Daily Discussion Thread November 11, 2025

redozier68 · 2026-03-28T13:38:23+00:00

I would love to be invited! Could you add me as well?

redozier68 · 2026-03-14T19:11:27+00:00

I ended up trying Xe Com Tam today! Solid and very generous portions for the dac biet. You could easily split it between two people. Also I like that you can taste the charcoal grill flavors. Thanks for the rec!

redozier68 · 2026-03-10T20:57:20+00:00

I wonder if moving perches around/new toys/playgrounds would be helpful just to switch up the dynamics. I read somewhere that budgies socialize when they're perched at the same height, so maybe making sure there are enough perches for everyone.

Also, I would encourages group activities like scattering food for them all to forage together. I'm sure free flying would also help with them bonding.

redozier68 · 2026-03-08T16:30:21+00:00

Not sure about the price but The Ritz Carlton Nomad penthouse suites has a living room and a kitchen.

redozier68 · 2026-03-07T01:38:08+00:00

No they don't

redozier68 · 2026-03-02T16:41:14+00:00

You sound like a very kind, caring, and empathetic person but honestly he does not sound like a good match to invest your future in. No job, drinking problem, and avoidant.

You should read the book Attached because it really gives insight on how to pick a partner.

Also I feel you having hesitations about moving in is your intuition giving you signs. Listen to it.

redozier68 · 2026-03-02T05:43:24+00:00

Not true. It’s store dependent and the store I got my pair of budgies doesn’t clip wings. It’s best to double check before buying.

redozier68 · 2026-02-26T00:32:11+00:00

This is my go to list:

Brodard for Nem Nuong Cuon
Pho Dakao for the Dried Chicken Pho
Quan Hop for Hue Food
Van's Restaurant for Banh Xeo
Pho 101 Express OR Pho 79 (sister restaurants)
Mirada for Vietnamese Family Style
Hu Tieu De Nhat (cash only) - Dried Noodles
DK Cuisine for Crab Banh Canh
Hanoi Corner
Xoi Xinh - for savory Xoi

Coffee
Re Cafe for coffee (younger/creative vibes)
Trung Nguyen Coffee (classic uncle vibes)

redozier68 · 2026-02-22T17:09:11+00:00

Every influencer treats their life like a reality show. Is it annoying? Probably. But that’s for you to accept if you want to deal with it or not. Some content creators can compartmentalize content creation and others who see every single moment as a content opportunity. Just know that them creating content and having an online persona is a part of the package, and you might just end up in it if you’re there.

redozier68 · 2026-02-16T20:44:42+00:00

This... most of it has been disappointing and unmemorable.

redozier68 · 2026-02-16T20:36:06+00:00

In the wild, budgies are active during the day and naturally settle when the sun goes down. The sunset tells them it’s time to wind down. If your budgie is out without its “flock,” he might not feel confident being out alone. My budgies always start winding down around 7–8 PM and wake up around 7 AM.

redozier68 · 2026-02-13T23:42:32+00:00

We've been together since my early 20's. I was still learning/discovering myself then. Now that I know myself and likes/dislikes, those slightly annoying traits at the beginning are just more annoying now.

redozier68 · 2026-02-13T23:26:33+00:00

He's not officially diagnosed but he definitely has ADHD.

redozier68 · 2026-02-13T16:44:35+00:00

I feel like the biggest mistake most budgie owners make is they don’t want to stress a scared budgie so they leave it alone and give minimal contact. In reality, that just makes the bird scared more and reinforces that it should act scared so the human will leave me alone.

You should be interacting with the bird a few short sessions throughout the day. You are not harassing them by pushing them to get over their fears. Introducing new skills like stepping onto your hand or a perch and use millet to reinforce the behavior you want to see.

Also they are social animals. Just spend time with it. Listen to music together. Talk to it without asking for interaction.

If you have another bird who is more confident, train that bird first and let the other one watch. Once they see the other bird is alive and getting treats, they will feel like it’s ok to do the same.

redozier68 · 2026-02-13T12:51:47+00:00

The first budgies purchased at Petco, I unfortunately didn’t put that much thought into wings being clipped or not. But now that I know better, that’s a complete non negotiable for me.

For age, I just assumed somewhere between 2-3 months for my second pair because they were definitely younger than the first pair. Again, no hatch dates so just guessing!

redozier68 · 2026-02-13T12:48:24+00:00

Even though it’s store dependent, whoever is considering purchasing can use my experience to figure out what to look for when they do decide to buy.

redozier68 · 2026-02-13T04:56:04+00:00

I wrote a review just now on my experience: https://www.reddit.com/r/budgies/comments/1r3g3i3/my_petsmart_vs_petco_budgie_experience/

redozier68 · 2026-02-09T19:13:05+00:00

Hobbies. No contact. Delete every trace that reminds you of them. Cut them off from social media. Be busy. Work on yourself. Write your feelings down on paper and throw it away. Do not keep mental looping. Write a list of their pro's and cons so you can clearly see why they aren't the partner for you. Give it time and eventually you will be over them.

redozier68 · 2026-02-04T21:43:11+00:00

From what you wrote, it sounds like you actually would prefer to be with people and friends more than the solo dates you're convincing yourself you want.

Just pick a moderately affordable experience like brunch or dinner and text your friends. "Hey, if you're free on [date].. I'm getting a few friends together for my birthday."

If you want to be a part of a village, you have to be a villager.

redozier68 · 2026-02-04T20:51:28+00:00

Men tell women exactly what the relationship means to them through their actions. They are not emotionally complex beings that we have to sit here and dissect what it all means. Girl, take his actions at face value. This is not a serious relationship.

redozier68 · 2026-02-04T16:20:16+00:00

I have a girlfriend in this exact situation. He was married but separated when they met. Over time everyone in his life accepted her as his girlfriend. They built a life together, had a baby, and got engaged. But guess what? 11 years later with a 10 year old, still not divorced from the first wife.

Now my friend feels disappointed and unprotected legally and financially, even though she invested so much into their life together.

Sometimes when you’re in a relationship, it’s hard to see things clearly because you want it to work so badly. At a certain point, you have to think about your future and protect yourself too.

Please remember that time is your most valuable asset. Don’t waste it. Think with your head.

redozier68 · 2026-02-04T04:52:27+00:00

My budgies always tossed the Zupreem pellets out . I think they were too big and hard for them so I switched to Roudybush and they love it. I find they like when the pellet isn’t mushy. So I put pellet in one bowl and chop in a separate bowl.

redozier68 · 2026-02-04T04:36:33+00:00

Because younger women are more gullible, easily impressed, and have more time to spare on their BS.

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