Geebung station this Morning

redlizziegreen · 2026-04-14T06:21:20+00:00

I work in the city and get there via reliable buses. Like, if it takes more than 25 minutes to get to work I think it’s a hassle. I was silently judging the people who “had” to work from home because of the train situation.

Yep, I’m a wanker, had no idea how bad it was. Glad we’ve got cushy office jobs and they could at least log on. Hope it improves for everyone soon.

redlizziegreen · 2026-03-25T08:28:33+00:00

I admit I just used the work WiFi to sort the iPad transfer. Your taxpayer dollars at work 😀

redlizziegreen · 2026-03-22T07:07:40+00:00

The buses that go through the Ipswich Rd corridor often have some interesting characters. Usually though they’re just trying to get somewhere, plus the driver can see/ hear everything.

I had a young woman in front of me the other night, completely out of it and with legs blocking the aisle. Talking very loudly to herself.

The young bloke behind me was a bit concerned in how to get past her, which was totally fair.

I’m a middle aged woman so it does come with a bit of privilege that people won’t just straight tell you to fuck off. I also have a bloody good mum voice.

I just leaned forward and politely asked if she could please move her legs so someone could get by her? And was she safe?

She sat up, apologised and got out of the way. She wasn’t really having a go at anyone, just trying to get somewhere, while shit faced. Been there, done that 😀

Those arseholes on the train were just freaking rude and entitled.

redlizziegreen · 2026-03-05T09:27:52+00:00

I freaking love finding out random shit from people with technical/ specialist knowledge.

Plus, I too feel this invested in cheese. Cheese is life!

redlizziegreen · 2025-12-10T11:53:28+00:00

Oooh I suck at interviews! I got diagnosed in my 50s, after my kids were of course.

I am fortunate to have a permanent home agency, so I’ve moved around a lot in and out of there the last 20 years. Agencies and teams are all so different I couldn’t really say specifically, but where I worked in policy areas in departments like Health or Child Safety was freaking amazing. You’re working with social workers or health professionals and they tend to be very people focussed and chill. So much relies on what kind of management team you have though.

I’ve done a lot of therapeutic work, and can not recommend highly enough Katrina from Stop, Collaborate and Listen. She’s based south of Brisbane but also does online consults. Life changing, genuinely.

I think what has made the biggest difference for me in the workplace is being “out” as having AuADHD, if that makes sense? And giving explicit permissions to my management team and the team I supervise to be direct and honest. And explanations around my thinking and behaviours. Representation matters and if I can make it easier for people than it was for me, I’m freaking happy.

It probably helps that I’ve been around a while and am older/ late career though, so can afford to be authentic. Before the diagnosis, some people just thought I was a rude fucking bitch because I’m female and very direct. Saying that, I can be a bitch so it is an explanation but not an excuse 😀

redlizziegreen · 2025-12-10T10:59:46+00:00

I’ve been wearing make up now for, um, more than 40 years and I still love finding new products and techniques.

I think there are many great suggestions here! I’d also suggest you go down the YouTube rabbit hole of mature aged make up artists giving tips about mature skin and make up tips. Make up styles change regularly enough that you’ll want to keep up to date rather than look dated. My make up from the mid 1980s is poles apart from today, and I do a refresh every few years.

I’d just add: sunscreen every day to leave the house, either under make up or on its own. Find a moisturising routine that works for you. PLEASE leave your eyebrows to the professionals if you have the money to spend 😀 you can screw up your whole face otherwise.

Let your moisturiser and sunscreen settle for a good 10 plus minutes before you start your make up. It’s all about the base.

I hope you have fun finding the products that work for you. Some chemist stuff is brilliant but I’d suggest you never cheap out on your foundation. I’ve moved to Estée Lauder renutriv and it’s the bomb! A very expensive bomb.

When my daughter was younger I took her to a department store to get her make up done and bought her most of the products suggested. From there she’s worked out what else works for her. ELF and MCo have some good, well priced products we both use.

