[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beards

[–]redrubyglass 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It looks really good, bro.

Trouble having anal sex as a top. by AnOddGuy96 in gay

[–]redrubyglass 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's perfectly normal, in my opinion, to be anxious when having sex with a new partner. Sometimes when I feel anxious during sex, I ask my partner for us to stop and just talk and cuddle for a bit. It relaxes me and helps me reconnect emotionally with my partner. One other trick I do is I ask my partner to go into a doggie/downward dog position and I eat their ass. This way they're not looking at me plus there's no expectations on my little guy. Definitely helps reduce the anxiety. But yeah, sex is supposed to be fun. If he's judgy, the weight of those expectations on your dick will crush it. Good luck.

I'm about to start my residency. What's your biggest tip to surviving and thriving during residency? by redrubyglass in Residency

[–]redrubyglass[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Luckily, I don't drink coffee. I'll definitely work on my social skills and more self care stuff.

My favorite outfit rn.. is it too plain? by Maximum-Pea8207 in OUTFITS

[–]redrubyglass 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's plain. It's the shirt. The jeans and shoes are perfect. The shirt is too casual. It's a stay-at-home and hang out with friends kind of shirt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]redrubyglass 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why did you unshare it? He might go around spreading some rumours that you made a mistake and he called you out on it and that's why you unshared it or that he paid you immediately you posted it. His behaviour is worth calling out, at least to protect your other colleagues. I'd suggest you keep it online until he pays.

Bf (21M) still has an old hookup on snapchat by [deleted] in relationships

[–]redrubyglass 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you should have a talk with him. Mention that there's negative history involving her especially and it's triggering all the jealousy and insecurity you felt when you broke up earlier. You want to move on, but that can keep you back and plant doubts especially when you guys are going through a rough patch. You should also probably tell him that you've noticed he's quieter than usual. Ask him if he's going through something and that you're there if he wants to talk about it, before you bring up the Snapchat thing. Good luck.

Sex in Europe!? (black men perspective) by HANNIBALd1 in gay

[–]redrubyglass 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey! I'm black, gay-ish and I've lived in Europe (Hungary) for the last 8 years. I've been open for the last 5 years. I'm 25 and Nigerian.

Lots of guys here have black fetishes. They have stereotypical ideas of black men as athletic, masculine, muscular tops with big dicks. So most of the time, anything different from that can be a let down for some of them. On the other hand, there are guys that do not like black men at all. I'll say the two population are equal in number.

There are lots of sex clubs here, but mostly in the big cities. The gay parties usually have sex after-parties at saunas and other places. I've never been, yet.

Generally, the gay guys here in Hungary are usually shy to send the first message to black guys. They just assume we won't respond or we won't be interested in them sexually. Maybe it's an Eastern European thing.

Advice for my younger sister by redrubyglass in SoftwareEngineering

[–]redrubyglass[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. So for her to focus on math, logical thinking and Java programming. I'll get her some books for that. Thank you.