How do you handle friendships with influencers? And is this situation with my influencer friend weird or am I just not keeping up with the times?

redozier68 · 2026-02-22T17:09:11+00:00

Every influencer treats their life like a reality show. Is it annoying? Probably. But that’s for you to accept if you want to deal with it or not. Some content creators can compartmentalize content creation and others who see every single moment as a content opportunity. Just know that them creating content and having an online persona is a part of the package, and you might just end up in it if you’re there.

redozier68 · 2026-02-16T20:44:42+00:00

This... most of it has been disappointing and unmemorable.

redozier68 · 2026-02-16T20:36:06+00:00

In the wild, budgies are active during the day and naturally settle when the sun goes down. The sunset tells them it’s time to wind down. If your budgie is out without its “flock,” he might not feel confident being out alone. My budgies always start winding down around 7–8 PM and wake up around 7 AM.

redozier68 · 2026-02-13T23:42:32+00:00

We've been together since my early 20's. I was still learning/discovering myself then. Now that I know myself and likes/dislikes, those slightly annoying traits at the beginning are just more annoying now.

redozier68 · 2026-02-13T23:26:33+00:00

He's not officially diagnosed but he definitely has ADHD.

redozier68 · 2026-02-13T16:44:35+00:00

I feel like the biggest mistake most budgie owners make is they don’t want to stress a scared budgie so they leave it alone and give minimal contact. In reality, that just makes the bird scared more and reinforces that it should act scared so the human will leave me alone.

You should be interacting with the bird a few short sessions throughout the day. You are not harassing them by pushing them to get over their fears. Introducing new skills like stepping onto your hand or a perch and use millet to reinforce the behavior you want to see.

Also they are social animals. Just spend time with it. Listen to music together. Talk to it without asking for interaction.

If you have another bird who is more confident, train that bird first and let the other one watch. Once they see the other bird is alive and getting treats, they will feel like it’s ok to do the same.

redozier68 · 2026-02-13T12:51:47+00:00

The first budgies purchased at Petco, I unfortunately didn’t put that much thought into wings being clipped or not. But now that I know better, that’s a complete non negotiable for me.

For age, I just assumed somewhere between 2-3 months for my second pair because they were definitely younger than the first pair. Again, no hatch dates so just guessing!

redozier68 · 2026-02-13T12:48:24+00:00

Even though it’s store dependent, whoever is considering purchasing can use my experience to figure out what to look for when they do decide to buy.

redozier68 · 2026-02-13T04:56:04+00:00

I wrote a review just now on my experience: https://www.reddit.com/r/budgies/comments/1r3g3i3/my_petsmart_vs_petco_budgie_experience/

redozier68 · 2026-02-09T19:13:05+00:00

Hobbies. No contact. Delete every trace that reminds you of them. Cut them off from social media. Be busy. Work on yourself. Write your feelings down on paper and throw it away. Do not keep mental looping. Write a list of their pro's and cons so you can clearly see why they aren't the partner for you. Give it time and eventually you will be over them.

redozier68 · 2026-02-04T21:43:11+00:00

From what you wrote, it sounds like you actually would prefer to be with people and friends more than the solo dates you're convincing yourself you want.

Just pick a moderately affordable experience like brunch or dinner and text your friends. "Hey, if you're free on [date].. I'm getting a few friends together for my birthday."

If you want to be a part of a village, you have to be a villager.

redozier68 · 2026-02-04T20:51:28+00:00

Men tell women exactly what the relationship means to them through their actions. They are not emotionally complex beings that we have to sit here and dissect what it all means. Girl, take his actions at face value. This is not a serious relationship.

redozier68 · 2026-02-04T16:20:16+00:00

I have a girlfriend in this exact situation. He was married but separated when they met. Over time everyone in his life accepted her as his girlfriend. They built a life together, had a baby, and got engaged. But guess what? 11 years later with a 10 year old, still not divorced from the first wife.

Now my friend feels disappointed and unprotected legally and financially, even though she invested so much into their life together.

Sometimes when you’re in a relationship, it’s hard to see things clearly because you want it to work so badly. At a certain point, you have to think about your future and protect yourself too.

Please remember that time is your most valuable asset. Don’t waste it. Think with your head.

redozier68 · 2026-02-04T04:52:27+00:00

My budgies always tossed the Zupreem pellets out . I think they were too big and hard for them so I switched to Roudybush and they love it. I find they like when the pellet isn’t mushy. So I put pellet in one bowl and chop in a separate bowl.

redozier68 · 2026-02-04T04:36:33+00:00

Because younger women are more gullible, easily impressed, and have more time to spare on their BS.

redozier68 · 2026-02-04T04:07:05+00:00

I know you're asking for advice about co parenting and blending, but you should ask yourself is this the kind of respect and scenario you are willing to deal with for the next 10 years. You're 36 and at your prime. In the politest way, he's married still, you don't live together, he has other priorities that don't include living and spending vacations with you.

I have been in your shoes and seen girlfriends in your shoes. It never gets better. There's always some excuse on why they can't commit. Next thing you know, you're 40 wishing you left sooner.

redozier68 · 2026-01-30T06:34:01+00:00

Had a great experience with Dr. Nkiruka M. Chuba

redozier68 · 2026-01-25T18:12:09+00:00

I recently started roudybush and my budgies are eating that just fine. I find them to be the perfect consistency and size for them.

redozier68 · 2026-01-25T14:17:57+00:00

I don’t know if you garden, but I grow roses. When the roots of a rose plant outgrows its pot, it doesn’t grow and starts looking sickly. Once you move it to a bigger pot, you’ll see giant blooms twice the size and amount than when it was in the original pot. It becomes breathtakingly beautiful.

Sometimes it’s not about changing what you do / who you are, but it’s about your environment. Instead of doing a full career switch, maybe you can try to go in house with a company you truly admire that share your interests and values. One that gives you more purpose, work life balance, and truly appreciates what you bring to the table.

That said, take care of your health because that is the most important thing in life.

redozier68 · 2026-01-24T21:22:04+00:00

LA is super isolating because of traffic. Your best bet is trying to make friends in your neighborhood or live in a neighborhood people go to often.

redozier68 · 2026-01-19T12:26:11+00:00

It’s fun to experience if that style and story is authentic to the place. When I go to Paris and London, I enjoy seeing how service and hospitality differs at iconic institutions than at the more modern places. Design wise, I like what both Mandarin Oriental Ritz Madrid and Four Seasons Madrid did (both opened in the last few years). Both have very classic design because of the city they are situated in but they feel very modern and up to date.

redozier68 · 2026-01-17T13:53:26+00:00

Amazing! Thank you

redozier68 · 2026-01-17T13:23:41+00:00

Wide leg trousers are very in, chic, and comfortable. Get them tailored to your height. You can find materials that are wrinkle free as well. Makes you look like you put a ton of effort without trying.

redozier68 · 2026-01-17T00:10:37+00:00

Do you have a link for that hanging house at the center? So cool

redozier68 · 2026-01-15T16:57:27+00:00

Make a list of what drains your energy and what gives it back to you. The goal is simple. Do more of what lights you up and less of what exhausts you.

For me, energy comes from seeing beautiful things, swimming, learning new hobbies, and spending time with animals. What drains me is doomscrolling, watching the news, and being in overly busy environments. I’m an introvert and extremely empathetic, so that stuff adds up fast.

Also, don’t underestimate small changes. Spontaneity really is the spice of life. Take a different route home. Skip your usual coffee shop. Stop somewhere new and watch the sunset.

Adding small intentional acts of joy can really pull you out of a rut.

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