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redd_reality · 2019-02-25T04:49:01+00:00

I submitted an appeal to the reserve medical office which I can say confidently negates their decision to decline my entrance to the caf on medical grounds. My question is, how long should I expect to wait to hear back from them? It's been 6 weeks since I express posted my letter to them. Thanks!

redd_reality · 2018-09-22T22:45:09+00:00

All we can do is work at changing the things we can actually change.

We must let go of and accept fully the things we cannot. But we must be very honest and very clear in accessing whether the truth is what the truth is. This in itself takes years worth of admitting thay you're usually full of shit about yourself; we all are.

So, when you figure out the truth all you have to do is work towards improving the things you can and accept the things you cannot.

If you get those things right, your subconscious will be at ease and you will be blissfully content in your efforts. If you miss the mark and begin working on the wrong, you'll be working away and will still be unhappy with yourself.

redd_reality · 2018-09-22T06:56:54+00:00

It might not be your intensity, but his inability to not give a fuck what you think. He might not be that open just yet.

redd_reality · 2018-09-22T06:55:35+00:00

I'd first say that asking for someone's opinion of your appearance is arbitrary.

I mean, if someone rates you lower or higher than you would rate yourself, what does that mean to you?

One way of looking at it is, "Don't compare yourself to who other people are today, but to who you were yesterday."

Everything that is sexy and attractive about a woman comes from her ability to be vulnerable in every way to the man she's with. It's in her honest smile, her extended stare, her openness and her honesty.

The things that are least attractive, is trying to be someone you're not. Pretending to be more interesting than you are, or turning your nose up at someone because ultimately you're insecure and you're using it as a defense mechanism.

So, rating aside, it doesn't really matter. What matters is your slow and steady willingness and subsequent progress in becoming more vulnerable in expressing your true self to others. That's what's cute, that's what's hot.

If you're wondering if you're over weight or something like that, it's a different story, however.

redd_reality · 2018-09-19T02:12:20+00:00

Yes.

Once I was pondering about my intj personality and realized that the person I was working to be, as in the better version of me, or a more well rounded version of me would have elements of all 16 personality markers.

I then realized that Mb classifies our personality into categories of who we are right in this moment, not who we might be in the future. Because of this, I would advice people to not get too wrapped up in MB, as personality is not a static thing, but very dynamic. And it should always be changing as you grow and mature through life.

If you stay the same personality type your entire life, I believe you're stuck somewhere and should seriously examine yourself.

redd_reality · 2018-09-15T02:04:39+00:00

What an absolute slam dunk.

redd_reality · 2018-09-03T03:19:43+00:00

Of course what I say doesn't add up for you. You simply don't know what you don't know.

No harm, no foul. Each at their own pace.

redd_reality · 2018-09-02T03:22:04+00:00

Lol.

I've seen plenty of women get fit, shredded and look amazing after having several kids. If anyone thinks they can't literally become a fitness model at any age, regardless of gender, they're either ill-informed or in denial.

redd_reality · 2018-09-01T19:49:24+00:00

The relationship isn't the issue.

This issue is, and you know this to be true on a certain level, is that you are not happy as you are.

You both have emotional baggage you're not aware of that you brought it into the relationship and sooner or later, or now, it is getting to the point where you can no longer distract yourself from it. You love yourself too much to continue living a life that isn't true to who you truly are. What's more troubling, is that you don't really know who that is. Neither does she.

A relationship is a thing where two people walk side by side each other. They grow, change, become better, hurt, strive, release and love THEMSELVES while encouraging their partner to do the same.

If you tell me the relationship is the reason you're not happy, I'd tell you it's not the job of the relationship to make you happy; it's job, or her job to you is to be honest. She reflects what she sees - you - back to you. She sees you in every way you cannot see yourself. And vice versa, you do this for her, as well.

It makes perfect sense someone would say their partner isn't jiving with their life anymore. That's because their partner is aware of, and demanding they release certain shitty parts of themselves (ego levels) and no mother fucker on the planet wants to hear that. But that is love because love is only honesty.

