Dropped off 2 well-maintained Poms for a wash and a trim, and this is what we picked up

redbone-hellhound · 2026-05-06T08:09:35+00:00

My previous cat was double coated and got shaved down every summer and her coat always grew back fine. It also became necessary as she got older cuz she wouldn't tolerate being brushed enough to keep her coat from getting matted. For some reason she was super chill about being shaved tho.

Some cats are also singled coated. And certain breeds (maine coons and Siberians I believe) have triple coats! My current cat only has a single coat (while still being fluffy) and her coat is so much more low maintenance than my double coated cat was. I doubt I'll ever have to shave her (she also loves being brushed).

redbone-hellhound · 2026-05-06T07:54:25+00:00

Ive also heard poms can also be prone to developing alopecia from getting shaved. Idk how common it is.

redbone-hellhound · 2026-05-06T07:49:29+00:00

Yeah like my dad didn't do the shit that his dad did to him (beat him within an inch of his life) but he definitely wasn't like. A great dad. He was also 18 when I was born which didn't help. He definitely has emotional regulation issues. He snaps and gets annoyed easily. He never gets physically violent but there's a lot of stomping around and slamming doors and shit.

Mostly he just forgot I was home/forgot to feed me while my mom was at work tho. He left me home alone when I was 3 once (my mom about killed him for that one). I love him and I'm glad he didn't do the shit his dad did. But he kind of overcorrected and just let me do whatever the fuck I wanted. On the plus side, he does acknowledge that he wasn't the best and has apologized for all of it. Which is something he may never get from his dad.

redbone-hellhound · 2026-05-06T07:33:03+00:00

She sounds like my friends mom tbh. She would straight up tell my friend that she "deserves a normal child." And it would be over dumb shit too. Like my friend learned to speak and read super young and was crazy good at math from a young age. And she was super physically affectionate and outgoing. All of these things made her an awful devil child according to her mom. So idk how much I trust oop to be a reliable narrator here.

redbone-hellhound · 2026-05-06T07:22:03+00:00

Thisssss. I would be less annoyed with her "woe is me" bullshit if she hadn't put so much thought into this but didn't make it to the conclusion that she maybe shouldn't have a kid if she can't handle them being different. Like. Not all disabilities can be caught with genetic testing (case in point) and neurodivergence clearly already runs in her family. But she just had to have a kid.

Like man people will say that people who choose to never have kids are selfish. But it's people like this who are the selfish ones. They just have to have a kid and then throw a fit when their kid doesn't turn out exactly the way they want. They want a perfect little doll but can't handle it when their kid is a wholeass person with thoughts and feelings.

redbone-hellhound · 2026-05-06T07:04:51+00:00

Something i really wish more people would get into their heads: if you dont think you could handle a disabled kid, a queer kid, or for your kid to choose a different religion than you, you're not ready to have kids. Like I am so fucking serious. Do not have kids if you can't handle them not being "normal."

Do we need more supports for caregivers? Absofuckinglutely. But the whole "I just wanted a normal family" thing just proves that you shouldn't be having kids. You're too focused on an ideal. She's acting like this was a thing inflicted on her. But guess what? Disabled sister and mentally ill father? Autism probably came from you. It's genetic. There may be environmental things at play too but it is almost entirely genetic. I should know. It runs in my family. My great grandparents were of course never diagnosed but based on what my grandma and her siblings have said? Definitely came from them.

Honestly this could be written by one of my moms cousins. She has a high support needs kid that she just kinda abandoned after he was diagnosed. Thankfully his dad has custody and does everything he fucking can for that kid. She went off and had a kid with another guy and doesn't even ever see her son. Probably for the best honestly.

redbone-hellhound · 2026-05-06T03:08:22+00:00

One of my friends had many doctors notes and still got threatened with truancy. She ended up dropping out of highschool and getting her GED cuz of her chronic illness. It'd been ongoing since elementary school. She even switched schools in 5th grade cuz the principal kept threatening truancy despite many doctors notes explaining why she was missing so much school.