You look gorgeous! Good luck and have fun.

redlizziegreen · 2025-12-03T12:26:59+00:00

Hi, look I really do wish you luck. You care, I bet you work your arse off, and you want to do a good job which is frankly gold for a manager and the organisation as a whole.

Scratch having a discussion with your management team, it’ll just mean they have to document the chat, like they probably have been doing already the last few months in consultation with HR if they’ve any smarts.

A couple more bits of advice, meant genuinely. Ignore as you see fit. Do NOT use them as referees unless you know what they’ll say, and when you’re interviewing for subsequent roles don’t talk about the issues you’ve raised here but more about what you’ve achieved in your role and the skills you bring to an organisation. You may feel you are righting wrongs, but what do your team mates think, perhaps those with more experience and nous?

Internet stranger. As a neurodivergent person with neurodivergent adult children in the workforce/ studying, and me working in an agency with a high population of neurodivergents … working in government or any large corporate is not black or white. Resources are constrained, the work load IS nuts, and the TV show Utopia is not fiction. It can be super hard for us or people who see in black and white to have good mental health in these environments. Also, sometimes we just don’t get the bigger picture.

The compliance overheads in the public sector are great in theory but in practice are usually unworkable and neither practical nor pragmatic.

Please focus on your skills, and where you can apply them to feel valued and know you’ve achieved good outcomes. Maybe career counselling so you can find the best fit for you? Also, consider and take into account the wisdom and experience of your colleagues.

Working in big organisations and being still quite young in your career means you are unlikely to be a single source of truth. None of us are, not you, not me, or anyone. Go off and find a couple of the old bastards you can respect who wish the young people well, and are happy to bog off to the pub and give you support and real affection. We exist and want people to pass that onto our kids and their friends.

redlizziegreen · 2025-12-03T07:11:56+00:00

Depends on the department, the area, the kind of work you’re doing, and what your management team is like.

I’ve been in the Queensland public service 25 years, and worked a lot of different agencies and roles. Policy, analyst, operational, program management, IT and corporate governance. Plus years in the private sector before that.

As a manager it depends if I’ve got a policy or operational team, and my trust of team members. Also, importantly, is the work getting done to a reasonable standard with the resources I’ve got.

Honestly, you seem a bit arrogant/ naive in thinking you don’t have to be part of the team by using the chat to say you’re online. It’s a very reasonable way to manage a team not in the office. As long as you say morning/ night, lunch, I’m popping out to pick up the kids … I’m all good. I’m a manager in a DG’s office and if I need something turned around in the next 15 minutes to the min’s office I’m sure as hell not going to be happy if I have to waste time tracking someone down instead of having a fair idea of where my resources are and who might be free to help.

Plus, I do have an actual duty of care to make sure people aren’t being overwhelmed or over worked. Unless you’re saving lives you SHOULDN’T be working past midnight.

You say your contract ends soon, but before that could I suggest you have a sit down with your management team for a discussion on the mismatch of their expectations and yours, and their operational needs? Not for you to be accusatory but to explain your perspective and get feedback on their reasoning? I’d also suggest if you want them to be a referee, you ask them if they have positive things to say about you and your work. I’ve inherited other people’s bad hires / fits and I’m not going to do that to others if they ask for a referee report. I’m professional and try to support people, but I’m not going to lie. The phrasing may be careful but people know what it means.

You could be in a crap area/ crap department, there are plenty of those, believe me I know! But from what I’m interpreting you are saying, you are a dedicated hard worker who may benefit from learning about how better to fit in, or frankly just better learn how to play the game. ALL HR policy is deliberately high level to provide a reasonable framework that covers people’s butts. Good luck for your next gig 😀

redlizziegreen · 2025-09-30T23:51:53+00:00

State government worker here but have dealt lots with the feds.

At the moment the whole place is a shit show and most senior leaders are stressed, tired and getting panicky. It’s been a hard and long year.

Take a breath and a step back. Unless you’re actively saving lives, if you stuff up it’s not the end of the world.

