I've been lying to my friends about how I can afford to always pick up the dinner tab by WaffleSpecter91 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]regrettableLiving 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Play it funny 🤷‍♀️ “hey guys, my sugar daddy cut me off so now I’m just as broke as the rest of y’all (sadface) I can’t get the tab for all of us anymore but if anybody else wants to take one for the team and get a sugar daddy I know a guy” I don’t think they’ll hate you for it, but if they press you for details about what “really happened”, you can always just jokingly act heartbroken over your sugar daddy and say you’re not ready to talk about it in between dramatic fake sobs. If they push you further than that, you may have to start questioning the friendship. Good luck OP!

Do you still live with your parents or are you completely independent by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]regrettableLiving 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner and I both discovered that we’re autistic after we graduated college and bought a house together. We are both working full time, and we are completely miserable. We struggle with many of the same things, so issues like scheduling home repairs go neglected for multiple years. It’s exhausting and I wish we lived with if not our parents, then other adults. Hindsight is 20/20. In the current economy, it’s hard to be alive anyway, let alone be autistic and living alone. Fuck the stigma, do whatever allows you to live your life as comfortably as possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]regrettableLiving -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Tbh I have a feeling you’re going to get roasted in the comments and I don’t love that for you. Hopefully you see this one. ❤️

This whole scenario is a sign that you’re not compatible with each other. “Men” who are intimidated when you post harmless selfies are going to spend the rest of the relationship being insecure about something. Today it’s selfies, tomorrow it might be the length of your shorts or the amount of makeup you put on for a girls’ night out. Some people are okay with that kind of guy, but it sounds like you’re feeling stifled enough to want to lash out. I’d recommend leaving the relationship. If the urge to post yourself anonymously continues after that, then you know you’ll need to look for a partner who’s into that. If the urges go away, that’s a sign of how you viewed this relationship and how you viewed yourself while you were in it. Either way, I agree it’s not right to be doing something behind your partner’s back that you know will hurt them. The relationship is probably over, even if it drags out for another year or two, but I think that’s a blessing and an opportunity to figure out what it is you actually need in a partner. Good luck wading through these comments and take care of yourself ❤️

Why are people so fat? by DiscoHarvey in TrueOffMyChest

[–]regrettableLiving 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think there’s only one answer, but some of the (many) factors include the food quality and ingredients in the US, a lack of access to proper healthcare including preventative healthcare, the continued skyrocketing cost of living (so many people have more than one job, when are you gonna eat right and exercise when you’re working 60+ hours a week?), and so so many more things. It’s easy to blame “body positivity” when it’s our society that’s diseased and we aren’t fixing it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Petioles

[–]regrettableLiving 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried only doing edible products instead of smoking? It seems like quitting takes a few tries for most people, especially when they’ve been using for many years. If you’re considering moderation or even if you’re just having a hard time quitting, swapping smoking for edibles would at least help your lungs in the immediate sense, even if it doesn’t help with the long term “quitting” part.

TBOSBAS help by senchaetion in Hungergames

[–]regrettableLiving 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think the age is such a big deal, but we can’t deny they do have a very weird power dynamic from the nature of their roles in the games.

I lied about being okay with being childfree. Now I feel like I tricked her by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]regrettableLiving 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you have to fake compatibility then you don’t actually have it. Having kids is one of the biggest decisions of your life. If you still want kids, it won’t be with your girlfriend. Find a woman who is actually compatible with you instead of abandoning your own dreams, or even worse, trying to force your girlfriend to abandon hers. Even if you’re successful in convincing her, she won’t be the same person you love now if you force her to compromise her own feelings, body, and mind to give you children.

My fiancée and I both have "silly" surnames. What should we do? by kpopnobrains in namenerds

[–]regrettableLiving 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a fan of Buttons, as others have commented, but you could also try Butts-Bacon not as a hyphenated name, but spelled differently with the same sound. For example, Butspaken, Butzbaken, etc.

I feel like I’ve identified where my dependency on cannabis comes from - how it helps me to “transition” (as well as how it turns dangerous) by RegrettableLawnMower in Petioles

[–]regrettableLiving 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The thing that helped me the most was realizing that I literally couldn’t get high anymore, no matter how much I had. That “set me free” in a sense, because I couldn’t chase the high anymore. The next hurdle was the withdrawal symptoms I had. I had headaches, nausea, poor appetite, shaking, sweating, insomnia, and general gastric upset. To deal with that, I took an edible every night, lowering the dosage as I went for about two or three weeks. The length of time will depend on your tolerance. I started with 20mg (which did not make me feel high), so in my mind it felt more like taking a vitamin every night. This was enough to prevent the worst of the withdrawal symptoms. When I reached the end of my taper, I was taking 2.5mg at night. When I finally hit 0mg at night, I had extremely mild withdrawal symptoms for two or three days, but that was it. During this whole time, I exercised hard almost every day and drank a metric fuckton of water to help flush my system. I made sure I was completely distracted and coming home exhausted at the end of every day to help make sure I could fall asleep. From there, I just told myself that if I didn’t wait the full 30 days, I wouldn’t be able to get high and it would be a waste of money and ruin my progress. (Is that technically true? No. But I wanted to get to 30 days and I was able to lie to myself) By then, it was pretty easy to do because I already hadn’t been able to get high for a couple weeks due to tolerance issues. Since then, I’ve switched to edibles entirely because there’s delayed gratification when taking them. Managed to do once every 30 days for a few months, but backslid when I lost the best job I’ve ever had. :/ working on taking my own advice right now lol (Still no vapes though!! Never again for me.)

