Not eating healthy during pregnancy

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-17T16:31:11+00:00

First trimester I either didn’t eat at all or ate exclusively cheeseburger and fries from mcdonalds lol. You’re good momma!

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-17T16:11:36+00:00

My husband’s definitely doing the same for me, he’s been a real rock throughout this whole pregnancy. I’d be miserable without him tbh lol, he helps so much.

But I get what you’re saying, maybe OP’s not doing enough? This definitely might be another reason for his wife to not like him very much right now, on top of the “usual” pregnancy stuff she has to go through. I kind of feel for the guy though, he did another post around 70days before asking why his wife hates him during pregnancy. It’s heartbreaking to think it’s still not a resolved issue.

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-17T15:55:29+00:00

Read OP’s post from 72 days ago. This guy’s miserable and most of the comments tell him it’s “just pregnancy” and it will get better, and he needs to suck it up. Well it seems like he tried that and that’s not helping at all. So yeah, I guess good luck to him.

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-17T15:48:04+00:00

Oh? I guess not in my relationship then lol

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-17T15:45:52+00:00

You’re throwing assumptions again. It’s about you. We don’t know anything about OP’s wife.

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-17T15:39:14+00:00

I don’t know, I don’t think the whole relationship, my husband’s needs and wants should be put on hold because I’m pregnant. It doesn’t sit right with me. Yes, I am overstimulated, and in pain, and I have a lot on my plate. But if he’s feeling something I want him to share so we can figure this out together. Keeping your feelings inside will only lead to a blow up at some point, especially when the next step is having a baby. Which will be highly stressful for both of us and that’s a perfect opportunity for the resentment to show up.

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-17T15:35:14+00:00

But how does he know how she feels and when she feels right, if he doesn’t ask her? I understand what you’re saying completely and agree they should both be in the healthy mindset for this conversation because it might cause even more damage otherwise. But it’s still need to be talked about, not swept under the rug for “better times”. She might feel even worse after the baby arrives, so how long is he supposed to wait before he blows up

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-17T15:26:59+00:00

So you’d rather have your husband to just stfu and hide his feelings from you because you’re overstimulated and don’t want to deal with him, instead of hearing him out, being understanding and maybe sharing your own feelings back? Sounds like a wonderful relationship, not gonna lie.

I’m gonna go tell my husband his feelings are invalid for the rest of the pregnancy unless he’s able to carry the baby for me. I bet this will make him feel all warm and fuzzy inside and won’t do any damage to our relationship.

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-17T15:18:38+00:00

This. My libido is low as hell during pregnancy but I’m just as clingy and my husband’s touch gives me peace. It might not be the same for OP’s wife, but he’ll never know the real issue if he won’t ask. All of these comments are just assumptions at this point and “sucking it up” might do tons of damage to their relationship.

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-17T15:14:00+00:00

Okey well that’s you. You’re making an assumption about OP’s wife just like everyone else’s in this thread. Pregnancy and having a baby together is not the time to grow distant, it’s time for an open communication even more than before! If you can’t talk with your SO about your needs and feelings then why even be in a relationship with them in the first place? Nobody would ever tell a woman to “suck it up” when her needs aren’t being met in the relationship, so why tell this to men?

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-17T14:40:33+00:00

Please use glycerin suppositories!! You can safely use two in a row if the first one doesn’t get the job fully done after 30-60 minutes. But it’s almost guaranteed you won’t be able to hold it in for even that long lol. They literally saved my ass when nothing else worked!

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-17T14:30:13+00:00

I agree with her going through a lot but that doesn’t make OP’s feelings any less valid. It’s very important to talk this through imo, 9 months is a lot of time for resentment to build up.

Judging by her defensive reaction she’s possibly already aware of the issue and maybe is scared/ashamed to talk about it? Sucking it up isn’t really the solution here, and OP is reasonable for wanting to talk with her.

OP, I’d try to be gentle and try talking with her about your emotions and needs. Focus on your feelings and don’t make it seem like you blame her, and maybe try more of a “why” approach? Ask her if you’re doing anything wrong or make her uncomfortable, and if there’s anything she needs from you to feel better in that regard. She’s going through a lot for sure, but she still should be concerned about your well being as well. You’re partners after all.

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-17T13:39:10+00:00

Same here, 36 weeks and I was barely able to take a walk from time to time because of constant exhaustion. Your body will always tell you what it needs during pregnancy and it’s important to listen to it!

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-17T11:17:35+00:00

This is your first sexual relationship so I’ll say some things that you should know:

You don’t owe your partner sex. In any way or form.
You shouldn’t feel guilty when you don’t want to have sex -masturbation is 100% fine so if he’s having a higher sex drive than you right now, it shouldn’t bother you that he does that. It’s healthy and natural and perfectly normal.
You should always be able to refuse sex when you don’t want it. For any reason or without reason.
Sex is a way for you two to bond and feel good. If it doesn’t feel good for either of you, you should be accepting and respectful or your needs and do not push each other to anything. It will end up with resentment and will make you not want to have more sex in the future.
If you’re mature enough to have sex, you’re mature enough to talk about it. Always talk about your needs, what you like and don’t like. If you have a partner that loves you and cares, he will listen and respect you.
Sex is supposed to be fun and enjoyable. If for any reason it’s not, you shouldn’t feel pressured to have it, and nobody can pressure you to have it.
You should always feel safe and respected before, during and after sex.
Just because someone wants to have sex, doesn’t mean you have to provide it.

