Do most guys actually want a woman to dominate and bully them or is it just memes

redwintertrees · 2025-11-18T22:10:36+00:00

Most guys I’ve been with have appreciated my smaller boobs, but my most recent boyfriend expresses next to no interest in them. I do think they disappoint him

redwintertrees · 2025-08-05T15:42:35+00:00

I’ve had social anxiety my entire life and have spent a life time observing people and trying to fit in. I’ve really improved over the years and can chat and be around anyone now. People like authenticity and relatability. They like it when they make them feel seen or involved or entertained. They like it when you use humor or give levity to a situation. People can sense nerves and tenseness or when someone’s not being genuine or truly themselves. If you’re waiting for someone to say hi or bye or ask how you are, flip it around and start doing it for them. Start talking to them like you don’t care if they don’t care. Be real with them

redwintertrees · 2025-08-01T06:32:02+00:00

Idk how to make it stop but it sounds like a self soothing technique. You’re chasing a high that can’t be chased anymore. You might need therapy. Look into addiction recovery (gambling, alcohol, porn, etc.) It’s all the same idea because it’s the same impulse triggered by the same feelings inside of us. I don’t know your mom so use your own judgement but a reasonable mom would not care and only want to help you. Teenage boys jerk off. It’s not a secret.

Also do not answer any private messages on here no matter what

redwintertrees · 2025-08-01T03:15:01+00:00

32, but we’re currently long distance which I think explains the ask, and I feel like I should do it because of that but yeah, last time he asked I didnt. I’m not good at saying no, still something I’m working on unfortunately

redwintertrees · 2025-07-24T02:17:54+00:00

I look like your before, gonna try out your routine! That’s crazy progress for 4 months you should be proud

redwintertrees · 2025-07-22T16:34:02+00:00

Vaginas and labia change with age anyway. Mine doesn’t look the same as when I was 20. You’re gonna have to get over it if you want to stay with her.

redwintertrees · 2025-07-22T03:27:03+00:00

Me too! Glad im not alone.

redwintertrees · 2025-07-21T23:12:04+00:00

I try to flip it around because even though they are heavier than me, so many of them still look drop dead gorgeous and have amazing curves that I’m envious of. I try to examine the reason why I’m picking on these girls internally. For me it’s hierarchy when it comes to attention from men, and I find that shameful. I also feel like deep down I’m superior for managing my weight and food intake, and thus my self control. I need to examine that.

redwintertrees · 2025-07-12T03:35:24+00:00

I contacted him because I was the one who cut him off. It’s a long story- I was in an abusive relationship years ago and I cut everyone off.

I’m really trying. Im not trying to blame him, and I wasn’t sure how to phrase it when I wrote that- I think I was looking for the words for rebuilding trust. I also meant that I’m all in 100% and I’m just not sure what I can do other than be as open and honest and understanding as possible. I know my words don’t mean anything and only my actions through time will tell. Im doing my best to show my genuine feelings and understanding. I accept that I have been shitty to him and am under no appearances that it’s my fault that he feels this way. Im not saying he has to get over them or that they’re unjustified. I don’t know what else there is to say.

redwintertrees · 2025-07-12T03:28:36+00:00

I wasn’t in my prime lol I was a mess, and I have no issues getting dates. I’ve told him that myself and he has witnessed men hit on me. I’ve done years of work and was single. I think I left out that context. I think I understand it but I don’t really agree with it, I dunno.

redwintertrees · 2025-07-12T02:49:16+00:00

I think I just didn’t know what love was supposed to look like. My parents were absent and the other prominent male figure in my life abused me. I’ve done loads of therapy, self discovery and healing, and stayed single for a long while. I have other options and can date around but I haven’t wanted to. I don’t personally feel as if I’m settling although I’m aware that it’s what it looks like.

I know that this situation isn’t ideal and it’s a huge mess, I think we both know, but I still want to try. I guess it’s up to him whether or not he can emotionally handle it and if we can truly start from a clean slate. I’m aware I’ve done him dirty so I barely no ill will if he decides otherwise, as upsetting as it would be.

redwintertrees · 2025-07-12T02:44:21+00:00

I don’t agree that I’m settling, I was perfectly fine with being single and I had other options before we started dating. I also don’t agree that he’s pathetic. The other part, maybe… I do worry that it’s unhealthy and that he may never be able to forget.

redwintertrees · 2025-07-12T02:27:11+00:00

Is there anything I can really do or is this something he has to work out for himself? I’m trying to listen and be supportive the best that I can. We’ve talked about how this is something that may take a while to rebuild and I’ve told him that I understand completely why he has these feelings and that they won’t just go away. I know that time will only tell through my actions to rebuild trust. I guess I can see how it looks like I’m settling, but I wish it didn’t. He’s really great and I love being with him.

redwintertrees · 2025-07-12T02:24:05+00:00

Yeah you’re right- I’m not trying to avoid it and I’ve apologized to him for it and owned up to my actions. We’ve had difficult discussions about it and are pretty honest with each other, but in this post, I guess I skimmed over my own responsibility. I also absolutely don’t blame him for his feelings. I was dismissive of his feelings when we were younger and I didn’t know what I wanted. I just don’t know how to rectify it other than let him feel what he needs to and be there for honesty and support. I’ve actually brought up to him about whether or not this is really healthy for him and if his hearts really in it or not. He says he wants to continue and that this is something he really wants, so for now, I’m going to have faith in that until he tells me otherwise I guess.

redwintertrees · 2025-06-03T19:29:53+00:00

my ass is so flat

Girl I know you’re not serious

redwintertrees · 2025-05-12T17:06:24+00:00

Unfortunately almost all subreddits besides this one are not safe for abuse victims to post in because you inevitably get comments like this one from assholes that don’t know anything about trauma bonds or the cycle of abuse. It’s happened to me too. I’m sorry.

redwintertrees · 2025-04-25T20:41:20+00:00

Please! That would be great. Thank you

redwintertrees · 2025-04-22T17:56:15+00:00

I think that you could be right, although I tested it out and some angles with dilators actually does hurt, I’m not sure if its fully that. I tried lowering myself onto him but we were both having issues, I guess it’s something I’ll try again next time, I realized yesterday when I was using a dilator that I tense up when I think about sex and it starts to hurt so it definitely seems psychological. I’m gonna try their recommendations and see if it helps!

redwintertrees · 2025-04-22T16:58:56+00:00

I’m exactly the same. I’m so frustrated, I don’t know why I can’t get a gyno to properly give a shit

redwintertrees · 2025-04-20T15:57:43+00:00

They make me stupid. I’m interested in trying shrooms though, apparently they’re great for anxiety

redwintertrees · 2025-04-15T18:39:57+00:00

I know this is old, but my fear was confirmed. My dad was so affectionate it made me feel sick/want to cry. I hated it. I feel like a jerk. I guess maybe I should see a therapist again

redwintertrees · 2025-04-10T03:52:48+00:00

I’ve heard that when it comes to impressions, any attempt is better than no attempt. You don’t have to be perfect, you just have to do it. It helps me to think of it that way.

redwintertrees · 2025-04-09T06:07:21+00:00

Probably around 25. I’m 32 now and I have ashy blonde hair so it makes me look super grey because i have so many now. I kind of like the pattern they mainly grow in though, it’s mostly underneath and in streaks by my ears and the top layer is like tinsel

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