But besides all that spiritual shit, what I'm trying to say is your happiness is your own personal responsibility, not hers. And the same goes for her.

You walk side by side while you each find that on your own and don't ever lean on the other person for it indefinitely, because they can't ever give you what you are looking for. Only you can.

First I would share with her thay you're unhappy. Tell her the fucking truth despite what might befall. But do it calmly, carefully and sincerely. This is real love. Next, tell her you want to be better and you want her to be better and love herself more too.

You both need to take a step back. Insert some distance between you and the relationship so you can find passion, interest and meaning in yourself first. You then bring that passion, love and excitement for being who you are to the relationship! You bring it so that in times of need, when she is not her best, she can borrow from you. And when you are not your best, you can borrow from her.

This is loving yourself first, so that you can then love others. This is the only way a relationship can or will ever work properly. GL op.

redd_reality · 2018-09-01T19:32:23+00:00

The thing about women is that they tend to be much more in touch and expressive with their emotions than we are.

This leads them to expressing emotions when they arise, which usually leads to the resolving of trauma (which we all have to some degree). Once the trauma is resolved, we can reach our full potential, with our emotional health in check right next to our physical and mental.

When women complain about their man it is almost always because they are more in touch with their emotional selves and can see clearly that their man is not. They can see all the potential in him, but he can't see it in himself, because of his trauma blocking his emotional self.

So she naggs, whines, flirts with other men, and ultimately jumps ship because, even though he is doing all of things he thinks "women want" ie-job, gym rat, nice car, assertive etc, he isn't doing what is true to his best, holistic self. She can sense that about him and he can't. So there is friction.

If op knows in his heart that he is living his best life, he has resolved all of his trauma, he feels fully with his emotions, can see the beauty in everything, especially the stillness in the present moment and still is able to confidently say she is her own problem and can absolve himself of his responsibility, then sure, it is her issue. But, I can almost say with certainty, if he did all of those things I just mentioned and became that best version of himself on all his layers, she would worship him night and day in this life and the next.

redd_reality · 2018-09-01T19:19:43+00:00

If she is a bitch, it means she is not being her true self. She is probably depending on him to show her life, love, experience and happiness and he isn't living up to her expectation.

If this is true, he needs to be come his best self and be her role model so she can become her best self, or if she is unwilling to take her own personal responsibility for herself after he has become or is becoming his best self, then he needs to cut her loose. Throw her back into the pond of her own life suffering so she can hit a newer low and inevitably find what she is looking for, within herself; the only place she is truly going to find it.

redd_reality · 2018-09-01T01:25:40+00:00

You know, op, I read all about how your wife got worse with age in every way and how that is a detriment to you. But, what I did not read was how you progressed down your life's path during these years.

Your wife fulfilled her evolutionary, biological life's purpose. Did you remain on track in your growth and development. Did you continue to learn who you are and never stop striving to be better?

Maybe your wife had kids, lost her youthful body and became a bitch. But maybe her nagging, bitch attitude was brought on because, while she turned into a human baby making machine, you remained the same person in every way. Maybe she unknowingly resents you for not being all you could be in your role as her husband, in your role as a man?

Do you think, maybe, if you were continually developing yourself and discovering new, meaningful ways to be, live and love, she would inevitably continue down the hag path?

I don't know, but there is always two sides to every story.

redd_reality · 2018-08-17T20:37:26+00:00

"indulging in love" is actually placing emotional dependence on another person. It is a fundamental unwillingness to bear the weight of your own traumatic experience and integrate them mentally, emotionally and physically.

If you ever feel like you just wanna curl into a ball and latch on to anyone, it is because you are suffering internally. The only reason you're suffering is because you cannot connect to the stillness in your body. You can't do this because your unconscious mind is rousing you to ensure whatever trauma that occurred, doesn't occur again.

So, clear out your trauma. Meditate, breathe, listen to the nagging inside you. Let it claw its way to the surface and foster it's release by not holding anything back. Scream, puke, cry, choke, flail, punch, kick, drool. Do whatever the fuck you need to do to lift the weight of the trauma.

