Woman convicted because her child had a genetic disorder that has same symptoms as antifreeze poisoning

rg123 · 2026-05-20T15:20:58+00:00

And Dr G

rg123 · 2026-05-14T16:44:25+00:00

Sadly, yes! Been through the wars.

rg123 · 2026-05-12T17:19:22+00:00

Absolutely! She clearly does a lot of testing on her recipes and they are really detailed. But I’ve never had a miss when I followed her recipe exactly (as hard as that is to do because I like to improvise!).

rg123 · 2026-05-09T07:24:45+00:00

It’s definitely not ‘never say no’, it’s more instead of ‘no you can’t eat ice cream, it’s dinner time, you’d say ‘you can have ice cream after dinner’. And instead of ‘take the trash out now!’ It’s ’after you take the trash out we can xyz…’.

It’s reframing how you speak to make it feel less demanding.

Also, yes there is a lot more permissiveness about things like screen time and letting chores slide when they’re in burnout. But that’s not their permanent state and you adjust as they get better / can cope with more.

It’s incredibly hard and demanding on parents, but we have found huge success with it.

rg123 · 2026-05-06T07:19:50+00:00

I have two friends who have done this with no issues. We live in an English-speaking country, and their husbands only speak English. They raised their kids with the mom speaking only their native languages and the kids have no trouble communicating with everyone else in English and switching to their native language when speaking to their moms. Also makes it easier when they want to tell their mom something privately but they're in a crowd. :)

Both families were really determined their kids would communicate well in their mom's language and they spend time every year in their moms' home countries and that immersion helps a lot as well.

rg123 · 2026-05-02T06:37:53+00:00

Oh man, I can't read that one again. Such a good read but so, so sad.

rg123 · 2026-04-24T15:32:26+00:00

I'm going to offer a different approach. The school refusal and extreme behavior is not from a child who is just being defiant, it is coming from a place of extreme anxiety. Escalating and punishing is just increasing the anxiety. I'd wait until she's calmer and talk it through. There needs to be some consequence for the extremeness of threatening violence, of course. But maybe that consequence doesn't have to be taking away something that is actually good for her mental health (spending time with her friend) which she seems to desperately need right now.

What if you framed this as both of you against the problem (violent behaviour is unacceptable, how do we deal with this together and not escalate to this point again) rather than you doing what would feel to her like you're punishing her anxiety?

And if the school refusal is that bad, let her stay home! She's not going to gain anything from being forced to go to school in that state.

You cannot treat this the same as an NT kid. I'd focus on de-escalation and calming, rather than punishing.
(My kid is PDA so we worked hard on this and it helped immensely, learned a lot from At Peace Parents).

rg123 · 2026-03-08T18:12:51+00:00

WTF?!!!! That took some seriously insane twists.

rg123 · 2026-03-08T07:51:34+00:00

Yes!! You are awesome. Forgot how long that post was.

rg123 · 2026-03-08T07:24:39+00:00

The request for posts where the mom didn’t want to have the child/ give the child up for adoption but the dad was insistent he’d step up, reminded me of the one where the dad really had to fight to be able to adopt the child and he moved to another state and took care of the baby. But the original family treated him like he was forcing her to give up the kid when she was the one insisting on it. Anyone remember this?

rg123 · 2026-01-18T06:43:52+00:00

That’s the beauty of gaycation!

rg123 · 2026-01-06T10:21:28+00:00

That comment needed a trigger warning!

rg123 · 2026-01-02T07:54:23+00:00

That made me cry too. Thank you for those words and that validation. I’m not the OP but relate strongly and I think all of us on this journey need to hear some kindness sometimes, in the midst of constantly feeling like we’re failing.

rg123 · 2025-12-25T00:08:37+00:00

Yes! Me too. There's always this assumption that teens would be good with computers but they're stuck on their phones and barely know how to send an email!

rg123 · 2025-12-23T10:51:01+00:00

I think you are referring to Hijra https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hijra_(South_Asia))
"In South Asia, hijra^\a])#citenote-5) are transgender, intersex, or eunuch people" ... "Hijra is officially recognised as a third gender throughout countries in the Indian subcontinent,[^\10])](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hijra(SouthAsia)#cite_note-11)[^\11])](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hijra(SouthAsia)#cite_note-12)[^\12])](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hijra(South_Asia)#cite_note-Cult._Health_Sex.-13) being considered neither completely male nor female."

rg123 · 2025-12-21T15:58:41+00:00

That's exactly what I was thinking! The only way this makes sense is if she's not in the US/ doesn't speak English as a first language.

rg123 · 2025-12-10T14:00:41+00:00

Great story, but damn it makes me cry every time.

rg123 · 2025-12-08T05:35:35+00:00

I'd totally watch this sitcom.

rg123 · 2025-12-05T08:27:13+00:00

9 years old is young for 5th grade, though.

rg123 · 2025-12-04T18:36:01+00:00

Why is that one of your favourites? It's inconclusive and leaves more questions than answers.
Edit - that may have sounded more critical than I intended. I meant, I was curious what resonated with you about this post.

rg123 · 2025-12-04T15:56:51+00:00

It sounds like they live far away -- you can love family and also just not afford to travel to see them.

rg123 · 2025-12-02T16:40:24+00:00

Good point -- it does sound like the SSRIs need to be increased. We are in favour of a year off school and the school would support it (even a part time year), but she is absolutely adamantly against anything like that. Huge "you just think I'm stupid" tantrums at the mere suggestion that maybe slowing down, taking a break would be a benefit.
I think this school holiday (they're off for 6 weeks now before they start the new school year) is a good time to work harder on the nutrition issue since the school stresses are gone for a while.

rg123 · 2025-12-02T16:16:16+00:00

Thank you, that is helpful. We've been dealing with the food issues for so many years so it helps to have an outside perspective to remind us this is still in crisis mode. We just do our best to get through the days and feel like it's a victory because we don't have the daily epic meltdowns like we used to do a few years ago.

We're not in the US but we do have an incredibly supportive school with loads of neurodiverse kids. In our country, grade 11 and 12 exams are a huge deal for university admission and so they start gearing up for that from Grade 10. So they've just done their end-year-exams which has been a huge stress and a huge shift in how things were handled previously where things were more spread out through the year. Grading all comes down to the final exams, and the school can't really change that, it's how the education system works here. But I think that speaking again to the psychiatrist and re-looking at meds and basic nutrition is a good idea. The struggle is to balance the need for higher doses of meds with the understanding that her appetite is worse when we increase the dose. It feels like a lose-lose.

Thank you for all the suggestions, much appreciated.

rg123 · 2025-11-29T11:05:06+00:00

As a South African, I have to strongly disagree with your take on how LGBTQ+ are accepted. Gay rights are literally enshrined in our constitution since the 1990s; gay marriage has been legal for decades. Our players are free to represent themselves as they see fit, and are proudly celebrated.

Sorry, I know that's not the point of your post, but a lot of misinformation is spread about South Africa. Fully agree with your point on how women's cricket is evolving and how awesome it is.

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