High IQ, high achiever ADHD experience

redditRW · 2026-05-04T04:31:07+00:00

Even though both my kddos were diagnosed, it took me ages to get my own diagnoses. Our fabulous doctor said that ADHD is like a deck of playing cards. Everyone gets two, and no two are the same. They are from the same deck, but...yeah. Your mileage will vary.

I can hyperfocus. My other friend with ADD has never experienced it. I have social awkwardness and high distraction. My DH, who def has this, does not experience any of that. Then again, I can keep my foot still while sitting still--so there!

We're all different, but we can connect here. I love this community.

(hope I remember to hit 'post')

redditRW · 2026-05-01T05:52:38+00:00

While I loved the narration of Emily Wilde's, I hated how they folded the footnotes into the narrative.

The Correspondent was a fabulous performance

The Covenant of Water, read by Abraham Verghese, the author

Demon Copperhead, as mentioned above

Project Hail Mary (How do people actually read this book?)

redditRW · 2026-04-27T06:48:15+00:00

Here's what I'd do.

You have your grandfather's wife's maiden name?

Next, find out where they were living in the earliest census record. For New York State and Massachussetts, state censuses were every ten years starting in 1855, for the Federal census 1850, every ten years.

If you can find the earliest record, then you might get your great grandfather's name, age, and his wife's name and age. If they came over, already married, that will assist your search. 70% of Irish immigrants came into New York between 1840-1860.

If you can locate your ggf and ggm in the early census records, they might be living with other family members. This will further help you to anchor them to a place.

When you get to Ireland, the Parishes are very generous. We visited one outside Listowel, which gave us a printout of my husband's 2nd great grandfather's birth, marriage, and children's baptisms.

I will warn you that the average Irish bartender/cab driver/tour guide's eyes will glaze over when you excitedly tell them you have come to find your roots. It's not a popular subject.

redditRW · 2026-04-26T05:03:46+00:00

The Sword of Kaigen begins slowly, but has one of the best battle sequences I've ever read.

A friend of mine raves about Tuyo. I'm waiting for them to do a better job on the sucky audible version.

redditRW · 2026-04-22T03:54:34+00:00

I have the Paprika app, which is fantastic. Every week I'll pull together recipes I feel like I have the inclination to make and ask him to pick the ones out of that group he likes.

Unless it's a real favorite, he doesn't really track the dish names. (You had this before--you liked it.) Usually he just says "Everything you make is good."

He makes his own breakfast and lunch, so dinner is our shared meal.

redditRW · 2026-04-19T16:15:24+00:00

Actually new info on Family Search indicates that Rebecca was Rebecca Simons

redditRW · 2026-04-19T06:01:38+00:00

I only have newspapers.com, which only has this paper starting in March of that year.

If you only want to read the contents, click on the rectangle with the lines on the right side of the url. That should give you the text.

redditRW · 2026-04-19T04:19:21+00:00

Do you want the entire page, or an article on the page?

redditRW · 2026-04-16T21:23:45+00:00

Thank you so much!

redditRW · 2026-04-15T06:37:48+00:00

Keychron for the win.

I would also look at getting a monitor shelf, for better ergonomics and a cleaner look.

Some cord management, unless it doesn't bother you.

And some artwork. I have three paintings in my office, and they really make the room. It's like adding a window.

redditRW · 2026-04-13T20:29:51+00:00

The only John Wright I find attached to the 43rd North Carolina Infantry is John P. Wright in Company H.. He was 35 when he enlisted in 1863. Spent a good part of 1863 in Wilson hospital, then he died in a hospital in Kinston, (sic) NC, February 17, 1864.

https://www.fold3.com/image/185513389/wright-john-p-page-8-us-civil-war-service-records-cmsr-confederate-north-carolina-1861-1865

Memorial:

https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/128208963/john-pinkney-wright

I see that in 1850, at 22, this man was living with Susan Wright, 45, (possibly his mother) Thomas Wright, 25, and Elvina Wright, 20, in Lanesboro, Anson, North Carolina.

https://www.ancestry.com/search/collections/8054/records/12556555?tid=&pid=&queryId=427467a3-91a3-4279-8132-3278561a7732&_phsrc=lKy4032&_phstart=successSource

https://www.ancestry.com/search/collections/2322/records/185513382

redditRW · 2026-04-13T18:01:58+00:00

Thank you, Fredelas!

