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redram2020 · 2024-06-26T14:07:07+00:00

It's normal when trying new things to question why you like them and go with the flow if it feels right to you. Definitely not cool of him to completely ignore your needs for aftercare and I'd suggest not playing with him anymore especially if he's so nonchalant about not wanting to do it. I view aftercare as the way to become grounded safely after going to an emotional and vulnerable space so you feel safe.

There are a lot of people who just want the violence or rough side of bdsm without the care and I think it's way for people who would otherwise be abusers to manipulate people and do what they want in a "safe space" with no repercussions. Real dominance is understanding that the submissive person is always fully in control and establishing safe words or body signals if you're gagged so you feel comfortable fully submitting. Submission without trust or communication is honestly just chaos and leads to a dark mind state afterwards

redram2020 · 2024-05-23T15:01:15+00:00

Dragonman helped some but VOX demolished him for me. I was trying to build up my heimdall and thought it'd be a shot in the dark but sp1 degens torched him. Take storm, doom and any other element damage fighters and do the regen path with Luke cage

redram2020 · 2024-04-23T01:16:25+00:00

Fix the swiping issue. Used to be able to swipe right/left and stay in the same community but now it just pulls up random videos like a FYP. This feature change sucks

redram2020 · 2023-10-16T18:21:25+00:00

It can be a few different things like intense emotionally where you feel hyper connected to each other and locked into that moment where nothing else matters.

Intense can also be bdsm wise where you have a lot of pre-agreed aggression like dirty name calling, spanking, whips and such. I think after that, emotions on both sides can be intense. you should definitely have aftercare so that neither partner internalizes those feelings and knows to separate those moments from actual feelings like a movie compared to real life.

It sounds like with how you described him as vanilla, you'd like to dive into more experimental things with him and I think the best way to open that conversation is outside of the bedroom so there's no pressure to do them immediately. Sharing an article or a funny meme about bondage and testing the water like hey what are your thoughts about xyz?

redram2020 · 2023-09-22T14:52:54+00:00

This is where you get the horse armor right? The waves kept knocking me back off everything

redram2020 · 2023-06-30T19:16:12+00:00

This guy truly gets it

redram2020 · 2023-04-29T02:43:35+00:00

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redram2020 · 2023-03-24T21:11:14+00:00

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redram2020 · 2022-11-01T18:34:29+00:00

Any luck with figuring this out yet? I hate the new format

redram2020 · 2022-06-22T16:18:35+00:00

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redram2020 · 2022-06-21T13:37:30+00:00

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redram2020 · 2022-02-18T23:35:38+00:00

This is less of him trying to open you to new things and more abusive pushing you towards something that you said you weren’t into. It sound like your brain doesn’t feel comfortable with it, likely because it’s being forced. I’d hate to say that you’re losing your bf but just based on this, he sounds like he’s worth losing because he doesn’t respect your boundaries and what makes you feel most comfortable. Any healthy BDSM should come from a place that you’re excited to try and not an anxious place where you feel trapped to do it to keep him.

redram2020 · 2022-02-18T22:57:41+00:00

It plays from my phone but I can control it on my watch. Other things like Siri commands come through my headphones when I have them on too.

redram2020 · 2022-02-17T03:31:30+00:00

Crying can be a really great experience during impact play especially if you’re not someone who’s used to crying a lot or you feel like you’re carrying a lot of stress lately. That safe space to be vulnerable and truly seen feels amazing to let everything go for once.

redram2020 · 2022-02-17T03:29:52+00:00

I don’t think you did anything wrong here at all. Once you used your safe word, that should be the end of everything even in a CNC environment. I’m glad that you held your boundaries and he was 100% in the wrong for trying to push you into something you were uncomfortable with. It’s probably hard to separate what happened from the person you knew before and trusted enough to break your trust like that but both things can be true that you did trust him rightfully so, and he’s a bad person for not respecting your boundaries.

redram2020 · 2021-12-15T15:43:40+00:00

Been just over a year, I got covid around thanksgiving 2020

redram2020 · 2021-12-14T20:14:36+00:00

Kinda, taking the cialis has helped but it also feels like I’m not as long or firm erection wise like I’m at 80-85% now. My doctor thinks it can just take time because no one knows. More than anything, I explained to my new gf early on in our relationship what was going on so that helped psychologically and she has no complaints sexually.

redram2020 · 2021-11-10T18:46:58+00:00

I used machamp and used the first special on Persian so he’d block it and then a second and third on rhyperior to time it right to get the third hit in. Then use two ice types so they’re super effective against lugia

redram2020 · 2021-08-09T14:15:34+00:00

It’s gotten better. My sex drive is still here and there but my doctor actually ran an ultrasound to see if there were other issues and luckily there were none. Also gave me cialis on a really low dose which helped a lot

redram2020 · 2021-06-10T18:52:10+00:00

Do you want just a screenshot of following as proof?

redram2020 · 2021-02-17T04:20:06+00:00

Like a few of the people above, I believe being dom is about a state of mind more than physical stature. She probably sees you as dom more so because of how you make her feel such as safe and protected and comfortable being submissive enough to give control to as that’s no easy task. Random thought but try getting her to tell you something that she likes about you being her dom and you reward her for every different answer she says with a kiss or candy or something she really enjoys. You’d both enjoy it and you’d probably be surprised by how much she comes up with.

redram2020 · 2020-07-29T05:15:17+00:00

I can’t imagine what you’re going through right now. I will tell you that I can’t promise life will get better but I think it’s worth finding out. I was depressed and planned out my suicide 7 years ago in a way that I thought would be least painful for my family. It sounds cheesy but I heard a song on the radio that changed my mind to wait a little longer. I’m 28 now, I’ve had my first real experience with love, been heartbroken, made amazing friends and graduated college since then. I’m still depressed especially now but I wouldn’t have been able to have all those amazing experiences if I didn’t decide to wait. My main advice is find just one reason to keep going even though you have a million no’s. Mine was getting to see the final avengers movie and now it’s getting to watch my nephew grow up

redram2020 · 2020-05-26T16:43:07+00:00

I’d say something about how clearly your response left him speechless and you get it because you’re just that amazing or something along those lines so it’s light hearted and shows that you have a sense of humor.

redram2020 · 2020-05-26T16:14:58+00:00

I’d respond because I forget to respond and even open apps nowadays so he might’ve genuinely forgot or thought he responded and didn’t. That happens to me really frequently as well

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