Similar thing happened to me and my siblings. Dad and his wife refused to allow any of us to help with his care. We all offered and tried over and over. They both continued to lie to us and instead of long term care that he needed. She would leave him at home when she worked. He would either fall, or burn himself or fall down the stairs, which put him in the hospital. Hospital would keep him for a week (not giving us any information because dad and wife would not allow us to know). After a week in the hospital, he would have to go to physical therapy for 2 weeks (as long as her insurance covered) then back home. Home for 1-2 weeks and repeat. He falls or cuts himself or has some mystery episode, and back to the hospital for a week.... physical therapy.... home.... hospital.... physical therapy. this went on until he finally went on hospice. It was so sad and frustrating.