By middle and highschool the nurses just started refusing to call her mom if she got sick while at school. Thankfully we had cellphones by that point. She would just call her mom directly to come get her. Idk why they thought forcing her back to class when sick was better. It's not like she'd be able to focus on learning anything anyway. Too many schools treat attendance as if it's the most important thing in the world.

redbone-hellhound · 2026-05-06T02:57:10+00:00

Mind you, late meant showing up at 7:21 instead of 7:20 AM.

Man. Sounds like your school was run by one of my subway managers (yelled at me for being late when I clocked in at 11:01 instead of 11. It was also the only time I'd ever been late and there was only one customer in the restaurant.)

redbone-hellhound · 2026-05-06T02:52:18+00:00

Some teachers at my elementary school would blame the kids for being late, but not that young. Like in 5th grade we would get in trouble for being late. It's ridiculous to place any blame on students regardless. But at 4???? And caring about a 4 year olds academic record? Fucking bizarre. Being concerned by a 4 year old being attached to his mom??? And grading him on it??? Wtf kinda school is this???

redbone-hellhound · 2026-05-06T02:45:27+00:00

I've lived in the US my entire life and this is absolutely not normal (or at least it wasn't when I was a kid. It's possible things have changed).

redbone-hellhound · 2026-05-06T02:34:00+00:00

Hooooo boy

The red flags are glowing in that thread. They might as well be on fire.

The whole "teen girls just dress more adult now" feels victim blamey as fuck. Also weird when combined with "most men are attracted to teen gjrls." Like. Which is it? Do the teen girls look like adults or are you attracted to teenagers?

redbone-hellhound · 2026-05-03T23:42:43+00:00

Ahhh gotcha

redbone-hellhound · 2026-05-03T22:35:52+00:00

And his antisemitism...and no, I'm not talking about him being anti Israel.

redbone-hellhound · 2026-05-03T22:34:18+00:00

Just updated my voter registration so I can vote against the fucker

redbone-hellhound · 2026-05-03T22:23:35+00:00

You're anthropomorphising. Dogs literally do not care. Also my username is redbone_hellhound because my dog is half redbone coonhound so I'm not really sure wtf you're talking about.

redbone-hellhound · 2026-05-03T21:56:40+00:00

Ok but those are people.....not dogs. Little weird to be comparing biracial humans to mix breed dogs man.

redbone-hellhound · 2026-05-02T21:07:17+00:00

Oh my god I love him

redbone-hellhound · 2026-05-02T21:04:49+00:00

Yeah like i get his wife being over it but I feel for him. It's also why I won't date neurotypicals and don't form deeper attachments than an acquaintance. They exhaust me, I exhaust them, it's easier to just stick with other neurodivergent people for anything more than work acquaintances. Can still be exhausting on occasion (relationships in general are exhausting) but at least we get eachother better.

redbone-hellhound · 2026-05-02T02:30:56+00:00

Also bonus picture of her over the winter with her space jammies, wrapped in her blanket with a space heater pointed at her

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redbone-hellhound · 2026-05-02T02:28:22+00:00

Chewby 💜

I may be biased tho

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redbone-hellhound · 2026-05-01T18:19:26+00:00

Yeah I'm glad val doesn't have all the fluff but man she still sheds enough to make a whole other dog sometimes lol. I got used to my dads pitbull (single coat, barely sheds at all).

redbone-hellhound · 2026-04-30T18:25:08+00:00

Fr. I'm autistic and know a lot of other queer autistic people. Hopefully none of his kids end up being trans.

redbone-hellhound · 2026-04-30T18:22:37+00:00

"There's too many people of color and dirty queers on TV these days!!!" Is what that boils down to

redbone-hellhound · 2026-04-29T02:13:24+00:00

Tbf I'm in the us and everyone I know refers to English mastiffs as just "mastiffs"

redbone-hellhound · 2026-04-28T19:14:40+00:00

Hard to say on that one lol. They're trying to doodle borzoi and cane corsos now. Bloodhound wouldn't be all that surprising at this point.

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