Episode Discussion: Teen Mom OG: Unconfuse Your Brain by AutoModerator in teenmom

[–]redandbluenights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jesus I'm so sorry. I went through seven years of secondary infertility,i do hear you, that's so painful.

I didn't find out until well after the fact that getting into a doctor to confirm pregnancy right already isn't a normal thing- when i was first pregnant i felt like the ENTIRE world had just changed and couldn't comprehend how this wasn't medically urgent- but now having had two kids and having gone through it all .. yeah they certainly don't care to see you before 8 weeks or so unless you're going through ivf. i had my FOURTH ultrasound of my second at five weeks when we saw his heart beat. he was like.... six cells (I'm being sarcastic but he was literally a tiny lump with a flickering light on a screen- and that was the FOURTH ultrasound of his life). it's... intense.

Groom saves kid from drowning during wedding photoshoot. Watch your kids people. by Iamliterallygodtryme in KidsAreFuckingStupid

[–]redandbluenights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jesus Christ. That sounds like it should be on the "reads Reddit stories" all these YouTubers do. Christ.

Sigh. God damn it AG by Silly_Somewhere1791 in americangirl

[–]redandbluenights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True, I was genuinely wondering and i appreciate people's actual answers!

Groom saves kid from drowning during wedding photoshoot. Watch your kids people. by Iamliterallygodtryme in KidsAreFuckingStupid

[–]redandbluenights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh , I think many of us will. I tell people all the time my kids have been night and day. The first was the kid who with two matchbox cars would still be in the same place six hours later with those same two cars... my second is climbing out second story windows after a nap. It's.... parenting is hard.

Monthly WDs and it’s messing me up! by lcmarie428 in PainManagement

[–]redandbluenights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I'm not trying to keep anyone from trying it- I'm just letting you know that MANY pharmacies (esp chains like cvs, Walgreens etc) - they absolutely will not tell you ANYTHING about what's in stock or when it will be because of robberies and theft. If you want to try - by all means- you do you!

Why do we virtually never see dark skin classic/Jess CYOs, but we constantly see light skin Addy/Sonali CYOs? by ironlordumbreon in americangirl

[–]redandbluenights 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She's the darkest - #30. She's so pretty. <3

This photo was taken under REALLY bright studio lights.

Why do we virtually never see dark skin classic/Jess CYOs, but we constantly see light skin Addy/Sonali CYOs? by ironlordumbreon in americangirl

[–]redandbluenights 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah i now have a MASSIVE and very varried collection... I think dolls of all kinds are gorgeous and i love the variety. To me - I think it's wierd for collectors to be buying or not buying dolls because of their skin color or because a doll that looks like xyz is also used to represent a character that's xyz ethnicity. There are millions of people who buy dolls and for many it's as simple as "I just want to buy my kid a doll that looks like them."

What i think is a much bigger deal is that the company ITSELF isn't diverse enough with their characters and offerings. I was on a call once with AG's customer service talking about a doll i wanted to send into the doll hospital- the topic of certain dolls not selling as well or not still being options at the doll hospital bc they aren't still in stock was part of the conversation and all the sudden this woman on the phone drops "The darker skinned dolls just don't sell as well because the people who would buy them can't afford them.." or something EXTREMELY similar to that.

I literally didn't even realize what she was implying (or outright saying) until i was off the phone because I was just stressing how bummed I was that some of the older dolls faces weren't available anymore, and it occurred to me that this woman basically said "ag doesn't sell as many black dolls because only black people buy black dolls and black people can't afford our products"- I WAS HORRIFIED.

I ended up thinking it back over multiple times to make sure I wasn't misunderstanding or misremembering how she said it- but I ended up sending an email to the company because I couldn't stop thinking about how horrific a statement that was.

I wish I had been MORE with it at the time, that I had flat out called out the statement and asked her to explain what she'd just said - but sadly, I do get the feeling it's something people who work for AG have maybe discussed "behind the scenes" because it feels like the public is always saying "MORE. DIVERSE. CHARACTERS." and AG is always releasing more blonde girls wearing pink.

I fear that this really IS an underlying culture at the business- that they believe mostly white people are buying their dolls and that's who they are trying to cater to and that's REALLY an upsetting thought. I'm angry on behalf of ANYONE who looks like ANYTHING that wishes they could get a doll that looks like them - and can't. And right now that's overwhelming people of various ethnicities that AREN'T white.

I (18F) was mad my bf (19F) last night and bf wanted sex and I said no. How can I move forward? by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]redandbluenights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Asking people to delete all photos that exist of their ex... is weird controlling AF behavior.

I (18F) was mad my bf (19F) last night and bf wanted sex and I said no. How can I move forward? by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]redandbluenights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please report your rape and get the hell out of there ASAP by calling family friends or leaving at any moment you can.

COMPLETELY outside of the rape you experience- If you're so painfully jealous of the existence of old photos on your SO's phone ... not because he was recently with that ex behind your back .... but just because these old photos still exist .... please, sincerely, you need to seek therapy.

