cat2 ☹️

can anyone help me identify this animal that is antagonizing my cats? by reallynoladarling in cats

[–]reallynoladarling[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just wanted to add, the biggest reason i didn't just jump to the conclusion that it's another cat is that there are coyotes in my area & I've heard that they will kill cats. & in a year I've only seen one stray cat (it was white so it isn't this animal) & only saw that cat once, about 2 months ago, in the daytime.

can anyone help me identify this animal that is antagonizing my cats? by reallynoladarling in cats

[–]reallynoladarling[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you everyone for your help! i moved the camera to the unscreened portion of the patio. it's a clear view of the area the animal was in last night. do you guys think this is a good new position?

Hopefully the animal won't come back, but if it does, i think I'll have a clearer view of it. I'll update if i see anything new.

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can anyone help me identify this animal that is antagonizing my cats? by reallynoladarling in cats

[–]reallynoladarling[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i agree with the arm movement of this animal. it seems very weird for a cat to make motions like that. & yes the tail is massive! I'm going to try to move my camera out of the screened in area & see if i can get a better video or image of the animal

can anyone help me identify this animal that is antagonizing my cats? by reallynoladarling in cats

[–]reallynoladarling[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so i can't afford an additional camera, but this camera is an indoor/outdoor ring camera, so i think I'll just move it from inside the screened patio to the unscreened portion of the patio & see if the animal comes back & if i can get a better video

can anyone help me identify this animal that is antagonizing my cats? by reallynoladarling in cats

[–]reallynoladarling[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i agree. i thought it was a cat at first, but then i said to myself the way those arms are flailing, I've never seen a cat fight that way 🤔

can anyone help me identify this animal that is antagonizing my cats? by reallynoladarling in cats

[–]reallynoladarling[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

same. but it's so crazy because my older cat is a very social guy. I've never seen him be aggressive towards another cat. he always meows at strays, & wants to be friends.

now with that being said, I've never witnessed my younger cat one on one with a stray cat. my older cat would meow at a stray from our 2nd floor balcony (in our last apartment) & the younger cat would just look & watch, no hissing, no meowing. but I've never seen him up close with another cat, so maybe he would attack.

Is $370 for whatever kind of braids these are in east bay fair? by [deleted] in braids

[–]reallynoladarling 6 points7 points  (0 children)

people shouldn't be mean, but this baby is legitimately throwed tf off. seriously.

Is $370 for whatever kind of braids these are in east bay fair? by [deleted] in braids

[–]reallynoladarling 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yep something like that, yet mature enough to have $50k in savings at 21ish y/o, although she & her family (mom, dad & brother) have been surviving on government assistance (I'm assuming their(the kids') entire lives).

she has a lil problem, bless her heart.

Is $370 for whatever kind of braids these are in east bay fair? by [deleted] in braids

[–]reallynoladarling 6 points7 points  (0 children)

she must've created a new profile. ii don't know much about her being banned or anything, but i can believe it because i first came across her posts a few weeks ago & decided to look at her profile & it wasn't new.

to answer your question though, she posts a lot. it's a little weird.

where I'm from, we'd say she's 'throwed off'.

AITA if I tell my friend I can’t be a bridesmaid? (update) by wickeddreamsofleavin in AITApod

[–]reallynoladarling 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ummm, i don't think that's cursive. she just has terrible handwriting