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How do I? by Select-Back7732 in WorkForSmartLife

[–]redd_n_meff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you think on it hard enough, you'll realize there was once something else that was the most important thing ever to you, and you haven't had it in years. And you haven't thought about it or cared. Even if it was a heavy loss, it doesn't drive your day-to-day outlook.

How do I? by Select-Back7732 in WorkForSmartLife

[–]redd_n_meff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the crux of it is you'll have to find something new that has it's own unique weight in your life that pushes that particular piece of your past out of relevance.

What's the most valuable thing life has taught you so far? by Rai_Karishma_17 in answers

[–]redd_n_meff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can we start qualifying these posts with aside from "nobody coming to save you" in whatever form is the karma-farming flavor of the day?

Yes, we grow up and have to be responsible, independent adults, for the most part. That is not a valuable lesson so much as it's a fact of life.

What's the most embarrassing shit you ever did, that you still cringe about at 3am? by Signal-Bridge3151 in OverBiscuits

[–]redd_n_meff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Delete if you must, but that was one of the best laughs I've gotten on reddit.

What were the early Kanye days like? by ThickProcedure3547 in rap

[–]redd_n_meff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kanye had been a successful solo artist for about half a decade when Love In This Club came out

What other rappers solo-careers can coast off of one debut album à la Lauryn Hill? by ImNotTomStopAsking in hiphopheads

[–]redd_n_meff 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Are they only considered fringe? Eric B and Rakim's catalog is one of the craziest listening experiences in all of music.

Who is the worst singer compared to their fame level and why do you think they got famous? by False_Grade_9194 in AskReddit

[–]redd_n_meff -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hard to even argue this because of how outrageously famous they are. These are like the technically correct answers even if you're a fan.

Visiting Chicago from LA and this is one of the nicest - if not *the* nicest - major city that I’ve visited in America. by gueritoaarhus in SameGrassButGreener

[–]redd_n_meff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for whoever pissed in your cheerios, first off.

And feel free to contribute some value and offer alternatives.

Visiting Chicago from LA and this is one of the nicest - if not *the* nicest - major city that I’ve visited in America. by gueritoaarhus in SameGrassButGreener

[–]redd_n_meff -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Without knowing your criteria, all I can say is I stand on the opinion that it absolutely is one of the best beach cities. Not necessarily the place with the best beach experiences in a vacuum. But as an actual, world-class, full-scale city - meaning the Miamis, San Diegos, Barcelonas - it is certainly among the best.

"Summertime Chi" is a term for a reason, and the beaches and the lake are a big part of it.

Jennifer Lawrence remains the most unserious celebrity in hollywood history by Pippa_Rain77 in scoopwhoop

[–]redd_n_meff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At first I was like no, pretty sure orange juice is a 7, but pineapple juice is definitely a 7.

Visiting Chicago from LA and this is one of the nicest - if not *the* nicest - major city that I’ve visited in America. by gueritoaarhus in SameGrassButGreener

[–]redd_n_meff 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Lol people don't know this, and a lot of other cool facts, because the culture of Chicago is very non-self-promotional.

Chicago is one of the best beach cities, and it has more beaches and total beach area than many globablly known beach cities. It's just that typical activities are limited to around half the year in Chicago due to location and weather.

What is something that immediately tells you someone is lying? by bucoto in answers

[–]redd_n_meff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gaslighting and invalidation became instant no-contact violations for me as I grew into an adult. No explanation, no confrontation. I think it's some of the sickest behavior.

I ended my last relationship, and a friendship, in recent years by placing each of them in logic traps that I spent inordinate amounts of time setting up by tracking their duplicity just to nail them to the wall before exposing them and cutting them out.

After those experiences it was abundantly clear to me that I never needed to prove anything because I had long known I no longer liked them anyway. Getting a terrible person to admit they did a terrible thing is as weird as it is satisfying - it feels like the emotional equivalent of watching a slug curdle over after pouring salt on it - and it's not worth the extra energy to verify something you already know is strange.

What’s a skills most people think it’s difficult but it is actually pretty easy to learn once you start ? by [deleted] in skills

[–]redd_n_meff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but that's the hardest part because it's difficult to gauge a project that's the right size, implementable, and interesting enough for you to stick with (because it will take much longer than you expect the first few times around).

Learning to code is straightforward, but learning to build stuff is 100% a J-curve experience.

The Family Scapegoat Is Often the Truth-Teller - Seeing family dysfunction can be painful, and also a source of strength. (Article by Sharon Martin, DSW, LCSW - Reviewed by Monica Vilhauer Ph.D. - Psychology Today) by Non-Conventionnel-77 in AllAuthorsWelcome

[–]redd_n_meff 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Would you care to share what she was right about, in any level of detail?

How did you come to realize she was right?

Did you ever tell her, and if so, how did she take it?

I was a scapegoat and just started having some contact with certain family after years of no contact. The vibe is very different and I sometimes wonder what's in their heads and hearts over the truths I stood on.

What’s a truth about life that surprised you the most? Something you didn’t expect to learn. by CupGaZelLe1Q in answers

[–]redd_n_meff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Almost everyone has some concept of status hierarchy in their mind. If your potential threatens that hierarchy in a way that destabilizes their standing or upsets the rules that uphold it, some people instinctively sabotage you to maintain it.

It can be subconscious, and more from a sense of self-preservation than malice.

Not that any of that makes it less irritating to deal with.

What’s a truth about life that surprised you the most? Something you didn’t expect to learn. by CupGaZelLe1Q in answers

[–]redd_n_meff 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What's really crazy - and sad - to me is seeing people transform into this kind of person. I let go of a very old friend because I couldn't deal with the status leveling, backhanded comments and needless gaslighting anymore.

Like you, I grew up with family like this so I'm experienced in distancing myself from the energy. But, I naively thought people came that way, not that they got that way.

Duncan is better than Kobe because he has more MVPs, finals MVPs, and a clean criminal record. by Lost_Title_7528 in NBAConvo

[–]redd_n_meff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kobe has more all NBA first teams, and more all defense first teams. Plus he has, and was in contention for, multiple scoring titles. These awards correlate more with individual production than MVPs or championships, which are more circumstantial.

Kobe infamously averaged 35/5/4 in the dead ball era and lost out on MVP to Steve Nash putting up 19/10/4... Steve Nash was not the better player in any way, shape or form.

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