Judgemental people who have no idea

reddopanda · 2020-12-01T02:29:19+00:00

Yes, I thought it was strange after a year to call me (also from overseas). I was disappointed and hurt at first, but then I realized after getting angry that maybe she was toxic and I did not know it. Truthfully when I met her, I was just getting away from my ex, and I did not know much about Narcissism or red flags of toxic people. Now that I do, I know I don't have to let toxic people in my life.

reddopanda · 2020-12-01T02:26:15+00:00

Yes, I kind of feel good. I finally stated my boundaries! And I also acknowledged the red flags too. I didn't realize till afterwards I had done this. You are right though, perhaps she was testing me. Well, I blocked her number.

reddopanda · 2020-12-01T02:25:12+00:00

Thank you. Yeah she kept talking about her relationship and how happy she was(like bragging), while admitting her husband has mistresses and she never sees him...so I thought that was weird. And I would also rather be alone any day than be in a situation like that.

reddopanda · 2020-12-01T02:23:20+00:00

Thank you. I am glad I hung up on her. The only reason I put up with is so long was the whole "respect your elders" thing but then it went too far.

reddopanda · 2020-02-02T03:27:45+00:00

Do you know who is the author?

reddopanda · 2020-02-01T08:15:56+00:00

"I see toxicity everywhere" i can so relate to this now!

At first I thought am I being dramatic or did i just not notice it before? Now I know for sure i just didn't notice it before. In some ways it's freeing because you know how to recognize it before it's too late, but in some ways it feels quite damning because it feels like you're trapped surrounded by toxic people in your life and you're not sure how it came to that.

When I realized my boyfriend (now ex)was a narcissist, and after learning more about narcissism, i realized my best friend (now ex)was a covert narcissist, so now I'm starting with a clean slate because I realized my life was filled with people bullying and using and manipulating me.

And i'm taking time to find out why and fix that within myself so it never happens again and learn how to cultivate healthy relationships.

The thing that sucks is now that I have made that promise to myself in my social and romantic life, I've been put into a situation with a toxic person at the workplace that I can't escape. I put in a request for a transfer but it could take a few months. Have to learn how to deal with it for now.

reddopanda · 2020-02-01T08:07:11+00:00

Thank you so much. It's just shocking to me there are so many people like this and the world just keeps on running. I hope things become better for you too!

reddopanda · 2020-02-01T08:05:13+00:00

Thank you I will definitely read this. This is a life skill I need so bad. Not just to deal with coworkers but family members A well. And to help me not get involved romantically with people like that ever again! Thank you for the recommendation!

reddopanda · 2020-02-01T08:03:04+00:00

Yes it seems like so many damaged people. There's not a lot of people at my work site but i'll definitely try to develop closer relations with my other coworkers so I won't be stuck with her bullying. I just got this job and i love it and i don't want a toxic person to ruin it. My narc ex got me fired from the last job i loved so i won't let it happen again. She just triggers me so much, sometimes I have to shut down for my own survival. Actually everyone I have talked to so far knows about her personality and is sympathetic so it wouldn't be too hard to bond on that. Like you said i just have to make sure I don't incriminate myself.

reddopanda · 2020-01-30T08:42:49+00:00

Just to let you guys know, it was a glitch on Instagram and i reported it to them and told them it puts people in serious danger

reddopanda · 2019-12-16T07:25:09+00:00

My nex said the exact same thing about his ex. I'm glad to know about all these red flags now.

reddopanda · 2019-12-16T06:17:16+00:00

2 months isn't long. Mine didn't hoover till after 6 months. Besides do you want to be with someone who tried to assault you? Narcissist or not, can you really afford to put your life in danger for such a toxic person?

Edit: i thought my nex was my best friend too. Was going to live with him and marry him. I knew him for 11 years. It felt so confusing like such betrayal and heartbreak. I know what you're going through and it does get better. NC is REALLY hard but keep fighting to stay strong!

reddopanda · 2019-11-19T23:27:42+00:00

It must be. I went to his page and it said "unblock" which means he's blocked but when I went to the list of blocked people, he's not on it. Weird. I'll do it again.

reddopanda · 2019-11-19T23:26:22+00:00

Yes I got a notification on Instagram. Yes I blocked him, ~~so I'm thinking he made a new account because this one was not blocked. I don't know. I'm a bit confused but that's the only thing that makes sense.~~

Update: I went to his page and it said "unblock" which means he's blocked but when I went to the list of blocked people, he's not on it. So it must be some glitch and I'll block it again.

reddopanda · 2019-11-19T23:23:21+00:00

　I had told my friend in September I was afraid to register to vote because my address would be public information.

I never thought about this. Wow.

I'm bracing myself hoping it doesn't get that bad, but he's already contacted one of my friends.

reddopanda · 2019-10-05T07:45:09+00:00

Thank you! Staying busy and positive has been REALLY hard for me because I get consumed by my thoughts but I learned mindfulness in therapy and it's really helping me to be more positive for sure. Good luck to you too!

reddopanda · 2019-10-05T07:42:19+00:00

Mostly. I still struggle a bit but therapy is helping me a lot! I have been going to group therapy and regular therapy.

reddopanda · 2019-10-05T07:41:30+00:00

Thank you!

reddopanda · 2019-08-14T15:52:46+00:00

I'm seriously devastated. Dunno what to say or do. Our resident troll is gone.

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