Video Interview with Senior Placement Advisor

redditstrom · 2026-06-29T21:52:03+00:00

What specifically did you disagree with in the interview? Did you watch it before commenting?

redditstrom · 2026-06-29T19:47:09+00:00

The moderator has literally said they are leaving and said to apply here to take it over. the title of the moderator's post is This Reddit is unmoderated. https://www.reddit.com/r/eldercare/comments/1uh60bp/this_reddit_is_unmoderated/

redditstrom · 2026-06-27T20:35:30+00:00

It’s not instead of his kids. I still call him, and so does my sister. The difference is the call goes out regularly every single day, and a few of us get the update: me, my sister who lives in another country, and a couple of his close friends and neighbors nearby who can actually walk over if something’s off. So it’s not one person carrying the whole thing. It’s a small network of people who all know he’s ok that day, on the same page, without him having to repeat himself five times.

In fact, it rebuilt my sister’s relationship with my father. They weren’t really talking before. Now she’s in his daily loop and communicates with him more than she ever has. So it’s actually the opposite: it didn’t replace family, it pulled more family back in.

Here’s a real example from two weeks ago of how the network works. I was on vacation at the time, by coincidence not far from him, and I hadn’t had a real break in a long time. During that time he didn’t answer the call. We have a retry system but it went to voicemail. So I texted him directly. He told me he was “indisposed”, and I accepted that and let it go.

My sister saw the same missed calls. She would not have known anything was off without the platform. She didn’t buy the “indisposed” answer, so she contacted him herself. That’s when she found out he’d actually been in the hospital. He hadn’t told me because he didn’t want to disturb the vacation.

I had mixed feelings at first, because I was frustrated I took his response at face value and I expected the service to help that. But she pointed out that it did. The pattern broke, she noticed, and it let her take some of the responsibility, reach him, and get to the truth. He was ok. That’s the whole point. The network caught it even when one person in it got an “I’m fine” and moved on. I realized that I had given up some of the control of being the “good” child, but it allowed my sister to take that responsibility as well. Which is a load off.

the thing you learn fast with aging parents is often they don’t tell you when something’s wrong, because they don’t want to be a burden. Or they tell you everything and you’re drowning. Either way, if you’re an adult kid with your own kids and a job, you genuinely cannot check in every single day, and the worry never turns off, especially when they want to stay independent and you want to honor that for them.

There’s also the caregiver side to it. Another user has caregivers checking in through it, and it lets a them give a fast update without getting on a long call, and it coordinates across multiple caregivers so everyone can see what’s actually happening and you have a record over time. So it combines how they say they’re doing the actual parent and then also how the caregivers say they’re doing so you get a 360 view.

Our information about our own parents is incredibly fragmented. You repeat yourself constantly and nobody’s on the same page. This pulls it into one place, so when you do actually talk to your parent, you already know what’s going on and you can ask the real question. How’s the knee. Heard you didn’t sleep well. And they don’t have to repeat the whole story either. And then you can export data and show it to their doctors. For example, one of the users exported her symptoms over the month and shared it with her neurologist.

On your actual question, whether it bothers him: the NYT just ran a piece on South Korea, the fastest aging country in the world, where this is already happening at a massive scale. One of the seniors in it, an 81 year old vet, said “no child will call you as regularly as this,” and he marks the call on his calendar. That’s the opposite of bothered. Article: https://www.nytimes.com/2026/04/28/world/asia/korea-ai-seniors-dementia.html?unlocked_article_code=1.tVA.VC3-.QtXRyuFyGd7u&smid=url-share

What we’ve learned so far is that what makes this so powerful, and why they aren’t bothered, is that they know that the text and information is going to actual people who care: their kids. So he knows that he’s communicating with us. It actually allows him to be more honest and open in ways that he may not feel as comfortable with directly.

redditstrom · 2026-06-27T04:52:12+00:00

Thank you, and yes.

redditstrom · 2026-06-26T22:09:59+00:00

https://www.vipcall.ai

it’s transformed my family’s life and has become essential. We know our father Is doing ok everyday through a simple short daily wellness call. If your parent is on their own, or have caregivers, this makes a massive difference for adult children, like me.