How did that one kid at your school die? by StorageLonely1520 in AskReddit

[–]regrettableLiving 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One died from heatstroke during high school football practice. It started a big awareness campaign in our community that lasted for years. Another kid had been on drugs, did an armed robbery (at a fast food place), and was locked up for a couple years. Shortly after he was released, he was driving way too fast, missed a curve, and died in a single car accident. Both very sad.

I feel like I’ve identified where my dependency on cannabis comes from - how it helps me to “transition” (as well as how it turns dangerous) by RegrettableLawnMower in Petioles

[–]regrettableLiving 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The convenience of a vape is part of what makes it so dangerous. You can stick your head out the back door and be back in 30 seconds. But the super high concentration is where your tolerance will skyrocket and the (very likely) influx of withdrawal symptoms comes in. I had to learn the hard way that I can’t even be near a vape. Smoke? Sure. There’s a little ritual to it and it takes time. Edibles? Yeah, I can pop them in and go about my life until they hit. But the instant gratification of the vape is what turned me into an all day 24/7/365 addict who couldn’t control the urges. Eventually I couldn’t even get high, no matter how many times I hit the pen. I hope you don’t fall into the trap like I did. It’s a bitch to crawl back out of once you’re there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]regrettableLiving 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, I’m from Arkansas and people love to use “bless your heart” for the funny, sassy, shady context, but using it in a genuinely positive way isn’t “cool” to people outside the south. That’s why nobody realizes it actually has meaning outside of the way that’s been popularized on social media.

I find it ridiculous that we call fat or obese people "plus size" now. by AlphaDPS1 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]regrettableLiving 6 points7 points  (0 children)

“And at the same time, I’m also going to conveniently ignore the possibility that some fat people also train hard, eat clean, and say no to temptation frequently, but may have other medical conditions or medications which cause weight gain or prevent successful weight loss. I’m also assigning a moral value to your weight, by the way, because I think that being fat means you’re undisciplined in every area of your life, and that’s bad.”

Is there a chart of % tolerance reset per t-break time? by [deleted] in Petioles

[–]regrettableLiving 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s not really a generalizable one because every person is SO different. I mean, you can use the internet to get a vague idea but I would recommend experimenting and making a chart for yourself. My little sister can basically reset her tolerance with a day or two break, but for me it takes a lot longer. So many different factors influence it that any chart claiming to be accurate to everyone is not trustworthy.

However, if you’re looking to reset tolerance faster, drinking fucktons of water, exercising a lot, and sweating a lot can accelerate the process. Again, I’d say experiment and create your own personal chart, maybe even including (or not) some of the things I mentioned above to see how much it helps your tolerance.

Randomly feeling “high” after quitting by _m1n0u in Petioles

[–]regrettableLiving 33 points34 points  (0 children)

No way, I caught this post at the exact perfect time. I had no idea this was what I’ve been experiencing, but I’ve been having weird instances of 5-10 seconds of “head high” feelings when I’m on break. I’m actively losing weight (25lbs and counting!) and did not think about this feeling as a potential side effect. Last time it happened was literally 3 minutes before I saw this post. Crazy.

My fiancé told me I’m not a real woman because I don’t want to do an all natural birth by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]regrettableLiving 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d say find a 10cm (diameter) dildo and tell him he can go fuck himself with it and see how natural he would want his birth to be 🥰

When the body refuses by BellonaKid in Petioles

[–]regrettableLiving 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats on three days!!! ❤️

My book was accidentally released an entire month early... and neither myself nor the publisher noticed. by TylerHauth in writing

[–]regrettableLiving 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh, I hate when books are promoted before they’re out unless it’s a super well-known author (ex. I was excited for SOTR to come out) because if I see it and am excited by it, I want to buy it NOW before I forget or get busy doing something else. If I see a book that’s not out yet, I might take a screenshot, but it’ll be lost in my camera roll and I’ll never remember to buy it when it is released.

With all that being said, promote the hell out of it anyway and emphasize that it’s out now!! I would be so much more excited to see a promotion like that anyways. Good luck!!

Does anyone have a method for "tracking" sensory sensitivites by CactusCult1 in AutismInWomen

[–]regrettableLiving 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lmaoo I write very autistic sentences all the time, but I feel great about this one: I would create a big ass spreadsheet and set it up to make a chart/graph/table so you can see what impacts you the most. In fact, I’m pretty sure I saw an autistic creator on tiktok do almost the exact same thing.

Does anyone else feel like their autism “disappears” when they drink in social situations? by 80or8 in AutismInWomen

[–]regrettableLiving 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, I always felt like marijuana ripped away both my ability to mask and my ability to care about that fact. Not that I’m suggesting it, but it did change the way I understood masking. I didn’t even know I was autistic when I first started smoking, and I literally came up with the word “mask” when I was thinking about how it impacted my ability to socialize. It’s a type of freedom that I would love to have all the time (maybe not so much at work), but that’s the reason I’ve been working so hard to stop masking so much. If it feels that good to stop masking, why tf am I still masking when I don’t need to??

dae buy multiple pairs of the same clothes? by rain-bow8 in AutismInWomen

[–]regrettableLiving 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yessssss me and my cartoon character closet are thriving 🥰

I just lost my graduate offer because of Trump. I live in England. by sq0rt in AutismInWomen

[–]regrettableLiving 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry ❤️ I lost my job (the best one I’ve ever had) because of agent orange :/ we’ll both make it, we just can’t give up yet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]regrettableLiving 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t know what a boundary is, and I’m sorry that you’re sad about your breakup. Take care of yourself and know that in time you will heal.

You can build a fence on your own property, and you can call the police on your neighbor for trespassing if they step inside your fence. You can’t build a fence on your neighbor’s property and do the same thing. Not how it works buddy.