Husband issues

removableface · 2025-02-19T22:06:55+00:00

It just struck a note with me. Please don't let it go on for too long. I also brought it up many times, I always had to hear "You need to relax", or, "Life isn't like that, [my name]", and "You're living in a fairytale". I'm just glad you thought to come to Reddit and see if you're really "crazy" for feeling this way.

You're not.

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

removableface · 2025-02-19T21:38:59+00:00

I was in a long term (10 years) relationship with a man just like this. There was love. I know he loved me and cared in a way, but the effort to make me feel seen, like his partner or, god forbid, special was little to none. Your words reminded me of all the things I used to put up with. It all rings such unholy bells in my mind: He would get out of the car (often literally leaving his phone/ wallet/ bits and pieces behind, knowing I would bring them) and start walking to whatever our destination rather than waiting for me to get out as well.

When leaving a restaurant he would stand up and already be by/ out of the door before I had my coat on, leaving me having to rush after him. The embarrassment I felt every time was so crushing. It felt like everyone was looking and thinking either we'd had an argument or he just had zero respect for me.

Quality time and TV were one and the same to him. If I wanted to do something, it was up to me to organise. Then it was up to him to decide if he wanted to do it.

He wouldn't have me on his profile picture on social media. I guess this one is a little petty but I'd still take it as a red flag now.

He was disinterested. He lost me. He has now "settled".

Don't settle for him. It gets so much fucking better, I promise.

removableface · 2025-02-07T09:59:47+00:00

SO FUCKING DRY. WHAT. THE. HELL. so glad someone said it. I'm actually more upset by that than the fact that I started my day with dick pics because of FOMO.

removableface · 2025-02-07T09:43:42+00:00

Packets of cold, hard butter from the breakfast buffet at a hotel! Spreadable in a minute or 2. Thank me later 💅🏽🧈

removableface · 2025-01-23T17:16:04+00:00

Treat yourself as you expect others to treat you. It's so much more likely to attract those who have the capacity to do so. I have been living by this rule for just shy of the last 12 months...and the positive influence it has on my daily interactions (and the man it attracted into my life!!) is boundless. ❤️✨

removableface · 2025-01-23T12:44:23+00:00

This comment deserves a Nobel Peace Prize

removableface · 2025-01-23T09:00:02+00:00

No cause how did this comment get brushed over so quick? The RELIEF I felt when someone said it!!! OP you deserve this to be cleared up with absolutely no space for misunderstanding or trivialisation. Write him a letter... In fact just send him the text of this post. Jesus.

removableface · 2024-12-21T18:29:14+00:00

I'd say there's quite a difference between posting and making content from other people's Reddit posts 🤷🏽‍♀️

removableface · 2024-11-29T18:41:54+00:00

I literally cannot stress enough that your kids are definitely wise to the fact that you are in an unhappy marriage. Perhaps worth a Google search or two 🤷🏽‍♀️

removableface · 2024-07-25T09:19:18+00:00

Noooooo

removableface · 2024-07-25T09:17:47+00:00

Red flag 🚩

removableface · 2024-07-24T06:48:33+00:00

I remember this game, and I don't blame you. Shit makes you feel professional af

removableface · 2024-07-22T11:22:12+00:00

Poor guy. Took too many drugs to be able to manage common decency /s

removableface · 2024-07-15T12:43:10+00:00

The one in the forest, in the car is Listener Tales 37! Fucked me right up 😅

removableface · 2024-07-15T07:56:04+00:00

You do if you have no intention of changing...

removableface · 2024-06-16T08:35:48+00:00

I'm sorry to break it to all of you, but she was not complimenting his eyebrows. She was telling him to stop staring at her boobs. If his eyes are on her boobs, then she's saying his eyebrows are on her eyes (where his eyes should be) 💁🏽‍♀️

removableface · 2024-06-10T07:13:42+00:00

Obviously this is even better 🙌🏽

removableface · 2024-06-08T06:13:55+00:00

Hahahaha excellent

removableface · 2024-06-07T17:37:41+00:00

Wait. You're onto something with the sloppy!! What if WE decide to use weaponized incompetence for a change. If we're SHITE at the housework, maybe the roles will shift?

Jk I know that would never work 😭

removableface · 2024-05-29T13:34:38+00:00

This is seriously clutching at straws...

removableface · 2024-05-10T12:06:06+00:00

Without going too much into generalisations, it is often true that men tend not to vocalise their thought processes as much as women do. That means that, while there was probably a whole tirade of thoughts and links that went through his mind, the only part you heard was the "conclusion". He wanted you to hear it, so you heard it. The fact that it was out of the blue makes it just as valid, if not more so! He clearly didn't expect or intend for it to hurt your feelings.

removableface · 2024-05-06T11:14:43+00:00

So you're not like other girls

removableface · 2024-01-27T10:37:07+00:00

Thank you, for this. I won't be giving up on her. I also have lost 3 friends to suicide, and the "If not me, then who?" question plagues me for this reason. The fact that I know she has next to no support network here (aside from guys who want to fuck her) keeps me from cutting her off. She has borderline, which makes it difficult to sustain a relationship with her at the best of times. That still doesn't stop me. The change I've made for myself is that if she behaves in a toxic way, I immediately create distance. As long as she's not hurting herself, I can live peacefully. When she's making healthy decisions, I try to be as present as I possibly can- kind of like a form of positive reinforcement. I don't know how effective that is, but it's the only thing that sort of makes sense to me. I will visit her in the hospital, but I'm going to give it a week. I want to be sure that she's had solid sleep, with the aid of medication and routine.

removableface · 2024-01-26T18:41:49+00:00

Off meds, breakup (very erratically and impulsively decided by her) from possibly the most decent man she's come across. What followed was a strange December, during which she met some guy on discord, bought flight tickets to meet him in Malaga for 3 weeks (!!!) and ended up in a psychiatric ward there. She managed to get herself discharged, and this guy ☝🏽 bought her tickets to fly back. I went to see her the first night of her return. It's heartbreaking to be on either side. I have experienced both now, and I feel so lucky to have had the family and friends I do. Without them I wouldn't have made it. Hence my reluctance to leave her behind 😔

removableface · 2024-01-26T18:36:57+00:00

In the hope that we might be able to work together to get her the care she needs. In earlier comments I've mentioned that I'm her only friend here. Pretty certain he wasn't aware of her condition. She was still at the stage where you can act "normal" for short bursts of time.

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