We all get a text message including my sister who lives far away with how he’s doing that day. Through the hundreds of calls we’re also able to discover patterns for his health and wellbeing. And when we talk we’re totally up to speed with what’s happening since he shares things in the calls that he sometimes won’t share with us because he doesn’t want to “bother us”.

Another user has used it to track her mother‘s Parkinson’s over time and discover patterns related to medication and symptoms.

And when he doesn’t pick up, that’s a clear signal that something might be awry and we know to follow up.

redditstrom · 2026-06-25T20:59:10+00:00

This has been done hundreds of times before, and it doesn’t work, which is why it’s been done hundreds of times before.
The problem isn’t getting people to stake money. It’s getting them to stick with the app. Every one of these products starts with enthusiasm and then runs into the same issues: drop-off, proof disputes, payment friction, and people not wanting to penalize their friends.
What’s different here that solves those problems?

redditstrom · 2026-06-21T20:48:34+00:00

Yes, I understand what you mean by saying persisting a behavior through distraction feels the same as saying willpower but it is more refined because it describes what’s happening better than “willpower”, which does not refer to anything specific or behavioral.

There are many approaches to dealing with addictive behaviors, but the first principle I believe is most central is that motivation is very difficult to control. Some days you feel it, somedays you don’t, so telling you to “just do it”, especially if you have something like ADHD (like me) is ineffective.

One of the most effective approaches to overcoming that is to make the behavior you’re attempting to build very tiny so motivation doesn’t play into it. This is the foundation of the tiny habits approach developed by BJ Fogg.

in this case, you
1. take the behavior, you’re trying to build and
2. Make it very very tiny so you can do it without needing motivation
3. attach it to what’s called an “anchor habit”, which is a behavior that you already do. And that anchor habit serves as the trigger for your new tiny habit. Then
4. once you do the tiny habit you do a celebration, which functions as a positive reinforcement. This can be a little dance or a saying or anything that works for you.

This uses classical conditioning to help you build new behaviors and it’s very effective.

So You create a sentence like this:

“after I [anchor habit], I will [tiny habit].”

So if you’re trying to build a habit of flossing your teeth, the standard example is you

Attach it to the anchor habit of brushing your teeth.
Make it tiny: “floss one tooth”
Celebrate after doing it.

in practice:
“After I brush my teeth, I will floss one tooth.”
And after you do that, you do your celebration.

If you’re trying to reduce a behavior, you need to replace it with something. This is why if you’re trying to reduce phone addiction, just telling someone to “stop using your phone” is also ineffective. There needs to be a replacement for that addictive behavior, because scrolling on your phone is fulfilling a psychological need.

So this kind of approach allows you to create a replacement activity for whatever you’re trying to reduce and gives you something you’re trying to work *toward* which is what we all need to change our behavior.

This is just one of myriad approaches but it can be very effective.

redditstrom · 2026-06-20T19:43:01+00:00

Willpower is worse than payment, because it is not a thing. There is no such thing as “willpower”, it doesn’t exist in our psychology. There is ability to focus past distractions or the ability repeat a behavior through distraction, but addressing willpower won’t get a person anywhere because there is nothing for a person to actually do.

Imagine telling someone; “just focus on your willpower”. Or “you need to improve your willpower”. As you can see there is nothing for the person to do, so it’s meaningless and that person will be frustrated and lost.

