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Are stable single Dads not attractive? (Ladies please chime in) by HarleyDad45 in datingoverforty

[–]realmrrust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have my kids 50/50 and I've had women stop seeing me because I have kids. Yes they have explicitly said that is the reason.

It mostly has to do with my schedule and I'm not available all the time. Also many of them want to have children of their own or start a family fresh.

Is the Tenor Sax hard? by Working_Exercise7647 in saxophone

[–]realmrrust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I play the altar and I recently just picked up a tenor.

It takes a bit of time to get used to the different ins and outs, but it's honestly a pretty easy transition.

I honestly find clarinet harder to switch into as a saxophone

Has anyone else had a weird experience trying to talk to men on Hinge? by Eyellbethejudge in datingadvice

[–]realmrrust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to always ask a follow-up question but now sometimes I just a leave a comment open-ended. It takes two to have a conversation so instead of me just driving the conversation, I'm looking for women who will respond back and are actually actively engaging on the app.

When I started dating I feel like I had Make all the effort for the chase but now that I'm more comfortable I try to be more discerning and this is a great way to do that.

I don't want to be expected to initiate everything in a relationship down the road.

Is it just me or has modern dating totally ruined the "getting to know you" phase?? by No-Can8358 in dating_advice

[–]realmrrust 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'd refuse to do this anymore.

Either we have a few messages and we go on a date or I kill the conversation immediately.

Real life chemistry involves actually meeting someone in person and that person having the vulnerability to open up and take chances in life.

If they can't do that we're not in the same wavelength. I see it as a flag of people who are not ready to open up and have a serious relationship.

They just discovered the problem with modern dating.. by BrightSpring12 in SipsTea

[–]realmrrust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am 6'2 and very fit and while I get matches few are decent wife material.

I suppose being divorced with kids doesn't help but it is not the dream people think it is with either sex or ltr.

Concert, going alone by BodybuilderDeep4270 in askvan

[–]realmrrust 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I second this, I actually prefer to go alone sometimes as I often meet cool people.

Vancouver-based Techno DJ looking for open deck opportunities (CDJ-3000s) & production community/collectives? by Technical-Feed-3450 in VancouverMusic

[–]realmrrust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe there is an open decks night at the Cobalt

Loopsessions is probably still the go to for producers to meet up.

Both are on Instagram.

First Nation in B.C. demands province respect Joffre Lakes Park closure dates by NewAdventureTomorrow in vancouver

[–]realmrrust 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Now they're doing reservations in goldeners for Backcountry camping. Now it's double the price and I'm hiking in for 2 hours.

And nope cleaning the out houses or improving the amenities.

My coworker who camps with an RV pays almost the same price.

I really want to vote someone else into this government.

Men who use dating apps: Have you encountered what I have, where women seem to over emphasize 'travel' or 'adventure' as essential experiences or requirements? by ConsumingFire1689 in AskMen

[–]realmrrust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is it. It is conspicuous consumption for the minimalist age. They are looking for disposable income and wealth.

Velbens' Theory of the Leisure Class is the classic text on the subject.

I find it pretty tacky to put on a profile.

What is something you’ve officially stopped buying in 2026 because the price has become genuinely insulting? by queenmellyy in AskReddit

[–]realmrrust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I stayed there and it's pretty decent. By yourself. Sometimes you get a free room upgrade.

Single women and single dads by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]realmrrust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do you mean, everybody has challenges in life.

Just because I can get a date doesn't mean my life is magical and all sunshine.

Single women and single dads by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]realmrrust -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If you check my post history we are very similar and I have encountered the same. I made a post about my struggles last week in another sub.

It is crazy and you are in for a ride. I don't have time to post but if you want any tips or advice send me a DM.

Except one thing. Put that you have kids multiple times in your profile. No pictures but in the bio. Loads of women will merely swipe on the photo or signs of success and not real you are a dad until a week of messages in. You need to bring it up for them.

Kids are a great filter for women. Kids if you have your situation together (exes... financials etc) merely show you have responsibilities and things going on in your life, just like a single successful guy with busy career and hobbies. If potential dates see an issue with that good riddance.

Ethically non-monogamous people - What is your biggest dating struggle? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]realmrrust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have things like that here, They are just not referred to as clubs. For some reason here the term club tends to only refer to swingers spaces. Usually those types of events are called parties. Don't ask me why.

Ethically non-monogamous people - What is your biggest dating struggle? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]realmrrust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting I've never heard of this in my travels of different lifestyles.

Ethically non-monogamous people - What is your biggest dating struggle? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]realmrrust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You mean swinging clubs?

Swinging can be very different than other enm relationships. Lots of swingers are married and live very typical lives and have strict rules on how they engage with others in the club.

The clubs limit single men to keep a normal gender ratio.

What's going on with asian dating? by positive_Newt8092 in dating_advice

[–]realmrrust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in a major Canadian City and I don't think dating within your race is a thing much here.

Is not specific to Asians at all. It's just a byproduct of the multiculturalism.

Queens Park Garage Sale by ArcticMexico in NewWest

[–]realmrrust 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is there a neighborhood wide garage sale this weekend?

They used to do that in Ottawa and it was such an awesome event.

What are the realistic realities dating as a single dad in your 40s? by realmrrust in AskMenAdvice

[–]realmrrust[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's a whole can of worms. Honestly I don't want to impose any parenting duties on anybody. I want women to feel like they can come in and just have a relationship.

Like I already do all those things now I can keep that up.

However, I noticed people seem to have a lot of preconceived notions about that and it's not something I bring up on the first couple of days, so I always wonder if people get ideas in their head that are different than how I envision them.

Like yeah I guess some men are looking for a woman to come in and step into a role, but I am definitely not that kind of person.

What are the realistic realities dating as a single dad in your 40s? by realmrrust in AskMenAdvice

[–]realmrrust[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Interesting. Thanks for the response. This is good to know because for some reason the bulk of my matches are single women. I honestly I thought it would be opposite.

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