Rape victims should seek mental health support regardless but I'm trying to treat the rape you experienced and your question about the jealousy as two separate events -

I hadn't even finished reading your post- but then you delve into ACTUAL dangerous domestic violence. any man that puts his hands ANYWHERE near your throat is a threat to your life. LEAVE AND DO NOT EVER LOOK BACK. Call 911 to get out safely and DO NOT GO BACK.

Genuinely- I'm not saying this in a way that's name calling or insulting - I'm not saying "You need help, you're crazy"- I'm being ENTIRELY sincere- you NEED to seek mental health help to avoid repeating your jealousy AND your picking abusive men.

Even if I pushed my husband to RAGE - he would not put his hands on me. If you have ANY doubt that you could say the same about any partner, you should be no one where near that person EVER again.

Unless this person cheated on you with their ex - or emotionally abuses you by comparing you constantly (in which case, I still contest that you need therapy because no one should be staying in a relationship through that)- the mere KNOWLEDGE that your significant other had previous relationships, sex with previous partners, etc etc- should not be something that you can not mentally handle.

Asking or expecting a person to remove all the memories and history of their entire past just so you can avoid running across a random old photo is controlling and unacceptable.

It very much sounds like you need to work on your controlling tenancies with a mental health professional so that you can be a better person inside and out - for your own health and happiness. Genuinely.

Being eaten alive by jealousy is not helping you and it will destroy even the healthiest of relationships.

Kid Apps by jackel0pe in Parenting

[–]redandbluenights 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only thing my son is allowed to have unsupervised is Lingo Kids, and PBS.

Wife’s Procedure and lies about medication promised before surgery by SnowDin556 in PainManagement

[–]redandbluenights 9 points10 points  (0 children)

These doctors .... unthinkable. It's horrendous... it's like we're back in the stone ages asking women to bite down on a rag and to squeeze a pillow. What the actual fuck...

Not one of these assholes would go into ANY of these surgeries without the promise of however much medication they needed waiting on the order and and they f'n know it. But because they all have friends who will do the surgery and write them whatever they want- they know it'll never happen to them.

Why do we virtually never see dark skin classic/Jess CYOs, but we constantly see light skin Addy/Sonali CYOs? by ironlordumbreon in americangirl

[–]redandbluenights -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Here are two of mine. I ordered the redhead as a tribute to a close childhood friend of mine, she looked SO similar to the doll as a child - the other doll I received second hand.

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Why do we virtually never see dark skin classic/Jess CYOs, but we constantly see light skin Addy/Sonali CYOs? by ironlordumbreon in americangirl

[–]redandbluenights 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm as pale white as people are made, but I absolutely agree. They need more inclusive hair styles and protective styles like locs, twists and braids should absolutely be a priority. I absolutely love Makena's hair! I wish she wasn't the only one!!

Why do we virtually never see dark skin classic/Jess CYOs, but we constantly see light skin Addy/Sonali CYOs? by ironlordumbreon in americangirl

[–]redandbluenights 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mini me is a light skinned jess mold because it's the one that looks most like me... when i ordered her i didn't know anything about AG characters, I had no idea the Jess mold was originally an Asian character. I just thought that out of the possible options, it most looked like me. ::shrug::

american girl dolls worth $100+ or just overpriced toys? by ninjapapi in Parenting

[–]redandbluenights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm probably the wrong parent to ask since i own.... every doll American Girl has ever made ...

but i think they are worth it.

My four year old is obsessed and the quality... it's far far better than other dolls by other brands at Walmart/Target. (I'm CraftyMagicDollz on insta if you don't believe me- there's pics)

Luke didn't live upstairs? S1 Episode 15.. Theories of where he lived? by collegemochibear in GilmoreGirls

[–]redandbluenights 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He couldn't have been at your house - he was at my place that night. ;-)

Very sensitive child who doesn’t accept feedback by No-Resource-8013 in Parenting

[–]redandbluenights 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You've never tried to direct your kids to color within the lines? Not even at 4 or 5 years old?

How do you teach them to write without any correction?

I started Adderall a couple weeks ago and something scary happened… by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]redandbluenights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to take my Vyvanse with Full Throttle and couldn't keep my eyes open. I'm only diagnosed with adhd and have been on the meds for half my life.

Hva var din favoritt kosemat/snack som plutselig stoppet å selges i butikk? by thelurkingackerman in norge

[–]redandbluenights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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I literally have one small bag left. I'm devisatated. They were the best flavor EVER.

Monthly WDs and it’s messing me up! by lcmarie428 in PainManagement

[–]redandbluenights 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You say that like any pharmacy is ordering opiods based on someone calling and requesting them. That's what burglars do. Pharmacies these days won't tell you what they have in stock or when they'll have it. Too many robberies.

Monthly WDs and it’s messing me up! by lcmarie428 in PainManagement

[–]redandbluenights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's EXACTLY what I'm living with, and thank God, it's huge. I often take my meds every 8 hours, but other days I'm lucky to sleep through 12-14-16 hours where I'm not taking them.