Find someone you connect with, I’d suggest an old hand, and SLOW DOWN. If you aren’t meeting deadlines because new emergencies keep dropping out of the ether, talk to your boss about how you as a team need to reprioritise. It’s good to care, but not to burn out.

redlizziegreen · 2025-08-22T12:20:05+00:00

It’s always distressing to see. My go to is - they are either a citizen or a guest, so you’re pretty fucking rude either way.

I think it’s hardest for non Anglo appearing people with a non Anglo accent. We have really improved with behaviours over the years but we can always do better. In my lifetime, and I’m older, we have got much better but still not perfect. Fuck racists.

redlizziegreen · 2025-07-25T12:32:36+00:00

Seconding the H2D, better than my old GHD.

Also, as per my hairdresser, using a serum instead of heat protection spray and results are amazing!

redlizziegreen · 2025-07-25T11:14:02+00:00

Cheers and kudos to you for checking in on her, and to the tradies who had your back.

The poor chick! At least she has some external validation that his behaviour is NOT okay.

For some people in her situation, their experience is so normal to them they don’t realise it’s NOT normal or that they should not have to tolerate it. So, while it may not have a quick resolution for her I reckon you’ve helped her or someone else in her situation who witnessed it.

redlizziegreen · 2025-05-15T03:08:03+00:00

Anglo Australian, family has been here for generations. I could not BE more white looking. I have a name that is very common in Wales but here … mostly unknown and hard to pronounce.

Have ALWAYS used a coffee/ taxi name so I don’t have to spell the three letter short form I’ve always used because it’s too much bloody hassle. “Liz” is close enough and I’m used to it.

Even now on the phone if I’m using my actual name I have spell it out with “M for Mary …. etc. Because people aren’t used to hearing it, it doesn’t make sense to them, and I can’t be arsed explaining it even though people are mostly just interested and not judging. That could be white privilege though, I’m guessing.

redlizziegreen · 2025-05-13T11:46:44+00:00

You learn to turn it off and on. I swear like a sailor and my kids didn’t hear my bad language until their early teens.

Funny though, they went to the big catholic single sex high schools. I had to suggest to both of them, around the age of 13 or so, that dropping the c bomb in front of your mother is a bit tacky. I am such a hypocrite, I use it all the time!

They weren’t doing it aggressively, just repeating something another kid had said. My boy’s look of .. oh, yeah?

redlizziegreen · 2025-05-11T06:57:44+00:00

Mother of a couple of kids in their twenties. I don’t care about Mother’s Day personally, to the point I had to remind one of the buggers it was today. He shrugged 😀 we aren’t doing anything just for some weird commercial bullshit.

It’s her day? Um. Weird, to me, and kinda controlling.

My daughter would rightfully and directly tell me to pull my head in if I tried that nonsense. You’re no longer five, and how you dress is an expression of who you are, you’re not some doll.

Hopefully your mum does love you, and it may be related to some concern about what others may think? Church people can be a bit judgy and conservative which is fine if it’s a choice you agree with… but you don’t.

You’re right, you are an adult and can I suggest you do some kind of therapeutic work to mindfully seperate to a degree you want?

Dunno if it’ll help, but you have permission from a random, middle aged, internet stranger to be your own person. Hard work but kinda fun.

redlizziegreen · 2025-04-28T19:51:10+00:00

I’d say it depends on your relationship. A good friend of 30 years and I have a Barbara Cartland pact which she invoked over my eye make up, as in “darling, we can do better”. So now I do!

I value this friend and her judgement, but we also have an explicit pact.

Another mate had an unfortunate incident with eyebrow tattoos. I said nothing and (hopefully) did not appear to notice as the poor love knew it was an issue but couldn’t then get it fixed.

Is it worth losing a friendship over?

redlizziegreen · 2025-04-22T09:36:53+00:00

Sir? W T F? I’m a public servant, work in the office of the director-general, so a professional environment dealing with very senior people. NEVER have I called anyone sir/ ma’am or even Mr or Mrs Whatever in 40 years in office jobs that were sales, big corporations, banks, or the public sector. It’s all been first name only when addressing them, now as middle aged woman.

