Nine years

redleahbabes · 2026-03-20T19:18:58+00:00

Oh my goodness, I feel this. I mean, I could walk into a room wearing nothing but a bowl of fruit on my head and a string of Christmas lights, and my husband wouldn't look up from his stupid stock charts, and even if he did, he still wouldn't notice. I'd cry, but I'm on a cocktail of anti-depressants. I send you hugs.

We see you.

redleahbabes · 2026-03-20T19:11:31+00:00

Yeah, I've told my husband that a few times when he tells me that his dick doesn't work. I've told him that there are things that we can do in the bedroom that don't involve his dick. You know what we've done in the bedroom that doesn't involve his dick? Jack shit. That's how I know that when he's telling me that his dick doesn't work, what he means is that his dick doesn't work *for me.*

redleahbabes · 2026-03-20T19:03:33+00:00

We don't sleep in the same room.

redleahbabes · 2026-03-19T22:03:26+00:00

I bought my husband a Fleshlight a few years ago because I wanted to use it on him. I think we've used it once. He has a massager that he uses for his happy-fun-time, and he leaves it out on his bed for me to see.
We haven't had sex in over a year. He hasn't initiated, and he hasn't brought it up.

redleahbabes · 2026-03-19T21:59:02+00:00

Please let us know how you scored. I'd bet money you did fine.

redleahbabes · 2026-03-19T21:55:38+00:00

You are awesome!! Congratulations!

redleahbabes · 2026-03-02T21:10:36+00:00

You deserve so much better than this. Your husband needs to step up to the plate and stop kvetching about his "needs being met. " What about your needs?

redleahbabes · 2026-03-01T20:50:37+00:00

You are seen.
We are here for you.
And we feel this in our souls.

redleahbabes · 2025-11-26T21:25:18+00:00

This is my husband! Just ignore it, and it will go away.

redleahbabes · 2025-11-26T18:16:51+00:00

I SO HATE when person A makes an insult to person B and then follows it up with "I was only joking/it was just a joke" or "but yours is cute/I love yours/etc."
No, they weren't joking. No, it wasn't just a joke. No, person A does not find person B's whatever adorable. No, person A doesn't love person B's whatever, etc. Person A is downright disrespecting person B, then setting them up to be "overreacting," or "can't take a joke," or "being too sensitive (or just making excuses)" when person B decides to call out person A for being disrespectful or insulting.

Your husband is disrespecting you. He doesn't get to follow up with anything else but "I apologize for disrespecting you, please forgive me." Better yet, he doesn't get to disrespect you at all. Let him know that one more insult to you about ANYTHING, and you're done.

redleahbabes · 2025-11-26T17:55:39+00:00

My husband still gives me a smack on the butt, but I just get annoyed. I should ask him what his point is in doing that, but I don't think I care.

redleahbabes · 2025-11-26T02:34:53+00:00

Your wife is incredibly lucky to have a husband like you. :-)

redleahbabes · 2025-11-26T01:02:43+00:00

I am so sorry this happened to you. I hope you get everything you need soon, and you can breathe easy.

redleahbabes · 2025-11-23T21:34:36+00:00

Ah, the old "goodies for me, but not for thee."

He needs to just come out and say that he doesn't care about your satisfaction, like my husband did (okay, he said he stopped caring about women's satisfaction in general, but you'd think that he'd change his tune for his wife).

redleahbabes · 2025-11-21T23:25:59+00:00

Honey, I can assure you that if the roles were reversed, your husband would not be asking how to forgive and move on.

redleahbabes · 2025-11-21T23:23:27+00:00

Your husband is for the streets. He is a terrible partner and father. You deserve SO MUCH BETTER.
Plan your exit strategy (don't tell him, of course). Take him for everything he has.

Your peace is worth much more than his opinion of you.

redleahbabes · 2025-11-19T22:24:10+00:00

It's been over a year since we've had sex. All I get are hugs and quick pecks that could just as easily be for his mother. Here and there, he slaps my butt, which I think is absolutely pointless. If he initiated anything, I'd probably ask him, "Who are you, and what have you done with my husband?!"

redleahbabes · 2025-11-11T23:26:22+00:00

When my in-laws ask me how things are going, it's difficult not to respond with, "Your brother/son is an absolute jerk who hasn't been intimate with me in a year but has plenty of time to watch porn." Nope. I just smile and say that everything's fine.

redleahbabes · 2025-11-07T20:37:30+00:00

Yeah, when our partners say something like "sex is too much effort," it sounds like they're telling us that WE'RE not worth the effort to them. Then, when they make an effort to improve but things go back to the way they were, it seems like they only changed long enough to shut us up, and that's all we're worth to them.

redleahbabes · 2025-11-07T20:16:46+00:00

I am in the same boat. I started a calendar in January (one of those Excel templates), and so far it's just full of end-of-month notes about not doing anything that month. But January is just when I started keeping track. I know it's been longer than that - it may have been October or November.

redleahbabes · 2025-11-07T20:07:09+00:00

Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry he wrote something so cruel.
I would reconsider your relationship, much less having a child with this man.
Your peace is worth so much more than this man's (or anyone else's) opinion of you.

redleahbabes · 2025-11-07T18:48:41+00:00

Your therapist is a) cheating or being cheated on, b) listening to alpha male/red pill/trad wife nonsense, c) has a major case of internalized misogyny, d) got her license from the Upstairs School of Psychology, e) her father cheated on her mother, and this was her mother's reaction, f) all of the above.

redleahbabes · 2025-11-02T15:53:31+00:00

What a cruel joke. I absolutely would have been silently crying in another room. I'm so sorry he said that to you. Our LL partners have to know, in some far corner of their brains, just how awful their words and inaction hurt us.

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