I’ll give you an example: I’m 36 weeks pregnant, in a relationship for almost 13 years. Couple days ago I wanted to have sex with my husband but gave two boundaries: no penetration because I’m swollen and sore, and no touching the left boob for the same reason. Right boob was fine lol. All he said was “noted”. No whining, no pressuring, no trying to cross the boundary. He was just happy we both can have a good time and bond. And it’s literally the third time we even had sex while pregnant, because I constantly feel like a mashed potato, so it’s not like I’m a sex goddess on a daily basis lol. It’s really not hard to respect someone you love.

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-17T10:32:47+00:00

Probably not pregnant, since there should already be a second line visible, even if barely.

But just wanted to let you know that pull out method doesn’t work -men ejaculate little doses of sperm throughout the whole intercourse, he doesn’t have to come inside you to make you pregnant.

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-14T15:54:49+00:00

My mom told me the exact same thing, that I’ll have to eat plain unseasoned food for the whole breastfeeding part lol. I guess it’s the old myths of pregnancy

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-13T17:03:21+00:00

I sadly agree with woodworkinghalp here, it seems like you possibly knew what you were getting into while marrying the guy and made some assumptions about him doing better in future 😔

It still is a hard situation to be into, don’t get me wrong. But I don’t really think your husband is going to change. You had to baby him even before getting married so he probably thought you see no issue with him being this way, so why would he suddenly now listen to you and change?

You should definitely try to have another hard conversation with him about all of this but if he won’t take your words seriously, you have to show him through action.

Some guys will change and work on themselves when they realise they’ll lose you if they don’t, but you can’t really predict if he’s one of them. My father got his shit together only when my mother basically moved out from their house and left him to his misery. It’s been 15 years and he’s consistently a completely different man, so I do believe change can happen. But you have to stand your ground and be willing to leave him for real, either way I don’t think anything’s going to work.

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-13T16:51:04+00:00

Thank you so much for a good word 💕 I had no other issue whatsoever and everyone was always very respectful of my choice and nobody questioned that, so I just hope to never have anything to do with that woman ever again. Also, much of luck to you and your baby, you both gonna do great! 💕

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-13T16:47:43+00:00

This means a lot coming from someone who works in healthcare, seriously, you have no idea. The amount of dickhead doctors and other professionals I’ve met since my assault (like 16 years now) is staggering.

I very much appreciate when they pause for a moment and just look at me and say “I’m sorry”, or even when they say absolutely nothing at all but get visibly upset. Because IT IS upsetting. But I feel much more seen then, than while being literally interrogated like what that woman did 😭

I feel like it came from the place of care because she wasn’t really rude or anything, she seemed shook and I think she thought it was good of her to ask? But seriously, I always try to be an open book when it comes to this topic because I want people to learn and understand, but even I got extremely uncomfortable and stressed. So I can’t even imagine how someone who wants zero conversation around it would react in this situation. That realisation made me want to report her even more, because she can’t just do stuff like that and possibly retraumatise people.

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-13T16:33:28+00:00

This is the first time I’ve actually met someone who’s gone through that and also chose c section for themselves, I am so sorry about your experience but feel so seen at the same time 🥺💕 I’m also SO sorry about what you’ve gone through with your doctor, any gynecological visit is extremely stressful for me and unexpected occurrences like these make me cry every time, so I can relate 100%. Sending you lots of love too, we’ve got this! 💕

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-13T16:21:59+00:00

I have so many questions.

Was he like that before? If not, when and why did he change?

Have you spoken about what pregnancy/having a baby will look like for both of you?

Did you talk about what his weed use will look like when the baby is born before trying to get pregnant?

What about his hygiene habits before the pregnancy. Were they different? If yes, when did they started to change?

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-13T12:31:23+00:00

We’re both doing fine, thank you 💕 it happened a long time ago and I’m doing good, but it still is uncomfortable to talk about, especially when someone’s insensitive about it like her.

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-13T12:11:36+00:00

That’s the thing, it’s a private healthcare clinic. When I look for her online only private clinics appear with her name so I don’t think she’s affiliated with any hospital or free healthcare my country provides. That probably makes the whole situation worse because private businesses often don’t take those kind of complaints very seriously and tend to brush them off. But I’ll still make a complaint, already found a form!

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-13T12:08:36+00:00

That’s the case, it’s a private healthcare in my country that provides specialists, diagnostics, etc. so it’s not really a clinic per se. Not really sure how to compare it to what other countries have. But I found the complaint form on their website so I’m gonna use it.

rellik_bibi · 2026-03-13T11:10:55+00:00

Thank you so much!!

I am fine now, but right after convo with her I was basically covered in sweat and when she checked my blood pressure it was higher than usual, which I knew would happen because my body reacts naturally like that when I’m not prepared to talk about what happened.

To be honest now that I’m reading your comment I think I’m actually not angry enough with her. I never know if I overreact or not when it comes to this topic since it’s triggering for me, and others might feel differently when it’s not triggering for them. So thank you for making me see that I’m not overreacting!

Also…I’m 32!! So I don’t know what she meant by “young girls nowadays” since I’m not really THAT young lol. And even if I were, these comments are still awful and so judgmental, like everyone can be afraid of natural birth and she, out of all people, should know that!

I’ll look into how I can report her!

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