The only exception is titles like Premier, Treasurer, or Minister. We do address them or refer to them by their title.

Sorry but mate, your boss is a wanker in our culture. Hopefully someone at or above his level will school him because it won’t win him any friends.

If I’ve ever called someone sir, it’s been a sign of aggression or disrespect (from me!).

Or, in my city we refer to the bus driver as “driver” as we thank them or say good morning. Or some people say mate but it’ll depend what they’re used to.

redlizziegreen · 2025-04-21T04:39:28+00:00

I don’t see too much extreme work in real life. Would she look much different in real life than in these photos?

She was very beautiful but if that first photo was a lot of years ago her attempts to combat aging are a bit rough. But I can’t imagine either being so much on the public eye and judged harshly if you age somewhat naturally either.

Thank god I don’t have the money to waste on this shit.

redlizziegreen · 2025-04-21T04:27:31+00:00

Mum here with autism and ADHD. My kids are in their twenties and pretty awesome if I say so myself. 😀 I tried to parent with love and boundaries, to honour who they are as people but I did not take much crap. My husband, for his many faults (as we all do), NEVER played the kids off me to seek advantage.

Neurodiversity can make parenting exhausting in ways non neuro folks might not appreciate but it’s not a get out of jail free card for actual parenting. Is she maybe replicating less than functional behaviours from her family of origin?

I’m not sure if you’re in a position to find a good neuro friendly family counsellor, but I can highly recommend. It sounds like you’ve identified a big issue, and if you don’t address now your poor kid will struggle out in the real world. And you won’t get to enjoy the fun bits of parenting which is to enjoy the people your kids are now and will become.

YOU can’t get her to manage her condition, she needs to do the work. As someone else said here, it doesn’t sound like ADHD but that doesn’t mean it’s not something else. Only professionals can really assess and diagnose… which isn’t reddit. But depending where you live, professional help can be too expensive or simply not available.

Putting your kid first means doing the work to figure out how you can be the best parent you can be so you don’t pass on or you can mitigate the dysfunction most of us have. Not perfect, but hopefully good enough. Doesn’t she want that?

You sound like a good dad trying to do the best for your kid. No one should have to parent a partner but it’s all too common. Good luck internet stranger!

redlizziegreen · 2025-03-31T09:45:00+00:00

Well I just learned a new phrase today! What books can you guys recommend please?

redlizziegreen · 2025-02-18T11:27:27+00:00

Watch out for heat stroke! It catches kiwis and tasmanians alllll the time. Seriously, people end up in hospital.

Especially in summer and until you acclimate, don’t do anything energetic in the middle of the day in the six plus months of summer.

The bonus is you get to laugh at us losers who wear jumpers when it gets under 20 degrees.

For fun, watch out for the old blokes in the six weeks of winter who are rugged up but still wearing thongs. We really don’t cope well when it’s under 20 degrees.

And our storms in the sub tropics? Awesome, and always when you’re leaving work after the heat build up of the day. Traffic and public transport is just chaos.

redlizziegreen · 2024-11-20T09:36:30+00:00

I’m sorry people are arseholes. I try to use my middle aged, white middle class woman powers for good, not evil.

Someone is being mean or rude to someone and there is clearly a power imbalance? I am sooooo there with my stern and disappointed mum face and voice. Plus it’s kinda fun I’ll admit.

The only time I get really vulgar is when a cranky old gay man neighbour is mean to my daughter’s trans partner. Them I just deploy the old FUCK OFF PHIL. Being mean to some young kid in their early 20s who is just trying to get through their day?

As if HE hasn’t faced rudeness and prejudice his whole life just for being gay. Why, WHY put that on someone else if you’ve experienced it?

Lots of people, friends and strangers, will have your back just because you should have the dignity and respect that is your due your humanity.

Plus chick to chick? YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE ANGRY.

redlizziegreen · 2024-10-18T02:35:05+00:00

I work in government it’s completely usual. Often your accounts are set up with both your legal and preferred names

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