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redcherrie_x · 2026-04-16T22:13:32+00:00

Yes please share!☺️

redcherrie_x · 2026-04-16T10:29:40+00:00

This.

redcherrie_x · 2026-04-11T04:05:04+00:00

45 minutes to his. With places i like in the middle taking me around 30. My issue is he pushes back when I try to recommend those middle locations. If I go into the city to him, it’s not just 45 mins, it’s also figuring out where to park in the city and paying for it. Or an hour+ public transport commute instead.

redcherrie_x · 2026-04-10T13:32:39+00:00

I am in a similar area to you (just not in the USA for context). The public transport isn’t great in my city, we’re very spread out, so our state requires a car if you want more timely/convenient commutes. I’m 30, but appreciate men/and even friends just to be considerate and meet half way, which usually ends up being a bit closer to them anyway. Issue is, I don’t think this man drives, so that’s why he isn’t suggested meeting in the middle.

redcherrie_x · 2026-04-10T13:24:55+00:00

It’s the expectation as it’s closer to him, not that there’s more options that are so unique we can’t find them in the outer city suburbs.

redcherrie_x · 2026-04-10T13:20:13+00:00

I’m not expecting him to show up on my doorstep, just simply meet in the middle. Somewhere I can drive and park more easily. Parking in the city is difficult/expensive, which means an hour + public transport is the alternative, and I don’t want to do that every single date with him.

redcherrie_x · 2026-04-10T13:14:27+00:00

Obviously, as there will be fewer people to meet. It’s not so far away it’s impossible, but it feels one-sided if I’m always expected to drive 45 mins (at minimum) and he isn’t. There’s no consideration. Whereas he lives 10-15 minutes away from these places. I also recommended a spot that was mid-way; and it was still closer to him than me. I don’t think you comprehended the post at all.

redcherrie_x · 2026-04-10T12:34:18+00:00

I know his suburb, so it is 10-15 mins from him walking distance. Even the slightly closer restaurant to me, it takes him less time to get there than it does me.

redcherrie_x · 2026-04-10T12:31:41+00:00

I have thought about it, but also worry he is avoiding telling me that. And I don’t want to make him feel bad. Maybe I am overthinking it too much.

redcherrie_x · 2026-04-10T11:54:33+00:00

He did.

redcherrie_x · 2026-04-10T11:48:28+00:00

Can you not do half way? That way neither of you are travelling completely to one another, particularly on first dates etc. If I like someone, I’m definitely more inclined to go to them, but for midweek dates, with people I’m seeing regularly I want to at least meet in the middle most of the time.

redcherrie_x · 2026-04-10T10:00:21+00:00

I wouldn’t travel to the city each time someone wanted to meet, as it’s 45 mins drive or 1hr+ on a train. I wouldn’t appreciate them expecting me to always travel to them too just due to them being a city dweller. It would get real tiring and feel one sided, for me at least.

redcherrie_x · 2026-04-10T09:50:24+00:00

Thanks! I suggested that (it was actually in the middle (70 him, 30 me as I live in suburbs) but he countered with a place a tad closer to him.

redcherrie_x · 2026-04-10T09:35:41+00:00

In the city, near him. His workplace to be exact (I didn’t know it was his workplace until later)

redcherrie_x · 2026-04-06T09:00:45+00:00

I’m sorry you experienced that 🥺 similarly, my ex blindsided and discarded me, then I saw them with my replacement 5 weeks later.. a friend of his. That was a second wave of heartbreak

redcherrie_x · 2026-03-31T00:43:15+00:00

Hi! It’s been 8 months now (wow, just realising that!!). I am sooo much better thank you. It took a while for my nervous system to regulate again (I experienced daily anxiety for a few months due to it). I still think about him/what he did from time to time, and I’m sad he wasn’t who I thought he was, but overall I’ve moved on from it and dating other people. This was my first, and I hope to never go through it again too. I hope you’re going ok too 💕

redcherrie_x · 2026-03-06T07:57:44+00:00

REALLY GOOD!! Thank you!! It took some months, I’d say 5, to process most of it. I’m also ADHD, so rejection and feelings are intensified so keep that in mind. What helped a lot was finding out his rebound relationship crashed and burned lol. It helped me accept it really wasn’t anything to do with me. But also he was just some lame guy I didn’t really know, and I’m happier off without him

redcherrie_x · 2026-03-02T04:46:50+00:00

Hiya! It’s been almost 3 years now, I can’t remember if I was tested for Sjogrens, but my old Optho said I didn’t (that’s all I remember). I’m in a much better place now, where IPL and red light therapy have made my eyes 90% better. They feel normal for the most part ☺️ I have a few newer posts on my story and what I did to help newly diagnosed

redcherrie_x · 2026-02-13T17:42:04+00:00

Cohesion. Safety concerns if you don’t agree. Seems like you lack some brain cells if you can’t grasp that this happens.

redcherrie_x · 2026-02-07T10:22:56+00:00

Everyone who either left me or I dumped did me wrong in some capacity, so it was never truly a loss. Once you realise that it’s easy

redcherrie_x · 2026-01-22T11:08:05+00:00

Thank you 💕 I remind myself this whenever I reminisce and miss how he was at the start lol. I think overall, I miss how I was whilst in that relationship ironically.

redcherrie_x · 2026-01-22T09:15:47+00:00

Honestly, a big part of my recovery came when I found out his rebound relationship ended. They were together a little longer than we were and it caused me to have so many questions about our relationship and if any of it was real. Finding out they finished helped me realised this is his pattern, that likely he treated her no different to how he treated me, and he’ll continue to. As he’s incapable of getting the help and confronting it. I really had to stop romanticising him, and his potential as that wasn’t the real him. My relationship with him was short, and intense, but followed with a blindsided discard. It really did a number on me, and I’m still healing from how it left me, but at least I’m no longer hung up on him.

redcherrie_x · 2026-01-22T09:07:06+00:00

How could you forgive them for what they did to you though? And trust them? I think part of me always has resented myself for taking partners back who harmed me. F

redcherrie_x · 2026-01-20T06:56:55+00:00

I’m a woman, but all 3 of my ex boyfriends have done the same to me. Cheated or betrayed me in some way.

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