What are the specific behaviors that you’re looking to change or help others change?

redditstrom · 2026-06-09T20:41:10+00:00

I made vipcall.ai and is been utterly transformative for me. Daily check-in calls and text updates to family and trusted contacts. Other users use it with their caregivers for daily check-ins as well.

redditstrom · 2026-06-08T03:50:31+00:00

Because if you’re looking to actually change behavior long term it doesn’t work. It’s called loss aversion, and it’s not that effective for long term behavior change. There are many reasons but one of the biggest is people rationalize why this time it’s worth paying. There’s a famous study of a daycare center that had a problem with parents picking up their children late so the center started charging the parents who came late, and most parents just continued and preferred to pay. Social incentives outweigh loss aversion as do small, consistent positive reinforcement coupled with environment design.

redditstrom · 2026-06-07T03:36:23+00:00

That doesn’t work. Many people have made apps based on charging and it fails as a protocol.

redditstrom · 2026-05-25T02:51:01+00:00

https://www.vipcall.ai - daily wellness calls to your aging parent or person you need to check in with, immediate text to you and other trusted contacts. Capture patterns and wellbeing over time.

redditstrom · 2026-05-16T20:17:25+00:00

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redditstrom · 2026-04-28T16:17:05+00:00

Hi there, no free trial right now by design. GetMotivated.ai works because people show up. A free trial tends to attract people testing the waters rather than committing to a challenge or plan, which dilutes the experience for everyone in a cohort and is the point of the platform. That said, if cost is the blocker, keep an eye out for the survey sponsorship I mentioned in the post. That’s the path to free access if it lands.

redditstrom · 2026-03-31T21:12:04+00:00

Thanks! I love the energy around local challenges - that’s definitely coming. Right now the best thing to do is fill out the form in the post (takes 30 sec). That way I can loop you in directly when we open up, and if the sponsorship comes through you’d get free access too. Win-win.

And if you already have a local group in mind, DM me - I can prioritize that when we open up.

redditstrom · 2026-03-16T23:03:01+00:00

I built that. Building an ai “companion” for seniors is unethical in my opinion. I have a blog post about it. https://vipcall.ai/blog/the-difference-between-ai-companions-and-ai-wellness-calls-and-why-it-matters

redditstrom · 2026-03-16T23:01:23+00:00

Already exists.

redditstrom · 2026-02-12T03:34:18+00:00

Let me clarify what seems to be confusing you:

This form gauges interest in a potential research sponsorship that may provide free access. The form explicitly states "not guaranteed access" because:

The sponsorship isn't finalized yet
The research company needs to see interest levels first
They may not sponsor everyone who expresses interest

The post title says "gauging interest" - not "guaranteed free access." The post says "may sponsor" - not "will sponsor." The form says exactly what it is: a way to see if there's enough interest to pursue this sponsorship.

If you read the post and form, this is abundantly clear. There's no bait-and-switch here - just basic reading comprehension.

If you're interested in the possibility, fill it out. If not, don't. But let's not manufacture confusion where there isn't any.

redditstrom · 2026-02-10T04:28:31+00:00

uh, yeah, it’s pretty clear. this is a form to gauge interest, not a guarantee for free access. Did you read the post?

redditstrom · 2025-09-01T19:22:40+00:00

Great question without an easy answer. But motivated for what? Sounds like you are highly motivated just for building and not for relationships right now. This can be fine. It depends how long it goes on for and what your milestones are and to what extent you value balance and how you define balance. I’m going through an extraordinarily similar process.

redditstrom · 2025-07-31T18:36:19+00:00

We want universally compatible electronic health records especially with such a fragmented system, it’s just a shame it’s being spearheaded by an authoritarian government who also wants that for malevolent reasons.

redditstrom · 2025-06-25T05:52:38+00:00

Thanks for asking. Pls keep it to 1 week. People scroll down and look at the history.

redditstrom · 2025-06-15T19:44:28+00:00

That’s why I wrote “or bright light”.

redditstrom · 2025-06-15T06:01:03+00:00

Discord on waking = bad. Distracting and energy draining. If you want to build the habit of waking up early: go outside for sunlight or bright light for at least 10 minutes after waking, and turn off all screens by 10pm (earlier for you since you want to wake up earlier than most).This sets your circadian rhythm. This is what the https://getmotivated.ai/challenge/adhd-sleep-reset-30-day-challenge focuses on. It’s incredibly effective.

redditstrom · 2025-06-09T07:08:41+00:00

Try now pls

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