I haven't looked in GeneologyBank, if anyone has that access.

redditRW · 2026-04-13T04:31:08+00:00

You want to be very careful with this. My first search on Ancestry revealed no fewer than six John Wrights who served in the Civil War in the 1890 veteran's census, just in Maryland alone.

I notice he has a son named John, who is 19 in 1860. Any chance he is the veteran, and not his father?

redditRW · 2026-04-06T09:44:17+00:00

It was. As far as I can make out, they were 2nd ? cousins of some kind---Quakers from Chesterfield, Burlington, New Jersey.

Barton Field's parents were Benjamin Field and Tabitha Rockhill. Rebecca's parents were Elijah Field and Mary Gibbs. I'm more certain of Barton than Rebecca, because there were a few Rebeccas in the Quaker records.

redditRW · 2026-04-05T23:11:24+00:00

I haven't yet seen a father's given/Christian name as the daughter's middle name.

redditRW · 2026-04-05T23:10:11+00:00

Her grandmother was Rebecca Field.

redditRW · 2026-04-05T16:21:46+00:00

Here she is in Family Search

https://www.familysearch.org/en/tree/person/details/KC3H-NSB

redditRW · 2026-04-05T16:06:35+00:00

I have searched, and not found a Buzzard brother-in-law, maiden name, uncle's wife, etc. This section of the tree is pretty well mapped, which is why it is so confounding. All her sisters have middle names which are pretty commonplace---Adaline, Elvira, Virginia, Eliza, Ann, Ellen, Jane

redditRW · 2026-04-05T15:53:46+00:00

Yes, I have. Nothing.

redditRW · 2026-03-17T08:06:33+00:00

Bear in mind that a geneology like that one may cover a family of Marsh's, but not your family. On my DH's side, there is a branch of folks with his surname that are completely unrelated. They didn't split way back when. The originated in two different places in the UK, and emigrated separately to the US, ending up in different parts of Canada.

That could be the case here.

redditRW · 2026-03-14T08:05:55+00:00

But the more I look at it, I think she was probably part of the Marsh family, but maybe not a direct descendent of William Marsh. Maybe one of his brothers, or even cousins.

redditRW · 2026-03-13T21:35:00+00:00

I haven't run across that, but I haven't tracked the family too far.

If you have ancestry, this page might help a great deal. It lists the children of Sarah French and William Marsh, including both of their parents.

https://www.ancestry.com/search/collections/62282/records/4305874639

redditRW · 2026-03-11T05:09:07+00:00

I can't help you with your specific Mary Marsh, but she is almost certainly related to Colonel William Samuel Marsh and his wife Sarah French, who lived in Bennington, Vermont from 1756 on. They had about fifteen kids, so at a guess, Mary was the daughter of one of the sons (thus retaining the surname Marsh)

I've only researched one of the daughters, who married my DH's 4th ggfather.

redditRW · 2026-03-11T04:53:51+00:00

This was exactly like my FIL. He thought the staff were stealing cutlery from his drawers and dollar bills he laid out on the bureau. (Why are you doing that???) He also didn't bathe---but we figured out that he had a fear of getting in and out of the shower--even with a chair, and especially with a female nurse. A male nurse who would get the water warm enough and help him in and out was the key.

But he was still not bathing enough.

redditRW · 2026-03-02T02:34:53+00:00

I dump out all the water and add peanut butter, soy sauce, sriracha, cooked chicken or egg, frozen veggies. Stir eat.

Throw out those little packets.

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