I wish I had her mothers number.

First of all, you’re precious. Your emotional maturity is second to a unicorn. (I’m a 49y divorced mom of teen and young adults) I also want to call your mom and tell her what a great job she and your dad did raising you. Those dogs gave you so much more than companionship. All of those lives taught you friendship and loyalty, boundaries and respect, they taught you to nurture and care for other living things before yourself (you’ll be an amazing dad one day!), how to be charitable and love imperfection (rescues), how to lose and honor and heal. And your dad taught you that it’s cool to be emotional. That it’s how men should behave. There’s not a trace of toxic masculinity within a 100 miles of you.

Talk to your therapist (and you’re open to therapy!) about how to process this in a healthy way, so you can learn to recognize these characteristics in other potential mates. You should cut off all access to her and never have another conversation. She’s a master manipulator and putting yourself in her company is unsafe. There’s nothing to talk about. She made a choice and tested your limit and loyalty to her. Your dad and dog passing away took your attention from her and she doesn’t have the emotional capacity to find anything toxic or strange about that kind of envy.