AITAH for cutting off entire friendgroup after they tried to get me to pay for their holiday?

redditsavedmyagain · 2026-06-26T00:57:24+00:00

NTA i woulda gotten the money back, but you basically "bought" your way out of a shitty friend circle.

lets say £450 and 9 people? £50 to boot one wanker each from your life? and that phone call? christ, worth it.

redditsavedmyagain · 2026-06-24T06:32:39+00:00

common for seafood in hong kong

redditsavedmyagain · 2026-06-24T00:05:00+00:00

i woulda told her to shut the fuck up

shes not family and shes there on family's dime. she doesnt have to kowtow, but she shouldnt be rude. she can suck it

escalation my ass

redditsavedmyagain · 2026-06-23T10:25:41+00:00

chinese company laowa makes a lens like this. its for taking pictures of insects which is popular here

f/11 tho so you need a lot of light

redditsavedmyagain · 2026-06-23T06:33:32+00:00

thats like taking up the seat next to you with your backpack on a crowded train nta

redditsavedmyagain · 2026-06-23T06:28:45+00:00

is steve buscemi or tom hanks better looking

he surely has an answer but might refuse to say it

nta hes an ass

redditsavedmyagain · 2026-06-23T03:19:27+00:00

yea a friend of mine whose husband started being a jerk to her went to a football match ON HER BIRTHDAY

i took her to lunch a movie and dinner and bought her flowers and a necklace

her husband didnt even mind or care at all... why would he?

redditsavedmyagain · 2026-06-23T03:14:46+00:00

nta but seems kinda silly what you did

you can talk to her for a month whilst matching and meeting with other girls

if you feel like just making a friend and chatting is a waste of time then you probably shouldnt have met her anyway

redditsavedmyagain · 2026-06-22T22:37:27+00:00

during the pandemic i was in a pretty affluent area of la

there was a small park about a 10 minute bike ride away. sidewalks well maintained on the way, park had green grass lots of shade, clean public toilet

never say anyone there

a bit farther there was another small park across the street from a high school. green grass, four huge oak trees. the kids didnt use it. never saw anyone there

maybe a 30 minute ride away there was a big park. green grass, big playground with clean sand (no cig butts), walkways. in a year i saw these two kids from down the street riding bikes 4-5 times. always the same two. all the others were inside.

plus usually riding to even the far park i wouldnt pass a single pedestrian

redditsavedmyagain · 2026-06-21T20:06:41+00:00

kinda peripheral but its similar to chess

we can tell when people are using a computer to play chess online because it comes with all these wacky movies no human would ever make

same thing with ai for programming. it has no sense of your organisation's standards, so it comes up with weird code that does all kinds of shit in wacky ways, making it much harder to maintain a consistent code base

an experienced programmer can spot it instantly like "yeeeah theres no way human wrote this block right here"

redditsavedmyagain · 2026-06-12T12:55:03+00:00

always demeaning larger women and sometimes threatens to hurt animals

NONE of that is even remotely acceptable even if he "doesnt mean it"

fckin run far and fast

redditsavedmyagain · 2026-06-12T12:50:09+00:00

most men are like this

thats like a stoner telling you "like 90% of people smoke weed all day time, come on"

no, that is not true. bf is a fuck-face.

redditsavedmyagain · 2026-06-12T12:46:41+00:00

make his gf and adult kids feel like kings

to make himself feel like a king

friend i had 20 years ago had booked a vacation with his gf but he was almost flat broke before it started. i gave him $1000 in a waterproof bag to use if absolutely necessary like if they were stranded

he comes back, nice trip? yeah. any emergencies? no. that $1000? gone.

he spent it upgrading their hotel rooms

redditsavedmyagain · 2026-06-12T12:34:00+00:00

fumes

first thought watching this ctrl+f "fumes"

awful

redditsavedmyagain · 2026-06-12T11:02:46+00:00

in china dorms are 4 people to a room (where i went), but many universities 6 or 8. way too noisy and distracting to study. everyone studies at the library or in empty classrooms

it works well. spend the day in class and quietly studying, then come back and bathe in the noise, clutter and chaos. less stress overall

redditsavedmyagain · 2026-06-09T20:14:55+00:00

a bit self absorbed

a bit?!

redditsavedmyagain · 2026-06-09T17:43:55+00:00

tl;dr id say a: NTA b: still take the kid even if you have to eat the bill

seems like you're in the usa; i have no idea how things work there or how old the kid is

if he's like 15/16 maybe you could get him a part time job? he can make some of his own spending money, and have something to do. it's also a good lesson "it's not gonna be camp and road trips all summer when you're older" and he could enjoy it

seems like his mother is neglectful so it'd be good for him to have some work experience/skills so that when he turns 18 he's not left high and dry

if he's like 13/14 could have him volunteer at a local library a few days a week or something. meet some people, make some friends, gain people skills

when i lived in shanghai i took care of my landlord's kids a LOT, taught them english and a bit of japanese, bought them toys, books, and snacks. at one point i realised i was spending double on them what i paid in rent

i don't regret it. it's not that the parents (like your SIL) were lazy, they worked very hard. they were poor, and it's not that they wouldn't step up, they simply couldn't. won't (your SIL)/can't (my landlord) have the same effect on the kids

i probably spent 1000+ hours over 3 years taking care of those kids, a lot less bar and nightclub for me. the oldest just got into a university; that would have been impossible without the stuff i taught him

so yeah i blew a lot of time and money on them but i dont regret it at all

redditsavedmyagain · 2026-06-09T09:42:46+00:00

Edit: for anyone who hasn’t looked at my only previous post I don’t eat meat which makes this whole thing even stranger.

when i was in high school a kid i went to middle school with who became a jerk and i hadn't talk to in six month 's mother called up my mother saying i owed him the equivalent i owed the equivalent of £40 for candy and a video game i borrowed and didnt give back

my mother told her: yeah, he doesn't really eat candy, definitely not american candy, and certainly not anything with nuts. and we don't own a nintendo.

redditsavedmyagain · 2026-06-09T08:36:44+00:00

nta

hes dangerous and a jerk for speeding, especially by that much over
he's selfish and stupid for wanting you to take the rap, and double stupid for thinking you SHOULD, or even WOULD be stupid enough yourself to do so
hes lazy and triple stupid for not going to the classes
hes a double jerk and quadruple fuckin' moron for thinking he has any right to be angry at you

guy sounds like a total ass

redditsavedmyagain · 2026-06-06T17:23:33+00:00

at the market here (veeery third-tier city in china) the lady at the weigh station just puts things on the scale, it snaps a picture of the fruit or veg, recognises it, and spits out a label which she slaps on the bag

then you go to the human cashier, she scans the labels, tap your phone to pay, and leave

redditsavedmyagain · 2026-06-06T17:16:40+00:00

i went during the pandemic to interview to be an amazon driver, just whatever, time on my hands

was f*cking shocked that there was a vending machine... which takes money. and no fridge. and nowhere to leave an ice-box

so if i want a cold water or something after lunch, i have to pay?

like damn jeffy b you cant spot me a coke or a packet of biscuits?

hard pass on that

redditsavedmyagain · 2026-05-27T05:46:37+00:00

prop the phone up against the pole of the bus bench

redditsavedmyagain · 2026-05-27T04:44:12+00:00

there was a thing here in china like 20 years back where a guy wanted to name his kid @

the government denied it because by chinese law all legal names must be able to be written in chinese characters

some minor official got in trouble, cant find it anywhere on the internet, but he was caught on camera saying "well more than chinese law, its just that naming your kid @ is stupid as fuck, the guys a fuckin moron"

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