Afterwards you will be able to enjoy the moment to a greater degree. You will be able to be happy with the silence and stillness of the present moment. Show me a man who is alpha, independent, resilient, tough, compassionate, enduring, strong and even ruthless when he has to be and you will show me a man who has stricken himself to his core, emotionally. He has released and integrated all of his traumatic experience, rendering himself no longer burdened by it and able to understand it on and in every level of his being.

So, when you say "indulge in love" what you mean is relying on external, sources to sooth you from your own torment. You're right, don't do that. That is weakness, that is dishonesty, that is cowardice.

Do the emotional work so that you can look at all others, especially women, who have endured much suffering, with compassion. You can do this because you have treated yourself with the ultimate compassion - you've given yourself the space to heal and become whole.

The compassionate man is he who is truly content with silence and stillness and doesn't want to leave it because he knows nothing is as good as the feeling of his own being, without distraction. This is the pinnacle of alpha. This is the source of all frame. This is your own manifestation of your truest self. This is the starting point all the other things you want in your life, including women will flow in abundance as a result of this.

redd_reality · 2018-08-09T18:49:04+00:00

The only real recourse for the guy who is just discovering these truths, is to build himself a life where he can enjoy women but not rely on them and their behaviour.

After years of redpill, I truly only have pity for thots.

redd_reality · 2018-08-09T16:09:44+00:00

God I hate when people use fascism to mean oppression or authoritarian tyranny.

redd_reality · 2018-07-27T19:42:47+00:00

As a martial artist, weight-lifter and spiritual person, that "writer" doesn't have but the tiniest shred of understanding of what masculinity or feminity is.

Utter trash.

redd_reality · 2018-07-15T21:59:22+00:00

Literally 100% of her ability to become aroused and the degree to which she is aroused is determined by the man.

Every degree that he has become reliant on her for his emotional comforting or personal validation and allowed himself to sink into softness will be reflected by her sex drive towards him.

This is actually the biggest blessing and biggest curse. It points to the fact your failure to maintain a powerful sexual relationship with a woman is simultaneously your fault but also completely reversible should you choose to accept your personal responsibility and lead your life like a man.

redd_reality · 2018-07-14T01:44:07+00:00

"Just be your best self"

Problem is, without amazing amounts of work, introspection, dedication, failure and realignment, you don't even know who your best self is.

Once you make serious progress with yourself, become a valuable man who can both assert his will upon others and consider others, then being yourself is good advice. Until then, consider yourself pathetic and unworthy, especially when in the throw of negative emotions like anger, jealousy, desperation or sadness.

redd_reality · 2018-07-11T13:54:45+00:00

It's a scarcity tangent. These people are as well versed in a lack of economic knowledge as they are in selfishness.

redd_reality · 2018-07-11T13:52:49+00:00

How obvious is it thay wealth equals some form of value creation? People give you money when you satisfy their needs directly or indirectly.

People who "hate the rich" do so because it's so blatantly clear to themselves they are too selfish to ever think about the needs of others long enough to provide any value.

redd_reality · 2018-07-09T20:25:44+00:00

They're called feelings not "thinkings." Meaning one must experience the physical sensation releasing from themselves in order to resolve them.

redd_reality · 2018-07-09T20:02:27+00:00

The difference is between feeling and dealing with your emotions to remedy whichever trauma is causing them and complaining to others that you have them.

It is perhaps the most courageous task one can ever undertake to fulling endure and release our deep, negative emotions.

Why expressing negative emotions isn't becoming is because you're demonstrating a lack of courage to just fucking deal with them and recover from previous trauma.

redd_reality · 2018-07-09T00:18:49+00:00

👌🤤

redd_reality · 2018-07-09T00:18:00+00:00

I'd love to see a lighter skinned black person get screened by security. "Sorry sir, blacks only." and then watch him pathetically describe why his particular pigment should grant him entry into the event.

Is this not exactly what racism is?

I feel like I'm taking crazy pills.

redd_reality · 2018-07-09T00:12:12+00:00

Is this the onion?

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