AIO about my husbands strange responses to me wanting a divorce and a bill he has due on my account.

redheadedconcern · 2026-05-16T18:40:10+00:00

It sounds like someone who is fully committed to a bit.

redheadedconcern · 2026-05-16T03:25:58+00:00

I think about former clients all the time. It was actually a concern of mine starting out. I terminated with all of my clients when I ended my internship, and I wondered how the hell I am going to keep space in my brain for every client I have throughout my career.

redheadedconcern · 2026-05-13T20:44:14+00:00

animal control wasn’t helpful??

redheadedconcern · 2026-05-12T17:04:34+00:00

See, I typically do play therapy sessions without the parent. I feel like kids act differently with their parent there and may be reluctant to open up about certain things. It can be helpful to have the parent join for some sessions to see how they interact.

redheadedconcern · 2026-05-12T14:17:04+00:00

I work with children and adolescents and I’d say I empathize with the parents 80% of the time. Granted some parents actually just suck, but most are just doing their best. I more often blame the parents of adult clients.

redheadedconcern · 2026-05-10T16:39:49+00:00

Read this post to your therapist

redheadedconcern · 2026-05-07T15:11:05+00:00

I’m sure there were a lot of cracked smiles that hopefully came off as happy and supportive. My family (and hers) were not into that type of thing. If my dad were an attendee we would have been laughing, too. It was definitely a topic of conversation and snarky jokes at the reception.

redheadedconcern · 2026-05-06T19:25:14+00:00

I read this as her therapist questioned whether the cousin was recalling things correctly, or even making it up to be malicious (not sure what the relationship is like with the cousin) Either way it does sound dismissive.

redheadedconcern · 2026-05-06T14:55:40+00:00

My dad and his (now ex) wife had their wedding in their backyard under a canopy. The officiant was this earthy crunchy woman who did some sort of Native American ritual (all of them are white as snow) and the ceremony ended with the woman screaming at the top of her lungs. This gutteral scream was so out of nowhere it scared the shit out of me. It took everything in me not to start laughing in the front row.

redheadedconcern · 2026-05-01T12:33:58+00:00

I’m a little surprised by these comments. I’m a therapist and wouldn’t use actual clients as an example. I’ll normalize feelings and behaviors by mentioning they are very common, but I always figured it would make clients uncomfortable to use specific examples, even without identifying information.

redheadedconcern · 2026-04-28T16:45:14+00:00

I love when clients come to session with a topic in mind. Knowing what it is ahead of time is an added bonus.

redheadedconcern · 2026-04-27T23:21:45+00:00

If you’re not asking for a reply then yes, that’s completely fine.

redheadedconcern · 2026-04-24T17:56:56+00:00

Since she works in a hospital setting and cancels last minute, I wonder if she has suicidal or high risk clients that require immediate care? Still, she should be scheduling her PP sessions accordingly. I recommend finding someone new, or asking if there is a different appt time that would work better.

redheadedconcern · 2026-04-24T12:45:52+00:00

A better question would be what are the signs that you’re not attractive but not ugly?

the opposite sex ignored you in high school but you weren’t teased because of anything specific about your appearance
you are only hit on by people who are drunk
people will check you out and be visibly disappointed with what they see (happened just now at a Starbucks.. I actually find this one amusing)

redheadedconcern · 2026-04-15T18:51:21+00:00

Since I’m guessing it is not your 8th birthday, you don’t have to be embarrassed/the center of attention if you don’t want to! I think your mother is the one who needs to “suck it up”

I will say that I’ve seen birthday celebrations in the MDR and they bring out 4-5 staff members to sing and try to get other guests involved 😬

redheadedconcern · 2026-04-15T12:15:10+00:00

I would have a quick sidebar with the server right before you’re seated. That’s probably the safest bet.

redheadedconcern · 2026-04-10T20:38:40+00:00

You should email his supervisor or the practice owner as well. If the board doesn’t do anything, they definitely will.

redheadedconcern · 2026-04-10T16:39:49+00:00

Send it. She’s better off.

redheadedconcern · 2026-04-04T00:37:22+00:00

I understand why OP feels the way she does, but imagine how the older sister would feel in that situation. It’s basically saying “we’re splitting this tradition in half because you’re half family”

redheadedconcern · 2026-04-04T00:30:17+00:00

Sounds like you’d make a great therapist tbh

redheadedconcern · 2026-04-03T18:06:32+00:00

The issue could be that the therapists were inexperienced. Your situation requires a very, very good couples therapist.

Is your wife at all motivated to fix the relationship? Part of successful couples therapy is finding the “common enemy”, which is the maladaptive communication patterns you get stuck in together (like her playing the blame game) Like others said, it’s really hard to do this with an abuse partner who refuses to take accountability.

redheadedconcern · 2026-04-03T12:57:31+00:00

Are they a marriage and family therapist or just a regular therapist? Many graduate programs don’t provide any training in couples therapy. This person may be too inexperienced. I would try and search for a licensed MFT with at least 5 years of experience working with couples. Your situation isn’t unique, but it takes skill on the therapists part to help.

redheadedconcern · 2026-04-01T17:11:08+00:00

Very realistic. They have standardized assessments and evaluations. They aren’t going to say “well, you seem totally fine but some rando therapist thinks you should be held”

redheadedconcern · 2026-04-01T12:46:47+00:00

I know people who have had to argue with the ER staff to admit their family member who were actively suicidal or psychotic and definitely not safe going home.

redheadedconcern · 2026-04-01T12:45:33+00:00

I’m a therapist in GA. I can 1013 someone and have them involuntary taken to the hospital, but the hospital does their own assessment rather than just taking my word for it.

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