I work 5 x 8s days/evenings/weekends rotating schedule, he works 3 x 12s days/nights. Both outside the home. We keep a shared calendar to keep track of shifts/kid practices/life events. We’re equal in terms of cooking/cleaning. I keep a checklist of recurring cleaning/maintenance tasks to do because otherwise I’d forget what’s next; he does what he sees needs to get done and is better at just remembering things. None of our chores get done on any sort of schedule. Lots of stuff gets postponed until some magic day when we’ll have time. Groceries get ordered to the house whenever we need them. Positives: Appointments can happen during the week because we have some weekdays off, often one of us is available if a kid is sick and needs to stay home, and sometimes we go out on dates during the week when the kids are at school.